Confidence with women - Problems with self acceptance

[bsb13]

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I don't usually smile in my pictures because I think I look kind of weird when I smile but I decided to take you guy's advice and took one.

I take my last post back lol.

[ODogg]

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I take my last post back lol.

Haha, i was f'ing around with the webcam software and came up with that. It was just too funny not to share.

[Cebby]

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You need new glasses. Buy some thin wired ones with no bottom on the lenses and get the shiny protection stuff on them.

Never go out in less than a collared shirt. Ever. I don't care if it's to the damn grocery store. You're not good looking, but you appear pretty well kept. A polo or button down will at least give the impression that, despite your big size, you aren't a slob. Any time you go out in a T-shirt or a jersey, you can pretty much bet that nobody under 250 pounds will consider you.

And lower your standards.

[ODogg]

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You need new glasses. Buy some thin wired ones with no bottom on the lenses and get the shiny protection stuff on them.

Never go out in less than a collared shirt. Ever. I don't care if it's to the damn grocery store. You're not good looking, but you appear pretty well kept. A polo or button down will at least give the impression that, despite your big size, you aren't a slob. Any time you go out in a T-shirt or a jersey, you can pretty much bet that nobody under 250 pounds will consider you.

And lower your standards.

My glasses are relatively new, less than 6 months old and I think they look good and do not plan to change them.

I already practice the collared shirt thing, I never go out in a t-shirt. The only time the jersey comes out is gameday.

My standards are low, trust me. I think about the only standards I have is less than freakin' huge, a non-smoker and have your teeth, LOL.

[DueceDiggla]

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How old are you?

And how are the results with the gym and dieting? Are you seeing big improvements?

[ExtremeGamer]

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Be yourself and get off the computer. Go out, go to places to meet people, go out with friends and network their friends. No offense, but sitting here and making threads like this every few weeks isn't going to get you a girl.

[Cebby]

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My glasses are relatively new, less than 6 months old and I think they look good and do not plan to change them.

I already practice the collared shirt thing, I never go out in a t-shirt. The only time the jersey comes out is gameday.

My standards are low, trust me. I think about the only standards I have is less than freakin' huge, a non-smoker and have your teeth, LOL.

Yikes.

Do you at least have money?

[Scottdau]

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My glasses are relatively new, less than 6 months old and I think they look good and do not plan to change them.

I already practice the collared shirt thing, I never go out in a t-shirt. The only time the jersey comes out is gameday.

My standards are low, trust me. I think about the only standards I have is less than freakin' huge, a non-smoker and have your teeth, LOL.

I think you need to not worry about looks so much. You need to hook up with someone on line or someone you know. Or go to bars. There are out; you just have to go find them. A lot of girls like guys with good jobs too. And you have a good job, so now just go out and look to start dating.

[DueceDiggla]

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Be yourself and get off the computer. Go out, go to places to meet people, go out with friends and network their friends. No offense, but sitting here and making threads like this every few weeks isn't going to get you a girl.

Thats obvious, but I don't think he has any idea how to meet people or network.

[ODogg]

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Be yourself and get off the computer. Go out, go to places to meet people, go out with friends and network their friends. No offense, but sitting here and making threads like this every few weeks isn't going to get you a girl.

I know. I'm out plenty though. And for years i've not asked for advice but now I"m thinking I need it.

[ODogg]

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Yikes.

Do you at least have money?

Yes, these are $400 glasses btw.

[Herbsinator]

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I just want to point out some things you've said. Sometimes you need to take a step back and look at yourself from an outside perspective.

"I can safely say I would not date myself."

"I know it's unhealthy but I dwell on it, I obsess over it and I can rarely think of nothing other than fixing it."

"I find myself insulting myself at every turn and have gotten to the point where I can hardly even look at myself in a reflection without thinking "god what a lard@ss!!""

Read these statements. If someone told you these things...the first thing that would come to your mind is "wow, what a loser." Here would be my two pieces of advice for you:

First, focus on the things that you like about yourself. Everyone has flaws, deal with it. There have to be some things about yourself that you like. Focus and accentuate on those good aspects of your personality. It will make you feel so much better about yourself. Another thing, seeking help on a message board is fine, but go get some professional help. Talk to a therapist and get to the underlying factors that are causing you to think the way you think. It will help you become a much better person, who is comfortable in their own skin.

Second, you need to drop the loser attitude. I know rejection sucks, but honestly every time I get rejected, it actually makes me feel better because I knew that I put my cards on the table, I lost, but I'll never have to worry about what could have been. The ones that hurt the most are when you are a wuss and don't go for it, because all you can think about is what might have been.

[ODogg]

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I just want to point out some things you've said. Sometimes you need to take a step back and look at yourself from an outside perspective.

"I can safely say I would not date myself."

"I know it's unhealthy but I dwell on it, I obsess over it and I can rarely think of nothing other than fixing it."

"I find myself insulting myself at every turn and have gotten to the point where I can hardly even look at myself in a reflection without thinking "god what a lard@ss!!""

Read these statements. If someone told you these things...the first thing that would come to your mind is "wow, what a loser." Here would be my two pieces of advice for you:

First, focus on the things that you like about yourself. Everyone has flaws, deal with it. There have to be some things about yourself that you like. Focus and accentuate on those good aspects of your personality. It will make you feel so much better about yourself. Another thing, seeking help on a message board is fine, but go get some professional help. Talk to a therapist and get to the underlying factors that are causing you to think the way you think. It will help you become a much better person, who is comfortable in their own skin.

Second, you need to drop the loser attitude. I know rejection sucks, but honestly every time I get rejected, it actually makes me feel better because I knew that I put my cards on the table, I lost, but I'll never have to worry about what could have been. The ones that hurt the most are when you are a wuss and don't go for it, because all you can think about is what might have been.

I actually have been to a psychiatrist once but she said she wouldn't treat me any further because some of the things I said scared her too much. But the rest of what you say I agree with. The tough part is to put it into action.

[Cebby]

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I actually have been to a psychiatrist once but she said she wouldn't treat me any further because some of the things I said scared her too much.

You're going to have to elaborate. You've got me curious.

[Herbsinator]

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You're going to have to elaborate. You've got me curious.

yes please, you scared away a person who talks to crazy people for a living?