For My Bar/Lounge/Club Going Folks, Question For You

[GSW]

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blame it on the goose, blame it on the henny

[Kruza]

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I don't expect to get attracted to girls who I danced with in a club or lounge because girls and guys generally have different agendas when it comes to clubbing.

See, the thing I realized a long time ago is that girls love to dance a lot more than guys do. And as crazy as it may seems to guys... some girls go to clubs strictly to dance no matter what outfit they're wearing which could hint otherwise. They'll willingly bump and grind on any guys who are down with it and think nothing of it -- they're just having fun out there dancing. Guys (myself included) on the other hand mainly go to clubs for that "extra" stuff that most of you have already covered in this thread, heh. Dancing with a girl is not as fun to guys as what in our minds could possibly go on after the dance with a girl. Different mindsets for each gender.

Kruza

[TMagic]

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What I'd like to know is for you that just go to the club and "lay low" or "in the cut", what is the fun in that? Seems like it'd be boring as hell.


I'd also like to know from you fellas that do dance, how you approach females in the club to dance?

Cause I have to admit that I'm always apprehensive in going up to a girl I don't even know and putting my junk on her backside. But it seems that's the way everybody goes about it. But I'm always nervous about doing that man.

Just need some tips man...Cause "I be scurred." lol

[Kruza]

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What I'd like to know is for you that just go to the club and "lay low" or "in the cut", what is the fun in that? Seems like it'd be boring as hell.


I'd also like to know from you fellas that do dance, how you approach females in the club to dance?

Cause I have to admit that I'm always apprehensive in going up to a girl I don't even know and putting my junk on her backside. But it seems that's the way everybody goes about it. But I'm always nervous about doing that man.

Just need some tips man...Cause "I be scurred." lol

I hardly go to clubs these days because I get tired of the scene. But anyway, as far as dancing in a club goes, I just do basic stuff man. Step here, step there, snap the fingers, put and hands up in the air, yell and things like that, depending on the song being played (up-tempo jam, slow groove, etc.). I'm not a great dancer by any means and won't front to say that I am. And I really don't look to bump and grind with a girl from jump. I don't know how anyone else does it, but when I ask a female to dance and we get on the floor I allow her to dictate how energetic or "hot" it gets between us. Most girls won't come right out and bump and grind on the dance floor anyway unless they either had quite a bit to drink or just a plain freak. But I'm not mad if she decides to go there with me. If she leads it to that, then I let her know that I'm definitely following, LMAO!

And I do have a tendency to flirt with a female while hugged up with her slow dancing. Can't shake that habit.

Kruza

[Cebby]

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I'd also like to know from you fellas that do dance, how you approach females in the club to dance?

Just walk up to her, put your mouth to her ear, and tell her:

"Hey lil mama let me whisper in your ear, tell you something that you might like to hear..."

[Kruza]

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LOL! Uh, Cebby maybe we should first ask TMagic if he was wondering about approaching a female at an upscale club/lounge or approaching one at a neighborhood club populated by hoodr-... er... lively young ladies. Then again we're talking about bumping & grinding so...

Kruza

[stewaat]

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What I'd like to know is for you that just go to the club and "lay low" or "in the cut", what is the fun in that? Seems like it'd be boring as hell.


I'd also like to know from you fellas that do dance, how you approach females in the club to dance?

Cause I have to admit that I'm always apprehensive in going up to a girl I don't even know and putting my junk on her backside. But it seems that's the way everybody goes about it. But I'm always nervous about doing that man.

Just need some tips man...Cause "I be scurred." lol

I have it down to an art. The key is to never really go up to them...you make them come to you. How? Well here's what I do: basically if you see a cute girl dancing with her girls or by herself, walk behind her to the side....like left to right...don't walk right at her. As you walk by tug on her shirt a little and then she'll make eye contact with you as you pass. When she looks just give a little smile and make a slight "come over here" head nod.

A) You don't go and put your penis on their butt right away, they get a visual check to see if they are attracted to you.
B) They won't be offended by a slight pull of the shirt
C) Nobody else will really notice you are "hollering" at her
D) If she's down she will have to walk over to you
E) If she's not interested then you can just keep walking

Worked MANY, MANY times. I need to break up with the girl man, I want to get back out there!

BTW if you don't dance GTFO the dance floor. So many guys just chill and try to look cool.

[Kruza]

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I have it down to an art. The key is to never really go up to them...you make them come to you. How? Well here's what I do: basically if you see a cute girl dancing with her girls or by herself, walk behind her to the side....like left to right...don't walk right at her. As you walk by tug on her shirt a little and then she'll make eye contact with you as you pass. When she looks just give a little smile and make a slight "come over here" head nod.

A) You don't go and put your penis on their butt right away, they get a visual check to see if they are attracted to you.
B) They won't be offended by a slight pull of the shirt
C) Nobody else will really notice you are "hollering" at her
D) If she's down she will have to walk over to you
E) If she's not interested then you can just keep walking

Worked MANY, MANY times. I need to break up with the girl man, I want to get back out there!

BTW if you don't dance GTFO the dance floor. So many guys just chill and try to look cool.

Heh, good stuff. A light tap on her shoulder on the approach can also work wonders as well.

And I don't know if you were serious about breaking up with your girl to be a single guy who can go out clubbing again, but I don't think it's worth it. I found out that wanted to be around that club scene environment all the time while I was young, but I got tired of that scene as I got older. Going through the same 'ol ish dealing with the same kind of females who you either can't or don't really want to conversate with time after time gets boring to me. Now don't get me wrong... I still find it cool to go out clubbing every once in a while or on special occasions. I just don't go to them frequently anymore.

Kruza

[ubernoob]

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Just ask for a dance... I have been absolutely smashed at the clubs before - and no lie this has worked before (don't ask me how, I think it's a sense of humor thing)...

Me, "Do you want to dance??"
Her, "What? No thanks"
Me, "I didn't ask for a dance, I said you look fat in those pants!!"

I have gotten some mean looks from that, but it has gotten me a dance before. I really don't care about random girls though, just not how I roll.

By the way if y'all in the DC area like clubbin or stuff you should hit me up sometime. Free entry to the clubs in the city I normally go once a week on like Fridays or such. Lemme know.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Bumping this because there were some funny stories in here and wanted to see if anybody had any stories to share as well LOL

[stewaat]

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Nope. Got a gf and now when girls look at me I can't do anything.

2 weeks ago while at a bar/club this one incredible girl walked across the floor and stared at me for a solid 7-8 seconds. I wanted to say 15 seconds but realistically it wasn't, but trust me 7-8 seconds is a long time! That was when the gf went to the bathroom, and I couldn't do anything.

I was so pissed. That girl would've legitimately knocked herself out if their had been some sort of pole in front of her. I'm decent looking and this was by far the mos obvious attempt by another girl to look at me.

It's true girls sense it when you are in a relationship.

[Jukeman]

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Nah not really cuz most likely she'll be at my house the next day....

[Maxattax3]

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http://www.6lyrics.com/music/z-ro/lyrics/if_that_s_how_you_feel.aspx

pretty much sums up how I feel about dancing in clubs.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Bumping this because there was almost an incident involving 2 friends I went to a club with over the weekend and both of them danced with the same chick(to which neither of them knew they did)and then as one of them tried to get the broad's number(which I don't know why because she wasn't all that attractive at all)the other one comes up and basically tries to **** block because as he claims, "she told me she was going to give me her number while we were dancing". Well, one of the dudes trying to talk to her doesn't buy that and the next thing I know, there's Security trying to keep these two separated from going at it and all I can do at this point is just stand there and laugh at these two fools LOL.

About an hour later at a 7-11, these two were cool again as if nothing even happened that night but it was/is something that I will clown those two on for the rest of their lives LOL. Anybody else got any stories?

[stewaat]

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Man that's how guys get around a girl they think will put out at the end of the night. Sometimes a certain head takes 100% control in the situation!!!

I had a funny incident happen where I was at a bar with a friend (I have a gf...she wasn't there). It was a good looking crowd and I was one of the younger ones. It was me, buddy, his gf and her two friends (both of which were very attractive). Anyways well we're all going to leave together and go to another place...I walk out of the door and an older lady follows (probably 35-40...I'm 25). Well she proceeds to grab my butt and ask me where I'm going. I'm like...I don't know...and she gets close and asks me if I'm watching the gold medal game (Olympics time) and I said...I don't know. She's like...well we should watch it together, let's get out of here. I then said...well I need to go find my friends inside!!! I walk back inside...she follows...tries to grab me and dance with me. Ok so the two good looking chicks in my group immediately start laughing. I give them the "please save me" face and they come over and surround me and dance with me. This older woman will not take the f'n hint!!! She grabs me and pulls me away...then the two girls just laugh from a distance while this lady awkwardly tries to dance with me while I'm standing there.

I then pretty much run away

I told the gf and she just laughed about it.