Should there be privacy within a marriage?

[stewaat]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

I'm not telling everything I do and my computer is mine

[MassNole]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Seeing single people comment on marriage is always hilarious.

[funky_chicken]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

I'm not telling everything I do and my computer is mine

Good man.

[mgoblue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Seeing single people comment on marriage is always hilarious.

It just depends on what you're hiding...everyone deserves some privacy and personal stuff, but if you're hiding lots of stuff because your wife would pitch a fit then you have other relationship issues to address that aren't really privacy related.

If you're constantly looking at porn, or have a separate e-mail to do "chat" with internet women, or other stuff....

I guess my point is that if you're doing tons of stuff that 100% needs to be hidden, you should reevaluate your relationship. Everyone's got their personal stuff that you can keep to yourself, obviously...I don't want my future wife snooping all on my computer either, have to have some privacy.

I've just seen too many marriages collapse because of a lack of communication and keeping too many secrets, so that's where my motivation is.

Oh, I know i haven't been married and don't know it all...just have learned from watching my parents stay together from me being "unplanned" and they weren't married, along with seeing a lot of people get divorced nowadays and talking to them about the issues they had...

[MassNole]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

It just depends on what you're hiding...everyone deserves some privacy and personal stuff, but if you're hiding lots of stuff because your wife would pitch a fit then you have other relationship issues to address that aren't really privacy related.

If you're constantly looking at porn, or have a separate e-mail to do "chat" with internet women, or other stuff....

I guess my point is that if you're doing tons of stuff that 100% needs to be hidden, you should reevaluate your relationship. Everyone's got their personal stuff that you can keep to yourself, obviously...I don't want my future wife snooping all on my computer either, have to have some privacy.

I've just seen too many marriages collapse because of a lack of communication and keeping too many secrets, so that's where my motivation is.

Oh, I know i haven't been married and don't know it all...just have learned from watching my parents stay together from me being "unplanned" and they weren't married, along with seeing a lot of people get divorced nowadays and talking to them about the issues they had...

Every relationship is unique, what works for one doesn't always work for another. Seeing some of the comments in here I bet I could fairly accurately guess who will either be single for life or go throgh more than one marriage.

[mgoblue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Every relationship is unique, what works for one doesn't always work for another. Seeing some of the comments in here I bet I could fairly accurately guess who will either be single for life or go throgh more than one marriage.

Very true...

[MC Fatigue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Absolutely there should be. Everyone needs privacy in their life. A life without privacy is a pretty ****ty life.

[jnofx]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Every relationship is unique, what works for one doesn't always work for another. Seeing some of the comments in here I bet I could fairly accurately guess who will either be single for life or go throgh more than one marriage.

I sincerely hope I fall into the "single for life" category. Maybe I'm hanging around the wrong people, but every married person I know is miserable.

[MBFranchise]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Absolutely there should be. Everyone needs privacy in their life. A life without privacy is a pretty ****ty life.

What do all of you have to hide from your spouse?

We tell each other everything. Why not?

[MC Fatigue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

What do all of you have to hide from your spouse?

We tell each other everything. Why not?

Hide and privacy are two different things. Don't mix the two up. Thanks.

[deaduck]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Hide and privacy are two different things. Don't mix the two up. Thanks.

That's a language semantics game.

The question is still valid. For those saying privacy is a must...what are trying to have remain private?

[MC Fatigue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

That's a language semantics game.

The question is still valid. For those saying privacy is a must...what are trying to have remain private?

Well I can list several times I like privacy. First off - when I'm taking a dump, I'm a fan of the door closed and people not trying to talk to me. I like my privacy there.

I also like having some privacy at home sometimes to just relax and play a game or do some studying. It sure can suck having people around you all the time and never having a minute to yourself.

I have my own bank account and one benefit is I can buy my wife something without her seeing every charge that goes through...

etc, etc, etc.

Privacy isn't just a verbal thing, it can be a physical thing. It's not just about talking and sharing every little thing, it's also about having time to yourself and not having someone around you all the time.

Everyone needs some privacy in their lives; and I'd say anyone saying they don't is a liar to either others or to themselves.

[aukevin]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

My wife has all my email passwords and stuff like that, and I have no problem with her knowing those. There's not anything I won't tell her, but I wouldn't like it if she just read my email for fun.

[mgoblue]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

My wife has all my email passwords and stuff like that, and I have no problem with her knowing those. There's not anything I won't tell her, but I wouldn't like it if she just read my email for fun.

Yeah, exactly...

Also, with privacy relating to bathroom functions and whatnot I completely agree...she doesn't have to be doing her makeup while I'm doing #2. And I think everyone needs personal time in a relationship, sometimes you just want to play a game, watch a game, or just read/relax on your own...

[ScoobySnax]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Yeah, exactly...

Also, with privacy relating to bathroom functions and whatnot I completely agree...she doesn't have to be doing her makeup while I'm doing #2. And I think everyone needs personal time in a relationship, sometimes you just want to play a game, watch a game, or just read/relax on your own...

All of this.