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  • ProStylez
    Goon Squad
    • Oct 2006
    • 1988

    #31
    Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

    Originally posted by DC
    Really? How?
    Well I guess I was wrong from reading your post above but I thought you did not have any because you came off sounding young and immature.
    I guess people have strong feelings like yourself for not doing it but then I ask why?
    Do you feel wrong for doing it or are you worried others will think your strange for doing it?
    I'm sure your kids would not have minded if you would have done it from the start but you could not allow yourself to for whatever reason.
    I'm not saying shower with a 11 year old and kiss a 15 year old I'm talking about kids and babies here.

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    • SPTO
      binging
      • Feb 2003
      • 68046

      #32
      Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

      This thing reminds me of a story I saw on the news a short while back. A family was accused of pedophile porn because they had a picture of the father and kid in the tub together.

      I think that kinda shows how society views these things. (they were mostly clothed IIRC)
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      • trobinson97
        Lie,cheat,steal,kill: Win
        • Oct 2004
        • 16366

        #33
        Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

        Originally posted by ProStylez
        I can tell you don't have kids by what you're saying

        Ehh I'm sure you can't because I have kids and I agree with him on this for the most part. That's just a little too much for me. A lotta too much in fact.
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        • DC
          Hall Of Fame
          • Oct 2002
          • 17996

          #34
          Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

          I won't do it because it doesn't feel like it is appropriate.

          I wasn't kissed on the mouth as a child and I don't feel a parent should kiss his/her (especially HIS) child on the mouth. Women do it more often, but I still think it is foul. Just seems VERY strange that a man would do that to his kids.

          And that shower mess, I never heard of that before. Didn't even know folks did that.

          Kissing is for ______. Not just sexual, but for the opposite sex. Unless you know...........you swing "that" way.

          My lips only go on the forehead if anywhere.
          Concrete evidence/videos please

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          • Brandwin
            Hall Of Fame
            • Jul 2002
            • 30621

            #35
            Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

            Originally posted by trobinson97
            LOL, I have two boys and no I don't kiss them on the lips. Hell no. I haven't kissed them at all I think since they were toddlers and even then were few and far between forehead taps. I'll give em' some dap or a little shake of the head, a hug or something. Kissing? Nah.

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            Why? What's so wrong about giving your son a kiss on the forehead or cheek?


            I kiss my daughter on the lips, but a lot of forhead/cheek/head kisses too.

            I've never done the shower/bath thing with my daughter though.

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            • Trevytrev11
              MVP
              • Nov 2006
              • 3259

              #36
              Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

              Originally posted by SPTO
              This thing reminds me of a story I saw on the news a short while back. A family was accused of pedophile porn because they had a picture of the father and kid in the tub together.

              I think that kinda shows how society views these things. (they were mostly clothed IIRC)
              If it was the story I'm thinking of, it was one employee at Wal-Mart who contacted the local police, who then contacted child services. I believe the federal government stepped in, had the childred returned and now the city and Wal-Mart are being sued by the family (rightly so, IMO).

              All I know is pretty much every parent that I've ever met has pictures of their kids in the bath tub or on the potty or at evey other milestone in their kids lives.

              There are a small group who see things only in black and white and get in other peoples business and potentially ruin their lives.

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              • SPTO
                binging
                • Feb 2003
                • 68046

                #37
                Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                Originally posted by Trevytrev11
                If it was the story I'm thinking of, it was one employee at Wal-Mart who contacted the local police, who then contacted child services. I believe the federal government stepped in, had the childred returned and now the city and Wal-Mart are being sued by the family (rightly so, IMO).

                There are a small group who see things only in black and white and get in other peoples business and potentially ruin their lives.
                Yep that's the story I was referring to and I agree totally with you.
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                • Trevytrev11
                  MVP
                  • Nov 2006
                  • 3259

                  #38
                  Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                  Originally posted by DC

                  My lips only go on the forehead if anywhere.
                  As I said, to each his own. I'm sure there are people out there that think this is even too much...I mean how could you possibly put you lips on a childs forehead...How can you even hug a child...hugs are only for mommy's and daddy's...a handshake and nothing more is the only contact that is acceptable between a child and a parent.

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                  • DC
                    Hall Of Fame
                    • Oct 2002
                    • 17996

                    #39
                    Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                    Originally posted by Trevytrev11
                    As I said, to each his own. I'm sure there are people out there that think this is even too much...I mean how could you possibly put you lips on a childs forehead...How can you even hug a child...hugs are only for mommy's and daddy's...a handshake and nothing more is the only contact that is acceptable between a child and a parent.
                    Ok you are going overboard with that logic now.
                    Concrete evidence/videos please

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                    • trobinson97
                      Lie,cheat,steal,kill: Win
                      • Oct 2004
                      • 16366

                      #40
                      Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                      Originally posted by DookieMowf
                      Why? What's so wrong about giving your son a kiss on the forehead or cheek?


                      I kiss my daughter on the lips, but a lot of forhead/cheek/head kisses too.

                      I've never done the shower/bath thing with my daughter though.
                      Like I said, I used to give them forehead pecks now and then up until they were toddlers, but I don't see the point in making it a habit. I consider them young men now and I can show them love without us putting our lips on each other. I'm not judging you or anybody else that likes to kiss their boys, but it's not for me.

                      I can imagine I would probably treat a daughter differently, being more tender with her and such, but even then she's not hopping in the shower with me.
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                      • ProStylez
                        Goon Squad
                        • Oct 2006
                        • 1988

                        #41
                        Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                        Originally posted by Trevytrev11
                        As I said, to each his own. I'm sure there are people out there that think this is even too much...I mean how could you possibly put you lips on a childs forehead...How can you even hug a child...hugs are only for mommy's and daddy's...a handshake and nothing more is the only contact that is acceptable between a child and a parent.

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                        • DC
                          Hall Of Fame
                          • Oct 2002
                          • 17996

                          #42
                          Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                          Originally posted by trobinson97
                          I consider them young men now and I can show them love without us putting our lips on each other.
                          Bingo. I definitely don't want him thinking that men are supposed to treat each other like this either. Treat him like a man is what I agree on.
                          Concrete evidence/videos please

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                          • Trevytrev11
                            MVP
                            • Nov 2006
                            • 3259

                            #43
                            Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                            Originally posted by DC
                            Ok you are going overboard with that logic now.
                            There are people out there like that, no doubt.

                            Played ball with a kid, who pitched a complete game, 1 hit shut out to get us into the playoffs. His dad barely put his arm on the kid and said good job...no affection to how proud he was of the kid. Every other dad I know would have given his kid a huge bear hug and told him how proud he was of his son.

                            Obviously different things, but for some any type of affection is too much.
                            Last edited by Trevytrev11; 10-19-2009, 10:41 AM.

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                            • Pete1210
                              MVP
                              • Aug 2006
                              • 3277

                              #44
                              Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                              I have 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl.
                              I would consider our family affectionate, but never kissed my kids on the lips. Plenty of hugs and kisses on the cheek when they were younger. My youngest in now 10 and I will give him a kiss on the cheek at night.
                              Never went in the bath or shower with my kids. Of course my wife or I would give then a bath while they were younger.

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                              • Lintyfresh85
                                Where have I been?
                                • Jul 2002
                                • 17492

                                #45
                                Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                                Originally posted by DC
                                Bingo. I definitely don't want him thinking that men are supposed to treat each other like this either. Treat him like a man is what I agree on.
                                That just screams of homophobia though. You're afraid by kissing your son on the forehead or cheek that he's going to grow up and do the same/worse to other men.

                                I really don't think showing affection to your son is going to lead to them turning gay later on in life.
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                                Originally posted by trobinson97
                                Hell, I shot my grandmother, cuz she was old.

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