Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

[p_rushing]

Re: Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

Everyone starts with an equal footing with me. I usually know within 5 minutes if the person is a clown or a decent person. I don't generally associate with people I don't respect on a social level. It just turns into a waste of time.

Work, its a different issue, I look at their work and keep personal items out of it. Get the job done professionally at work and what you do on your own time is your own business. But part of doing good work is respecting co-workers.

I try to show people respect, but those that I don't respect, usually pickup on it and leave me alone. I don't like to be around people that I don't respect because of their actions, so if I'm around them, I talk to them as little as possible.

For work if you lose my respect because your work is poor, then I will try to work with you as little as possible. I'll find someone else who can do the work.

[moose1619]

Re: Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

I was raised to respect everyone including elders. People can lose my respect but I will try to still treat them with respect. An example would be I respect my boss and his position of authority, but if he yells at me I will not respect him anymore but I will still show respectful actions towards him(but only after I yell back at him and let him know I don't stand for that).
In todays society especially with the new generation, people think respect has to be earned and if you don't earn it they can treat you like crap. This is escpecially true in the education and athletic world. Example, I don't respect my coach because he yells at me so I will not do what he says and there is nothing he can do about it. Or I don't like my teacher because "she failed me" my momma is gonna come up here and get my grade changed and then that student has an attitude towards teacher the rest of the year.

[auburntigersfan]

Re: Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

I respect everyone to start out, sure they can lose my respect, but they can also gain more respect and become more respected.

I try to respect everyone. I'm not going to not respect someone I just met because they haven't 'earned' my respect yet.

[totalownership]

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I respect my father and my mother, everybody else is just there.

[Bornindamecca]

Re: Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

Regardless of whether you feel respect for someone inside, how you treat them is what you are judged by. If you treat people with respect, then you are respecting them. Doesn't mean you approve of, admire or like them. But you are still respecting them.

It's a big decision to disrespect someone, and only one I consciously make if I'm solving a problem. For me, disrespect is never on the table for a working social situation. Seeing someone on a regular basis and being in a situation where we conduct ourselves with disrespect is a symptom of weakness on behalf of both people.

[Buckeyes_Doc]

Re: Respect: Is it earned or should it just be given?

Serving In the military I can definently tell you in my world respect is earned without a doubt.

When I first came in I was at the bottom of the food-chain, pretty much a maggot. I had to work my *** off to get where I'm at now. They dont just give you rank in the military you have to earn it and with higher rank comes more respect.