Parenting Question: Sexuality

[DC]

Let try to keep this mature please. MODS if it gets out of hand I know you will handle it, but give it a chance first please

Especially for those that have/will have/plan to have BOYS; will you discuss homosexuality BEFOREhand in efforts to prevent it from happening?

Will you tell them that it is wrong in efforts to prevent it from happening? I am not saying it is wrong, I am asking if you would TELL them that hoping they wouldn't do it. Much like parents lie to their kids to get them NOT to do/try certain things.

I just want to know how to even go about having this discussion with a child

And Also lets not use the "I will love them regardless" - line because thats not what I am asking. I am not asking what would you do IF, I am asking will you TRY to prevent it from happening.

And lets try not to turn this into a born with it vs picked it up from society discussion.

[Brandon13]

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I wouldn't try to prevent it from happening because I believe heterosexuality/homosexuality is not a choice.

[bkrich83]

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I wouldn't try to prevent it from happening because I believe heterosexuality/homosexuality is not a choice.

Ditto. This thread is stupid.

[mgoblue]

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I wouldn't try to prevent it from happening because I believe heterosexuality/homosexuality is not a choice.

Ditto. This thread is stupid.

Done in two...I agree with these two posts.

[Blaxican8504]

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I think you are contradicting yourself.

You don't want to turn it into us discussing whether we believe people are born homosexual or whether we think it's a choice they make, but you think that simply telling them it is wrong will prevent them from being gay.

If someone believes that people are born homosexual, no amount of talking about it with the child will prevent it from happening. I think it will only add to the identity crisis and struggle that he goes through (if he is homosexual) as he grows up knowing that his parents think there is something wrong with him.

But to answer the question, no I wouldn't.

[RAZRr1275]

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This thread is stupid.

It's a DC thread.

[DC]

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It is a legit question. I don't see why there needs to be name calling.

I was just asking is this something that you would discuss with them or is it something that you feel should WAIT until one of them happens to chose that lifestyle? I am not implying that you would love them any less either just want to know if parents actually address/would address this issue with their kids at all

[fistofrage]

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I don't know, I think there are both people who have genetic inclinations that lean that way and others that just want to roll that way.

If my kid just wanted to get his F on and said he was going to stick it to a dude, I'd probably try to persuade him against it. If the kid was that way from the start, I wouldn't like it, but what can you do?

[DC]

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You don't want to turn it into us discussing whether we believe people are born homosexual or whether we think it's a choice they make, but you think that simply telling them it is wrong will prevent them from being gay.

No that isn't what I was saying that simply telling them it is wrong WILL prevent it, it doesn't work with anything else with kids I definitely wouldn't think it would work then. Let me try to clear it up.

I was simply asking if a person WOULD tell their child it WAS WRONG in HOPES of them not going down that path.

The emphasis is telling them it is wrong not them obeying your word.

Hope that cleared it up

[Skerik]

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DC is trying to prevent the inevitable future thread in which he informs us all that he's a real man because he refuses to carry his son's purse.

[DC]

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I wouldn't try to prevent it from happening because I believe heterosexuality/homosexuality is not a choice.

I respect your opinion of thinking homosexuality is genetic but I disagree with that and I honestly don't want to go back and forth about it because that isn't the focus of the topic. I am sure you can find supporting ideas that supports your idea the same way I could do the same If you believe that it is genetic than of course this topic isn't for you. I am addressing those hopeful parents that believe it is a socially influenced lifestyle.

[bsb13]

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I was simply asking if a person WOULD tell their child it WAS WRONG in HOPES of them not going down that path.

Yes, I would but thats just me.

[KG]

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No that isn't what I was saying that simply telling them it is wrong WILL prevent it, it doesn't work with anything else with kids I definitely wouldn't think it would work then. Let me try to clear it up.

I was simply asking if a person WOULD tell their child it WAS WRONG in HOPES of them not going down that path.

The emphasis is telling them it is wrong not them obeying your word.

Hope that cleared it up

If the emphasis is on "telling them that is wrong" than you're going down a completely different road.

[baumy300]

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I don't see myself sitting a child of mine down and trying to persuade them to seek out the benefits of the opposite sex before they can even drive a car. It just doesn't seem like something that will be a major issue when compared to all of the other ones that come with raising a child.

That being said, if a child of mine, specifically a boy decides he is going to bat for the other team, well then it is safe to say that I may be a little disappointed.

[DC]

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If the emphasis is on "telling them that is wrong" than you're going down a completely different road.

Yes the emphasis is TELLING them it is wrong (I am not saying it is wrong at all), HOPING that TELLING them it is wrong will make them second guess ever experimenting with that lifestyle. Thats if you believe it isn't a socially generated behavior