Wife left me for another man

[Herky]

Re: Wife left me for another man

Thanks again, everyone. I'll make it. We just don't eat out or things like that.

Tonight is her visitation, and she's having my girls over for supper with her boyfriend and his kids. It astounds me that she would have my teenage daughter over to house where she is living with another man and make her eat with him. This woman has no morals or values whatsoever. The worst part is I can't do anything about it.

The guy sounds like a real winner too if he's fine throwing his kids into this too.

You are better off without this woman from the sounds of it. I know it sucks now but things can only get better.

[RGiles36]

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Awesome. This is one of the best things I've seen happen in my time here at OS.

Hopefully everything works out for you Gary. Stay strong and keep your chin up. You're doing all you can, and doing it well.

Agreed. I was just perusing through various forums that I never visit and stumbled upon this thread. Very sad and disturbing story, but the communities' efforts are remarkable.

Good luck to Gary and his immediate family during this difficult time.

[longshadow11]

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Good day today! I was dyeing my oldest daughter's hair when the doorbell rang. I thought it was some kid, but when I opened the door it was a bikini model I met at the gym. She stopped by to check on me and see how I'm doing. She ended up finishing the dyeing job because I was screwing it up. She hung around for a while and asked for my phone number. I'm not saying anything's gonna happen, especially since my girls don't need to see both parents with other people, but this was definitely a boost.

I have no idea if she is interested, but it made me feel like I will be able to attract another woman someday. She seems like she may be pretty wild, so I'm hesitant to get anything started after my divorce is final. Still, she is smokin' hot. It was nice to have a little attention from such a gorgeous woman.

She gave me her number, but I'm determined to not call.

[jeremym480]

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Good day today! I was dyeing my oldest daughter's hair when the doorbell rang. I thought it was some kid, but when I opened the door it was a bikini model I met at the gym. She stopped by to check on me and see how I'm doing. She ended up finishing the dyeing job because I was screwing it up. She hung around for a while and asked for my phone number. I'm not saying anything's gonna happen, especially since my girls don't need to see both parents with other people, but this was definitely a boost.

I have no idea if she is interested, but it made me feel like I will be able to attract another woman someday. She seems like she may be pretty wild, so I'm hesitant to get anything started after my divorce is final. Still, she is smokin' hot. It was nice to have a little attention from such a gorgeous woman.

She gave me her number, but I'm determined to not call.

Yeah, definitely be careful until the divorce is final. After that when the kid's are away, it's time for Gary to play. If you know what I'm saying.

[z Revis]

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Good day today! I was dyeing my oldest daughter's hair when the doorbell rang. I thought it was some kid, but when I opened the door it was a bikini model I met at the gym. She stopped by to check on me and see how I'm doing. She ended up finishing the dyeing job because I was screwing it up. She hung around for a while and asked for my phone number. I'm not saying anything's gonna happen, especially since my girls don't need to see both parents with other people, but this was definitely a boost.

I have no idea if she is interested, but it made me feel like I will be able to attract another woman someday. She seems like she may be pretty wild, so I'm hesitant to get anything started after my divorce is final. Still, she is smokin' hot. It was nice to have a little attention from such a gorgeous woman.

She gave me her number, but I'm determined to not call.

Nice man! That sounds great. I'd definitely hold out on her though. I have yet to get married so I can't say I can personally relate to your side of it. However, I can relate to your kids side. My entire life my parents were splitting up constantly, went through 2 divorces only to get back together every time. Usually they'd split up because my dad was cheating. And EVERY TIME they split up and my mom moved out, my dad would bring some other girl around me that I don't even know. He never waited or anything. Literally within two days he'd have some chick over. He'd have sex with them while I'm there too. And seriously, like every other week he'd have a DIFFERENT girl over. He rarely stayed with just 1 girl. It bugged the living hell out of me and sort of made me despise my father even though we were so close and did everything together(I even worked for him for a year). It made me depressed and I never wanted to be at home. I'd always go out to a friends house whenever I could and on the weekends and I'd stay the night. Eventually I stopped staying with my dad every time my parents would split up. I'd move in with my mom because I couldn't stand living with my dad and having him bring other random girls around me.

I don't know why my mom kept taking him back either. I kept telling her to stop taking him back. Move on. She never really listened. Once I moved out of my parents house and went to College, my dad finally decided to get help. My parents went to marriage counseling too. They've been great ever since and have been split up free, for a lack of a better term, for a couple years now.

[Scottdau]

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Bro just be friends. You don't need a wild girl in your life. You want to make sure the courts see you as the responsible one.

[Money99]

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Definitely call her! But just be honest about where you are in your life.
Tell her you're not looking for anything long-term and if you want to be friends first (hopefully with a few benefits) , that would be great for you.

I agree that you shouldn't bring anyone into your life as a serious relationship so soon.
But there's nothing wrong with getting to know this woman during the days your girls are with your ex-wife.

[TheShizNo1]

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Best way to get over one is get under another

[CMH]

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Just be cautious, man.

You know what things disappoint your girls about their mother. And you also know what actions your wife took at the court or has taken that your lawyer believes will make it difficult for her to gain custody if she ever tries.

Think about that whenever you think about what actions you want to take. Obviously, no one here is telling you to remain single the rest of your life. I doubt even your daughters will want that for their father. But, at this time, when the divorce is still being handled, when full custody is yet to be determined, you don't want to make a mistake.

Also, I think you're still hurting from all this and while it would be good thing to get to know this woman, it might be better for you to stay away from thinking about a relationship at this point.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

Re: Wife left me for another man

Keep your eyes on the big prize (custody). Probably best to not even entertain the idea of flirting with this girl.

Everything that looks good, isn't necessarily good for you. (at least while things are still up in the air)

Keep in mind courts like to side with the mother, no matter what...so don't give your soon-to-be ex. any unneeded ammo.

[aholbert32]

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Keep your eyes on the big prize (custody). Probably best to not even entertain the idea of flirting with this girl.

Everything that looks good, isn't necessarily good for you. (at least while things are still up in the air)

Keep in mind courts like to side with the mother, no matter what...so don't give your soon-to-be ex. any unneeded ammo.

I dont think its unneeded ammo though. His wife left him. Cheated on him. She is the one who abandoned the family home. Him dating another woman while separated isnt likely to put him in poor regard by the court. Also his children are 15 and 6 so the court is likely to take into consideration who they want to live with when deciding custody.Thats going to be the most important factor.

She left him. If a bikini model wants to help him through this time...he shouldnt hesitate.

[longshadow11]

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The young lady called me today, and I think she's a little out of her mind. I think I'll stick to being friends. I'll take the attention from her as a great compliment and move on.

[jnofx]

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They all seem to be a little out of their mind, but you're definitely doing the smart thing.......

[matt314hew]

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Good day today! I was dyeing my oldest daughter's hair when the doorbell rang. I thought it was some kid, but when I opened the door it was a bikini model I met at the gym. She stopped by to check on me and see how I'm doing. She ended up finishing the dyeing job because I was screwing it up. She hung around for a while and asked for my phone number. I'm not saying anything's gonna happen, especially since my girls don't need to see both parents with other people, but this was definitely a boost.

I have no idea if she is interested, but it made me feel like I will be able to attract another woman someday. She seems like she may be pretty wild, so I'm hesitant to get anything started after my divorce is final. Still, she is smokin' hot. It was nice to have a little attention from such a gorgeous woman.

She gave me her number, but I'm determined to not call.

I haven't read this in a while but it is good to see that you are doing a little better. And awesome about the OPers helping out and donating money for a game. I would have if I would have been here.

Also if she isn't interested in dating, she can be something you can still talk to. It seems like her coming over means at least she wants to be a friend to help you out. Seems like she cares about you.

[Scottdau]

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I dont think its unneeded ammo though. His wife left him. Cheated on him. She is the one who abandoned the family home. Him dating another woman while separated isnt likely to put him in poor regard by the court. Also his children are 15 and 6 so the court is likely to take into consideration who they want to live with when deciding custody.Thats going to be the most important factor.

She left him. If a bikini model wants to help him through this time...he shouldnt hesitate.

Yeah he should. He said this girl was kinda of wild. That is not what you want right now. He needs to show them he is the steady one. I just think this is a bad move all around. It sounds like Gary is going to be friends with her. That is a good move Gary.