Parenting Question: Sexuality

[Blaxican8504]

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No that isn't what I was saying that simply telling them it is wrong WILL prevent it, it doesn't work with anything else with kids I definitely wouldn't think it would work then. Let me try to clear it up.

I was simply asking if a person WOULD tell their child it WAS WRONG in HOPES of them not going down that path.

The emphasis is telling them it is wrong not them obeying your word.

Hope that cleared it up

Then no.

But I still think you are contradicting yourself though. It still implies that the child has the choice of going down one path or the other, but is choosing one simply because his parents told him the other was wrong.

Edit: And your most recent post just adds to my point.

[dave374]

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Homosexuality is not a lifestyle choice any more than heterosexuality.

IMO, the best thing you can do as a parent is be supportive.

Your kid is gonna go through a very difficult life ... the least you can do is be a good parent.

[SPTO]

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I wouldn't even begin to have that conversation. What I would do is go with the whole "birds and the bees" talk at age 13 and if my son were to come up to me and ask about homosexuality i'd tell him what I feel but I definitely wouldn't stop him from making his choice in that vein.

[DC]

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I already said I don't believe it is genetic Blaxican8504. I don't see where the contradiction lies. Can you explain to me where it happened?

I just simply said I don't want it to be a DISCUSSION on genetic vs social. Me saying that I feel it isn't genetic might have prompted a genetic vs social discussion. So maybe that is where you were seeing the contradiction. If so I apologize.

[RAZRr1275]

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Yes, I would but thats just me.

Same here. I think that it isn't genetic and I would try to persuade my child against it.

[Blaxican8504]

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I already said I don't believe it is genetic Blaxican8504. I don't see where the contradiction lies. Can you explain to me where it happened?

I just simply said I don't want it to be a DISCUSSION on genetic vs social. Me saying that I feel it isn't genetic might have prompted a genetic vs social discussion. So maybe that is where you were seeing the contradiction. If so I apologize.

Yeah, I just read the post you made before the last one and saw that. Now that I understand your position, there is no contradiction.

[bsb13]

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To be honest, I really dont think I would have to discuss it with my kids because if they are around me enough, they will eventually catch on to what I think about it.

[frostbyte06]

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Same here. I think that it isn't genetic and I would try to persuade my child against it.

Ditto

[Herbsinator]

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For my son, I wouldn't try to tell him anything to prevent it, because I just don't think it is wrong or anything to be ashamed about if that is the way you are. It would be like telling a kid with brown hair that he should die it blonde because brown hair is "wrong."

[The GIGGAS]

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I don't think it's wrong... so I won't tell them to be one or the other. Depending on what you believe, it's either genetically based, or chosen...

Whatever is, is. I would like to have a heterosexual boy so I can have grandchildren that hold onto my family name, but I'm not going to take away happiness from the children I have.

[Pappy Knuckles]

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Homosexuality seems like an epidemic. I find it hard to believe that so many people have those tendencies naturally. I think a lot of it has to do with how society has slowly accepted the lifestyle over the past several decades.I'm not saying that people don't have real feelings for their same sex partner, I just believe that most of them are not 100% homosexual either. When I found out one of my family members was gay it was definitely kind of hard to accept. If I had a son I'd tell him that I didn't agree with it. At the end of the day though, everybody has to live their own life.

[fistofrage]

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Homosexuality seems like an epidemic. I find it hard to believe that so many people have those tendencies naturally. I think a lot of it has to do with how society has slowly accepted the lifestyle over the past several decades.I'm not saying that people don't have real feelings for their same sex partner, I just believe that most of them are not 100% homosexual either. When I found out one of my family members was gay it was definitely kind of hard to accept. If I had a son I'd tell him that I didn't agree with it. At the end of the day though, everybody has to live their own life.

Here's my point. Alot of girls go around "experimenting" with other girls. It seems to be accepted, even condoned. 70% of these chicks are probably going to end up married to a man and have a family and be happy. I don't think thats genetic when a chick kisses(and does a little more) with another chick. So I am sure there are some guys out there that fall in this same category. If my kid just wanted to "experiment" I would hope I could disuade him from that.

[The C]

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DC is trying to prevent the inevitable future thread in which he informs us all that he's a real man because he refuses to carry his son's purse.

Here's my point. Alot of girls go around "experimenting" with other girls. It seems to be accepted, even condoned. 70% of these chicks are probably going to end up married to a man and have a family and be happy. I don't think thats genetic when a chick kisses(and does a little more) with another chick. So I am sure there are some guys out there that fall in this same category. If my kid just wanted to "experiment" I would hope I could disuade him from that.

Anyways, if that makes them happy good for them. As long as they aren't a creepy furry then I am cool

[J.R. Locke]

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I wouldn't ever tell my child that it is wrong in hopes to steer them. I would tell them if they were homosexual to speak out and be proud of it because there are many kids in similar situations that live in fear and garner strength from someone being proud about it.

To say whether homosexuality is a choice is simplistic. Homosexual acts can obviously be of choice. When a group of males sodomize a young male in the back of the baseball bus that isn't some ingrained aggressive homosexuality it is a choice.

Real discussion on sexuality and power is the real issue when it comes to homosexuality. That is something our society struggles to deal with.

[MC Fatigue]

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Let try to keep this mature please. MODS if it gets out of hand I know you will handle it, but give it a chance first please

Especially for those that have/will have/plan to have BOYS; will you discuss homosexuality BEFOREhand in efforts to prevent it from happening?

Will you tell them that it is wrong in efforts to prevent it from happening? I am not saying it is wrong, I am asking if you would TELL them that hoping they wouldn't do it. Much like parents lie to their kids to get them NOT to do/try certain things.

I just want to know how to even go about having this discussion with a child

And Also lets not use the "I will love them regardless" - line because thats not what I am asking. I am not asking what would you do IF, I am asking will you TRY to prevent it from happening.

And lets try not to turn this into a born with it vs picked it up from society discussion.

No. Telling them it's wrong would be wrong in itself.

People are what they are, and I'm not going to try to change what they feel. Other than them having a harder time in life in some aspects (mostly teasing and people discriminating against them), why should I care if my child is gay?

I have a 5 month old daughter, and I can tell you right now that if she brings a girl over at 17 and tells me it's her girlfriend, I'll welcome her into our home just as I would anyone else.

I can also tell you that when she learns about these people who date other people of the same sex, I'll be honest and tell her that it's a perfectly natural thing, and that it doesn't matter if the person they love is of the same gender or the opposite.