Wife left me for another man

[TheShizNo1]

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****in A man! I'll continue to pray for you!

[Schism 6]

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The daughter is right. There was no question from me about that. But the strong word she described her mother is resentment and anger towards her mother. Something like this in a child/teenager could manifest into something worst if it's not handled properly. A child calling their mother a whore(no matter what she's done) is not a good way of dealing with an extreme situation.

In the adult world, you just cannot say what the first thing that is on your mind even if it is right. For example, if your working for a person who fires a co-worker you know is a hard worker AND he fired him for no good reason you cannot just outright call him an *******. Even though what he did was an ******* move. You do something like that, then you'd get fired.

The wife in this whole situation has really left the family hanging. The OP was already expressed his feeling of hurt and loss. But I just want him to keep into perspective that his daughters are also going through the hurt and pain as much as he is. And his oldest daughter needs to handle the situation like he's doing. Maybe I missed it BUT not once did he call his ex-wife a vile or vulgar name. Even though it maybe appropriate but he sounds like he's been the better man though this ordeal.

What are you talking about, as an adult you shouldn't have to sugar coat anything, when it comes to another adult. I'm not going to tiptoe around an adult who made a terrible decision, if they're close to me, they're gonna be help responsible and hear it, every time I see em till they change, or are out of my life. Got no time for people who refuse to help themselves...

[Flightwhite24]

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Thanks for all the support. I'm eating again and sleeping a little. My youngest daughter told me I'm her #1 person, her sister is #2, and mom is somewhere around there. My oldest has been great and loves the way I take care of them. She told me last night she hasn't eaten this well in years. I'm buying stuff and cooking it up!

I'm not totally faultless in all this, had I been a better husband maybe things would be different. However, over the past seven years I really tried to show her my love for her.

Things have gotten ugly. My wife has begun telling my oldest lies about me. This was in response to several people telling my daughter and me that the man my wife is marrying is a creep who preyed on high school girls. Too bad there is no proof, but I've heard this from several sources.

I've gone from sheer despair to a lot of anger. We own a big, expensive house which I have to sell due to the payment. My wife was screaming at me the other day because I had not put it on the market yet. She never cleaned and I had to haul off years of ebay and garage sale junk she accumulated. When I told her it needed a lot of cleaning, she told me to hire someone to clean it. I barely have enough money to survive considering she took her paycheck with her to this new life she wants. At this time I am feeling that she is a vile woman and mentally unstable. How can she cheat on me, walk out on her kids, and still be so mean? It's insane how much she has changed.

I hired the best lawyer I could find. My inheritance is gone, but I'm fighting for my girls. I prayed for a couple of weeks on what to do. I believe the message I have received is to fight. I might not win, but I know I'm right. I will have had the girls living with me for 6 weeks by the time we go to court, and my oldest has already said she is living with me. I think I have a good chance of winning. Even if I lose, I can look at myself in the mirror and know I stood up to what I consider a very evil situation.

The support from my community is unreal. People I barely know come up to me and say they're praying for my girls and me. It's pretty cool. People really like the way I'm handling my kids. It is very touching how people are standing against what they see as a cruel, unjust act by my wife and her boyfriend. I hope someday she realizes what she's done. I hope by then I've moved on and found a wonderful new wife.

Glad to hear you are starting to eat and get back to some of the things that you are use to doing. Time heals wounds/broken hearts that I do know. Take and God Bless

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Keep doing the right thing, which is focusing your efforts on the well being of your daughters. I'm praying that everything works out for you and your girls.

Try to stay out of the mud slinging, though it may be tempting. Just let the true colors being shown be your ammo.

[DocHolliday]

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You guys ever make some "Movies"? Time to go public my friend.

[bgeno]

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Sorry to hear it man. I will say one thing and some people might think it is crazy, however, psychotherapy is GOOD. Sometimes you just need someone to talk to or take what you have to say and a therapist is paid to do just that. Keep your family close, however, also seek help for yourself so you can be what you need to be for your family.

Absolutely. I didn't handle a break up so well, and I know it's not ANYWHERE NEAR what you're going through (I'm not trying to make a close comparison), but it helped a lot to go to counseling and to just get things off my chest and learn why I was feeling the way I was. It gave me something to look forward to every week and gave me someone that I knew did not have a biased view of the situation (like my friends) and could tell me the truth to my face because he was only interested in my mental and emotional well-being.

[Heelfan71]

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the fact that she cheated on you and how this ended would hurt her in court I would hope. Hopefully you get the kids, find a smaller home and in the end everything will turn out for the best.

[longshadow11]

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I asked my daughter last night if I have been saying negative things about my wife. She said mostly it's been "How could she do this to us" sort of talk. She said my wife has done a lot more mudslinging than me. It's hard to understand. She cheats on me, leaves our home and girls for me to raise alone, and talks bad about me. Wow.

Can't remember if I mentioned it already, but she used to bring her boyfriend up before I knew about him. She would laugh and say, "It's fun making you jealous." One time she brought him up and could tell it bothered me. She got this evil grin on her face as if she was thinking "Gotcha!" I couldn't believe it.

She has all but conceded temporary custody to me. She asked me to cover a few bills since she expects to be paying child support soon. I told her I would not. I just wrote a huge mortgage check. I hope her financial hardship wakes her to reality.

[jeremym480]

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^^ Dude don't give her a dime. She's made her bed, let her lie in it. And I really hope you get custody and she has to pay child support, that way she really knows what kind of loser she really is. And don't let her off the hook on child support either, go after everything you can. Your girls deserve it. Stay strong and good luck.

[Phobia]

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I asked my daughter last night if I have been saying negative things about my wife. She said mostly it's been "How could she do this to us" sort of talk. She said my wife has done a lot more mudslinging than me. It's hard to understand. She cheats on me, leaves our home and girls for me to raise alone, and talks bad about me. Wow.

Can't remember if I mentioned it already, but she used to bring her boyfriend up before I knew about him. She would laugh and say, "It's fun making you jealous." One time she brought him up and could tell it bothered me. She got this evil grin on her face as if she was thinking "Gotcha!" I couldn't believe it.

She has all but conceded temporary custody to me. She asked me to cover a few bills since she expects to be paying child support soon. I told her I would not. I just wrote a huge mortgage check. I hope her financial hardship wakes her to reality.

Yea don't give here a dime. You are not her man no longer, tell her to ask her NEW guy to pay her bills. This women sounds like a pure bitch. Not only does she cheat on you, she walks out on her kids, THEN wants you to pay some of her bills OMG......I would laugh right in her face and with that "Evil grin like I GOTCHA" say "You are no longer my wife, I am not giving you ISHHHHH".

Keep ya head high, things will improve with time.

Take care man, wish you the best
Phobia

[Scottdau]

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How old is your wife and are you about the same age as her? I just don't see how a lady in her late 30's or older can do this to her children. If she in her late 30's or older?

[AnArtofWar]

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That is just rough...you don't want to be with a person who would do that to ANYONE...obviously she is a sinful dirty person. If you need any help, try to get a therapist, if you have insurance you will probably have to pay a minimal co pay...although I don't know if you can pay the 10 dollars...if you can I would go for it. You'll feel better in the short run.

I am sure you will be fine and happy after all of this is over, selling the house and all of that...it sounds like your kids love you, take that as a glorious win, and feel good about that, a bright side to this unfortunate event that shouldn't happen to anyone.

[P2K]

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How old is your wife and are you about the same age as her? I just don't see how a lady in her late 30's or older can do this to her children. If she in her late 30's or older?

Age means nothing and you know this, man. People are what they are, whether they're 8 or 78.

[Scottdau]

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Age means nothing and you know this, man. People are what they are, whether they're 8 or 78.

I disagree. If she is in her 20's I can see this happening more. If she is in her 30's I can see it happening too, but if she is in her 40's. Then there is some serious problems with the lady. Especially if the kids are young. A mother would not do that to her kids. Sure it happens, but still.

[callmetaternuts]

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Holy poop. I'm late on this one, but I'm sorry to hear that Gary. I won't even attempt to say anything else because I'm sure it won't ease the hurt. Hang in there.