Anyone try online dating sites?

[CWSapp757]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

For the record 13, I plan on proposing soon because we agreed we both want to be married before the end of next year. This is not in any way to start up a back and forth but just saying it can happen man.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

No one has crossed the line, but perhaps it's time to retire the discussion. Nothing is going to change.

Chalk it up to difference in opinion. Let's go back to the topic: finding women online!

Get out you non-single men, unless you have advice to offer or amazing online stories to share.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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What about offering advice for meeting women in person as well?

[Dog]

What about offering advice for meeting women in person as well?

pshhhh, this is 2013. We get everything on the Internet. Clothes, women, pizza....

[CMH]

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What about offering advice for meeting women in person as well?

What do we look like to you? Good looking men?

[Marino]

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You know I love you though.

[Candyman5]

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I have been single for going on 24 years. I dont know really how to word this right but here goes nothing. I am worried that I will try to reach for a relationship that I shouldnt. That or maybe be to afraid of ending a relationship I should because of fear of being single again....

[ubernoob]

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Of course that will happen, but you're not viewing a relationship as something that will happen naturally. You're overvaluing it to a point.

I have an uncle who is in his 40s now (I believe) that has been single for as long as I can remember. He's still a family man, with his parents, siblings (he has 12 siblings), nieces and nephews (lots of them too) and so on.

There's no reason to be out searching for something that won't live up to your expectations of it regardless of what happens. I was single until my sophmore year of high school (was focused on sports and everything else) until I met my first girlfriend and we dated for 5 years. She's wonderful and I still talk to her to this very day - the thing was neither of us were looking for a relationship, it just happened. Searching desperately for something like this is the best way to make sure that you never find it.

It's life. Take time to take a breath, look around and enjoy where you're at. If you don't enjoy where you are at, then there is something wrong that you personally need to change. Everyone is a master of their own fate when it comes to these matters. If you're doing stuff that truly makes you happy then you won't need to try and fill in the cracks in your own life with other things, trying to pretend that you're happy.

To put it more bluntly (and I use myself as the example here): I love playing video games. I truly do. I don't enjoy taking pictures, or going sightseeing to places that I have already been. Sports, games and learning/making myself more understanding about people/society in general are probably my 3 greatest interests. In college and the military, I used to go out and party. Nightly. I wasn't happy, but it's because I was out doing what other people wanted instead of being me. I took a step back, and said hey this isn't working one bit. I got back to doing what I love to do, and eventually after being single for a couple of year I found the right one.

It's super cliche, but if you aren't happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone else. You'll find reasons to undermine yourself every other step of the way.

/rant

BTW candy: you're still young. Don't sweat it.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Date set for Saturday. The plan is to make waffles, watch a Disney movie or two, and she's gonna show me her SSX Tricky skills. Should be fun.

[VTPack919]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Of course that will happen, but you're not viewing a relationship as something that will happen naturally. You're overvaluing it to a point.

I have an uncle who is in his 40s now (I believe) that has been single for as long as I can remember. He's still a family man, with his parents, siblings (he has 12 siblings), nieces and nephews (lots of them too) and so on.

There's no reason to be out searching for something that won't live up to your expectations of it regardless of what happens. I was single until my sophmore year of high school (was focused on sports and everything else) until I met my first girlfriend and we dated for 5 years. She's wonderful and I still talk to her to this very day - the thing was neither of us were looking for a relationship, it just happened. Searching desperately for something like this is the best way to make sure that you never find it.

It's life. Take time to take a breath, look around and enjoy where you're at. If you don't enjoy where you are at, then there is something wrong that you personally need to change. Everyone is a master of their own fate when it comes to these matters. If you're doing stuff that truly makes you happy then you won't need to try and fill in the cracks in your own life with other things, trying to pretend that you're happy.

To put it more bluntly (and I use myself as the example here): I love playing video games. I truly do. I don't enjoy taking pictures, or going sightseeing to places that I have already been. Sports, games and learning/making myself more understanding about people/society in general are probably my 3 greatest interests. In college and the military, I used to go out and party. Nightly. I wasn't happy, but it's because I was out doing what other people wanted instead of being me. I took a step back, and said hey this isn't working one bit. I got back to doing what I love to do, and eventually after being single for a couple of year I found the right one.

It's super cliche, but if you aren't happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone else. You'll find reasons to undermine yourself every other step of the way.

/rant

BTW candy: you're still young. Don't sweat it.

Preach it brother. I know it sounds odd Candy but once you stop dwelling on it, good things will happen. /cliche

[VTPack919]

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Date set for Saturday. The plan is to make waffles, watch a Disney movie or two, and she's gonna show me her SSX Tricky skills. Should be fun.

She's a keeper. I am totally going to crash this date.

[jeremym480]

LOL at the guys telling VT "she's not the one" because he said he sometimes misses being single. VT.... bro... that's perfectly normal. Just because you miss something doesn't mean that you want to go back to it. I mean, I kind of miss being in high school/college but that doesn't mean that I want to go back there.

I've been with my wife for four and a half years and I wouldn't say that I miss being single, however I do look back at my single days quite fondly. There's something about all the adventures and excitement that go with being a single guy, you know?

With that said at 33 there's no way I would want to be back "out there". I, like many others in relationships, just choose to live vicariously through the single guys in this thread

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[VTPack919]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

LOL at the guys telling VT "she's not the one" because he said he sometimes misses being single. VT.... bro... that's perfectly normal. Just because you miss something doesn't mean that you want to go back to it. I mean, I kind of miss being in high school/college but that doesn't mean that I want to go back there.

I've been with my wife for four and a half years and I wouldn't say that I miss being single, however I do look back at my single days quite fondly. There's something about all the adventures and excitement that go with being a single guy, you know?

With that said at 33 there's no way I would want to be back "out there". I, like many others in relationships, just choose to live vicariously through the single guys in this thread

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Agreed. I thought I was taking crazy pills there for a second. I thought every guy looked back fondly on their single days every now and then...

I was obviously wrong.

[mgoblue]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Of course that will happen, but you're not viewing a relationship as something that will happen naturally. You're overvaluing it to a point.

I have an uncle who is in his 40s now (I believe) that has been single for as long as I can remember. He's still a family man, with his parents, siblings (he has 12 siblings), nieces and nephews (lots of them too) and so on.

There's no reason to be out searching for something that won't live up to your expectations of it regardless of what happens. I was single until my sophmore year of high school (was focused on sports and everything else) until I met my first girlfriend and we dated for 5 years. She's wonderful and I still talk to her to this very day - the thing was neither of us were looking for a relationship, it just happened. Searching desperately for something like this is the best way to make sure that you never find it.

It's life. Take time to take a breath, look around and enjoy where you're at. If you don't enjoy where you are at, then there is something wrong that you personally need to change. Everyone is a master of their own fate when it comes to these matters. If you're doing stuff that truly makes you happy then you won't need to try and fill in the cracks in your own life with other things, trying to pretend that you're happy.

To put it more bluntly (and I use myself as the example here): I love playing video games. I truly do. I don't enjoy taking pictures, or going sightseeing to places that I have already been. Sports, games and learning/making myself more understanding about people/society in general are probably my 3 greatest interests. In college and the military, I used to go out and party. Nightly. I wasn't happy, but it's because I was out doing what other people wanted instead of being me. I took a step back, and said hey this isn't working one bit. I got back to doing what I love to do, and eventually after being single for a couple of year I found the right one.

It's super cliche, but if you aren't happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone else. You'll find reasons to undermine yourself every other step of the way.

/rant

BTW candy: you're still young. Don't sweat it.

I would agree, but would add that he may want to try finding hobbies that involve meeting people. Just saying that going to work and then going home to play games 24/7 won't get you out there.

I do agree with the dwelling on it though, you have to be happy to meet someone, and it'll eventually happen. Just have to adapt your expectations/standards to what's out there.

[ubernoob]

Agreed. If that is what is important to him. Life is a game of give and take. If all he wanted to do to be happy was work and play games, he could be happy.

Now if all he wants to do are those things but find a relationship that has to change. It's about valuing what is truly important to you and working towards that, while cutting back in other areas.

Now if cutting back on those said things causes stress and unhappiness then what he's after isn't right for him.

Or something like that.