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  • Trevytrev11
    MVP
    • Nov 2006
    • 3259

    #46
    Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

    Originally posted by Lintyfresh85
    That just screams of homophobia though. You're afraid by kissing your son on the forehead or cheek that he's going to grow up and do the same/worse to other men.

    I really don't think showing affection to your son is going to lead to them turning gay later on in life.
    Yeah, I would hope all of your other actions and conversations would take care of that.

    I've never even had to explain anything to my daughter, but the only people she is comfortable kissing are me, my wife and her grandparents...not like she goes around kissing every person she see's because she gets kisses at home...and she's 2.

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    • DC
      Hall Of Fame
      • Oct 2002
      • 17996

      #47
      Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

      ^ That is part of the reason yes. The MAIN reason is WHY do it? I don't see the need of kissing my boys.
      Concrete evidence/videos please

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      • DC
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        • Oct 2002
        • 17996

        #48
        Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

        Just to show you how wierd taking showers with your kids is - http://niketalk.yuku.com/topic/212466
        Concrete evidence/videos please

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        • ProStylez
          Goon Squad
          • Oct 2006
          • 1988

          #49
          Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

          Originally posted by Pete1210
          I have 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl.
          I would consider our family affectionate, but never kissed my kids on the lips. Plenty of hugs and kisses on the cheek when they were younger. My youngest in now 10 and I will give him a kiss on the cheek at night.
          Never went in the bath or shower with my kids. Of course my wife or I would give then a bath while they were younger.
          See this is funny because at 10 I would not kiss my son on the cheek and I'm the one who started this topic! I think at 10 I would give him a hug or a dap something like that.
          DC just said something about treating him like a man or something, my son is 4 why would I treat him like a man already? If he was 10 I think I'd start treating him like that.....this issue is crazier than I thought.

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          • DC
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            • Oct 2002
            • 17996

            #50
            Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

            My son is a male. I treat him like a male. I don't kiss males on the lips.
            Concrete evidence/videos please

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            • Trevytrev11
              MVP
              • Nov 2006
              • 3259

              #51
              Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

              Originally posted by ProStylez
              See this is funny because at 10 I would not kiss my son on the cheek and I'm the one who started this topic! I think at 10 I would give him a hug or a dap something like that.
              DC just said something about treating him like a man or something, my son is 4 why would I treat him like a man already? If he was 10 I think I'd start treating him like that.....this issue is crazier than I thought.
              Yeah, every kid is going to reach that age where these things will become uncool and you'll find other ways to express affection, but to treat a baby like a man just seems to be overboard to me.

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              • Brandwin
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                • Jul 2002
                • 30621

                #52
                Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                Originally posted by DC
                Bingo. I definitely don't want him thinking that men are supposed to treat each other like this either. Treat him like a man is what I agree on.
                Aaah, so you're afriad it's going to turn your son gay? It's fine if you don't want to kiss him and if I had a son, who knows, I might be the same way. I just don't see the problem.

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                • DC
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                  • Oct 2002
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                  #53
                  Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                  There won't be a problem because I wouldn't do it LOL. It wouldn't even be an issue in my home. Not saying it is anything WRONG with doing it, but it isn't needed. Why am I kissing a MALE on his mouth. Being my son or not doesn't matter. Men don't treat each other like that.

                  What is wrong with not EVER kissing my son?
                  Concrete evidence/videos please

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                  • ProStylez
                    Goon Squad
                    • Oct 2006
                    • 1988

                    #54
                    Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                    Originally posted by DC
                    My son is a male. I treat him like a male. I don't kiss males on the lips.
                    You also never said "I love you" to another man or changed another man's diaper......it's YOUR son stop feeling so strange about it.
                    It seems like your own insecurities are stopping you from showing affection to him.
                    It's your son so do as you please but you can't think I'm turning my son into a homo by kissing him once a night do you?

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                    • DC
                      Hall Of Fame
                      • Oct 2002
                      • 17996

                      #55
                      Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                      Originally posted by ProStylez
                      You also never said "I love you" to another man or changed another man's diaper......it's YOUR son stop feeling so strange about it.
                      It seems like your own insecurities are stopping you from showing affection to him.
                      It's your son so do as you please but you can't think I'm turning my son into a homo by kissing him once a night do you?
                      When in doubt use the insecurity card.

                      So WHAT if he is my son. WHY kiss him on the LIPS is my question. WHY the LIPS?

                      Why do you keep saying I am not showing him affection? You do know there are MILLIONS of other ways to show affection?
                      Concrete evidence/videos please

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                      • Brandwin
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                        • Jul 2002
                        • 30621

                        #56
                        Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                        DC - for the record, I don't think you're wrong. Every set of parents are different.

                        I do have another question though...

                        For the guys who don't kiss their sons, do you allow your sons to lay on you while watching tv or whatever? You know, a head on your shoulder etc...

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                        • DC
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                          • Oct 2002
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                          #57
                          Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                          I would allow my son to rest on me while watching tv. My father allowed me to do that. I don't think that is anywhere the level of putting lips on another man though. I see where you are trying to go with this, so I don't see it as the same by any stretch
                          Concrete evidence/videos please

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                          • The GIGGAS
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                            #58
                            Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                            I think kissing kids on the lips is just... kind of odd, IMO. My dad usually kissed me on the cheek... and that's fine for me. I'll probably do the same thing for my children.
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                            • Trevytrev11
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                              • Nov 2006
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                              #59
                              Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                              Originally posted by DookieMowf
                              For the guys who don't kiss their sons, do you allow your sons to lay on you while watching tv or whatever? You know, a head on your shoulder etc...
                              Nope, not manly...guys laying on guys.

                              I have a daughter who lays all over me and her mother when we watch TV, I suspect my son will do the same. Sometimes she rests her head on my leg or sits on my lap or sleeps on my chest. IMO, young kids need love and affection and I will never deny them that as long as I feel it's appropriate. My goal as a parent is to raise a nice, caring, decent and respectible child and I think showing them love is the best way to initiate that, especially until they are at an age where I can't converse with them on a higher level. The best I can do is lead by example.

                              If my choices are to raise a loving and respectful child vs. a mean and tough one, I'll choose the first option every time. I've grown to be successful without the need to be a "tough guy" and I would prefer that route for my kids.

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                              • ProStylez
                                Goon Squad
                                • Oct 2006
                                • 1988

                                #60
                                Re: 2 part question for those with kids.

                                Originally posted by DC
                                When in doubt use the insecurity card.

                                So WHAT if he is my son. WHY kiss him on the LIPS is my question. WHY the LIPS?

                                Why do you keep saying I am not showing him affection? You do know there are MILLIONS of other ways to show affection?
                                I'm not saying I need to kiss his lips in fact I don't even know how it started. I never had a father around so it's not like my dad did it to me. I'm just saying if he comes up to me and gives me a kiss on his lips what I should do is say "Nah bro that **** is gay, you need to be a man...no homo" He is 4 not 14....if he wanted me to kiss his cheek I would and I actually do.
                                If he's playing baseball and hits a home run I'm not going to kiss him on his lips after the game I know there are boundaries but once before bed I see nothing wrong with.

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