Wife left me for another man

**USF11** · 02-15-2010, 02:17 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

We are gonna need pics to determine if you were right or wrong about this fitness model.

**RoyalBoyle78** · 02-15-2010, 02:22 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by The GIGGAS

Dude, if she's doing that, you have to get proof on tape somehow and present it to the court.

it doesn't work like that, I have been through this with my daughter, it's called TIFF FOR TATT, you can't bring any tape recordings or videos in Family court unless it request from the court. Telling a judge "here look she had her boyfriend around my kids", means nothing.

**The GIGGAS** · 02-15-2010, 02:34 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by FootballForever

it doesn't work like that, I have been through this with my daughter, it's called TIFF FOR TATT, you can't bring any tape recordings or videos in Family court unless it request from the court. Telling a judge "here look she had her boyfriend around my kids", means nothing.

I was in family court about my own custody, and my mother brought in evidence that my dad was beating me. Then again, I don't know if it was requested or not, but I do know it was at least shown in court. Perhaps this is one of those things that is different from state to state.

**RoyalBoyle78** · 02-15-2010, 03:05 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by The GIGGAS

I was in family court about my own custody, and my mother brought in evidence that my dad was beating me. Then again, I don't know if it was requested or not, but I do know it was at least shown in court. Perhaps this is one of those things that is different from state to state.

Yes, for abuse proof, of course . For "mommy brought me around her new boyfriend", NO. My custody case was just closed about 10 months ago, and I was in court for almost 2 years, I learner a lot about how famliy court works, and what's good and what's not good and what's tiff for tatt.

**The GIGGAS** · 02-15-2010, 03:20 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by FootballForever

Yes, for abuse proof, of course . For "mommy brought me around her new boyfriend", NO. My custody case was just closed about 10 months ago, and I was in court for almost 2 years, I learner a lot about how famliy court works, and what's good and what's not good and what's tiff for tatt.

Question then, FF.

Let's say the court stated that the children would not be allowed in the same room as the new guy. In that case, can the other man make an accusation and bring up evidence that they were in contempt of court?

**RoyalBoyle78** · 02-15-2010, 03:35 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by The GIGGAS

Question then, FF.

Let's say the court stated that the children would not be allowed in the same room as the new guy. In that case, can the other man make an accusation and bring up evidence that they were in contempt of court?

The other party can make an accusation, but you must prove it, but in the end most judges will just get sick of the back and forth about if the kids are with a parent with there boyfriend/girlfriend. It is what it is and that's something I had to deal with and my ex too. Also, most lawyers who represent you will tell you the same thing, let it go, it is what it is. Also understand, this is famliy court, and you don;t see many contempt's of court in famliy court.

Also in famliy court, they try and be fair to both parents, as most famliy courts just want both parents in the children life.

**Schism 6** · 02-15-2010, 04:18 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by aholbert32

I dont think its unneeded ammo though. His wife left him. Cheated on him. She is the one who abandoned the family home. Him dating another woman while separated isnt likely to put him in poor regard by the court. Also his children are 15 and 6 so the court is likely to take into consideration who they want to live with when deciding custody.Thats going to be the most important factor.

She left him. If a bikini model wants to help him through this time...he shouldnt hesitate.

Actual;ly it could keeping in mind that it is pretty soon afterwards, regardless of who's at fault, going in there single and showing the kids are your priority will serve you better, remember you're basically saying she chose the new guy over her family, and from what you've said she has. But take my advice and just focus on the kids for now, worry about your little head later, you'll thank me later.

**GAMEC0CK2002** · 02-15-2010, 06:21 PM

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Originally posted by Schism 6

Actual;ly it could keeping in mind that it is pretty soon afterwards, regardless of who's at fault, going in there single and showing the kids are your priority will serve you better, remember you're basically saying she chose the new guy over her family, and from what you've said she has. But take my advice and just focus on the kids for now, worry about your little head later, you'll thank me later.

Co-sign. And until the divorce has gone through he is still LEGALLY married.

**aholbert32** · 02-15-2010, 08:10 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by Scottdau

Yeah he should. He said this girl was kinda of wild. That is not what you want right now. He needs to show them he is the steady one. I just think this is a bad move all around. It sounds like Gary is going to be friends with her. That is a good move Gary.

How is dating someone showing the court that he is "unsteady"? I'm looking at this from a legal and personal perspective. There is a very small chance that this could affect him in court because of his wife's HUGE transgressions. So if Gary meets a girl (I'm not even saying its has to be this girl) and he is attracted to her, they hit it off and he feels like he's ready to move along...do it.

**aholbert32** · 02-15-2010, 08:17 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by Schism 6

Actual;ly it could keeping in mind that it is pretty soon afterwards, regardless of who's at fault, going in there single and showing the kids are your priority will serve you better, remember you're basically saying she chose the new guy over her family, and from what you've said she has. But take my advice and just focus on the kids for now, worry about your little head later, you'll thank me later.

I guess we just disagree on what the court will find more significant. IMO, the fact that she abandoned her children, husband and marital home is more significant than the fact that she cheated on him. In most custody cases, who the child wants to live with and if someone abandoned his/her children are some of the most important factors. Ive seen plenty of cases where the mom cheated, caused the divorce but didnt leave her kids and she was the one who got custody of the child.

I'm not saying he should go out and sleep with the woman immediately but I see nothing wrong with him hanging out with her or dating.

**Scottdau** · 02-15-2010, 08:26 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by aholbert32

How is dating someone showing the court that he is "unsteady"? I'm looking at this from a legal and personal perspective. There is a very small chance that this could affect him in court because of his wife's HUGE transgressions. So if Gary meets a girl (I'm not even saying its has to be this girl) and he is attracted to her, they hit it off and he feels like he's ready to move along...do it.

I agree with you to a point, but my point was this girl. He said she seem kind of wild, courts will not like that. I have seen it before. He needs to show a steady home and believe it or not. Having a young bikini model in his home, could look bad with the courts. I am not saying he can't date, but if it were me I would make sure I had the kids full time and then I would probably date again. But even then I don't know if it is wise to date so soon. The only reason I say that is because he is very vulnerable right now and getting involved with another woman is just too soon.

**longshadow11** · 02-16-2010, 10:38 AM

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The last thing my girls need is for me to bring a new woman around. They are already having a new man shoved in their faces. If a lady happens to show up uninvited, there's nothing I can do about that. But I don't plan to bring any around for a long time. Home is with me, and just me for now. My oldest said her mom is dead and been replaced with a woman she doesn't like very much. Very sad. In Sunday School my little one made a tree with tags on it. The tags had things she needs in life written on them. She had my name, her sister, food, and a few other things. Mom was left off. What a terrible thing my wife has done, but I'm glad my girls recognize me as the one parent getting it done.

**RoyalBoyle78** · 02-16-2010, 12:33 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by longshadow11

The last thing my girls need is for me to bring a new woman around. They are already having a new man shoved in their faces. If a lady happens to show up uninvited, there's nothing I can do about that. But I don't plan to bring any around for a long time. Home is with me, and just me for now. My oldest said her mom is dead and been replaced with a woman she doesn't like very much. Very sad. In Sunday School my little one made a tree with tags on it. The tags had things she needs in life written on them. She had my name, her sister, food, and a few other things. Mom was left off. What a terrible thing my wife has done, but I'm glad my girls recognize me as the one parent getting it done.

You are right for how your handling it, at this point two wrongs don't make a right. Only thing is, if you wanna go out on a date, DO IT, you wanna get some tail DO IT. Your Wife made this all possible. You don;t have to bring any woman around your children or tell them about anything for that matter, have the grandparents have a night with the kids and you do you. Trust me, when crap like this happens you need to go out have a good night.

**longshadow11** · 02-16-2010, 12:47 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

Originally posted by FootballForever

You are right for how your handling it, at this point two wrongs don't make a right. Only thing is, if you wanna go out on a date, DO IT, you wanna get some tail DO IT. Your Wife made this all possible. You don;t have to bring any woman around your children or tell them about anything for that matter, have the grandparents have a night with the kids and you do you. Trust me, when crap like this happens you need to go out have a good night.

Being Mr. Mom has been tough and a fun night out would be great. I just want to wait until a decent woman comes along. I know many who are nice but not too attractive, and I know a couple who are hot but too wild. So I'll just wait.

**Hova57** · 02-16-2010, 12:51 PM

Re: Wife left me for another man

its better that way man. you are doing a great job. when she comes around you'll know. let your girls get used to there current situation.

Wife left me for another man

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