Should there be privacy within a marriage?

[allBthere]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

In a perfect world, my future wife (single) and i will have separate bathrooms.

I've practically had a 'wife' though, we were together for 6.5 years, she had some type of mid-life crisis and ended it. Was very sad because we had a great relationship. There was privacy and alone time, but complete trust too.

I think a lot of trust issues leading to real problems stem from the other person. For example I'm not jealous - at all. If you want to cheat on me, what you've done is decided to end our relationship. I don't want to be with you since you'd rather be with someone else. Because of my attitude I don't get cheated on. I think the really jealous types do get cheated on, at least in part as a result of their jealousy.

[DC]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

No there should be 0 privacy...Face it, the more secrets you have to hide, the more explaining you have to do...LOL and people wonder WHY marriage doesn't work in this day and age...In our society, marriage is nothing more than "materialistic" especially when you have people getting married 2 times in 5 years...

if you want privacy, then well..dont get married....


I cant stand people who think they HAVE to get married...

I dont even understand the logic behind cheating on your GF....Be single!!!!


Swinger life = happiness

So would you consider me not handing over my online passwords are privacy?

[Jukeman]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

So would you consider me not handing over my online passwords are privacy?

IMO, you shouldn't demand privacy if your committed to a relationship(marriage)

If you and your partner trusted each other in the first place, you wouldn't even need to be private..It would come we trust

[DC]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

If we trusted each other why should she want/need my personal passwords?

Am I just supposed to volunteer them? How should that work exactly? That is a world I don't know anything of.

[legendkiller5]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

All I know is my chick isn't getting any of my passwords, nor will I ask for hers. If she can't handle that, then deuces.

[Jonesy]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

If we trusted each other why should she want/need my personal passwords?

Am I just supposed to volunteer them? How should that work exactly? That is a world I don't know anything of.

Well i know with my wife and I she doesn't know my passwords and i don't know hers but there have been times that have arisen where she has needed one of mine and i have needed one of hers and we share them without a second thought. I don't need/want to know all of her personal details but she'd give them to me if i asked.

Needing to be able to track everything a loved one does isn't building a trusting relationship so i steer clear of that nonsense and quickly ended any relationship with women who were controlling like that.

[WTF]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Well i know with my wife and I she doesn't know my passwords and i don't know hers but there have been times that have arisen where she has needed one of mine and i have needed one of hers and we share them without a second thought. I don't need/want to know all of her personal details but she'd give them to me if i asked.

Needing to be able to track everything a loved one does isn't building a trusting relationship so i steer clear of that nonsense and quickly ended any relationship with women who were controlling like that.

THIS. Not saying "GIVE ME YOUR PASSWORDS... "

My wife and I have exchanged ours on a "need to know basis". We didn't go into and say "give me your information, I don't trust you..." She has needed access to mine for something, and she has wanted me to check hers on other occasions. If you have a problem with giving that information up when your significant other asks for it, then you have a problem, in my opinion. There are two sides to every argument, so I can see where everyone else is coming from.

[DC]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

I am not referring to, call your woman and say, "Aye I need you to sign on to my ESPN Account and Change my fantasy team for me."

I am talking about:
Her: What is your FB password
Me: Why?
Her: Just in case I ever need to check it
Me: Why would you ever need to check it


THAT. Other than reason #1 I listed above, there is no reason anyone should have anyone else's passwords.

If you have a problem with giving that information up when your significant other asks for it, then you have a problem, in my opinion.

Why is that a problem though? Why does someone have to have a problem if they don't want to give up that information? As I said, there is NO reason that someone should ASK for someone else's personal passwords unless they are trying to snoop. There is NO REASON a woman ASKS for a man's Facebook/MySpace/EMAIL password other than to snoop. So why do EYE have a problem if I don't give them up to a woman that ASKS me? As if she is entitled to it?

[WTF]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

No, that's not what I'm saying either DC. Your top point up there... if a girl was just saying "I need your facebook password to check it" then there is a problem of sorts from trust on her end. I don't have a problem giving it up, because I don't necessarily care. Likewise I'm not going to ask for my wife's... but she has called me and told me to check because someone sent her a message, and she wanted to know what it said, so I played the part of "reader over the phone".

I'm just saying that if I wanted/needed my wife to check something for me (which is becoming less since we have these internet phones now), that I don't have a problem giving her my username/password to whatever site I need her to check, and she is the same way.

But for someone to straight out come and ask say "hey, i need to know what you're doing and who you're talking to" then they have some major trust issues.

[DC]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

But for someone to straight out come and ask say "hey, i need to know what you're doing and who you're talking to" then they have some major trust issues.

Yep, this is what I have an issue with. The other situations are understandable. But usually, if I need something checked, I would prefer to call one of my boys and ask them to check it for me. For the most part, my circle of friends all have each other's passwords.

[KG]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Thankfully there are cell phones these days where I can check everything I need on them including fantasy sports.

[ExtremeGamer]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

Yep, this is what I have an issue with. The other situations are understandable. But usually, if I need something checked, I would prefer to call one of my boys and ask them to check it for me. For the most part, my circle of friends all have each other's passwords.

Why do you share your passwords with all your guy friends?

[DC]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

I don't SHARE them per-se. But after years and years and years of, "DO me a favor and log-on to my _____ account." - it just ended up that way. I have been friends with the same group of dudes for 10+ years.

[ExtremeGamer]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

I don't SHARE them per-se. But after years and years and years of, "DO me a favor and log-on to my _____ account." - it just ended up that way. I have been friends with the same group of dudes for 10+ years.

Alrighty then. I've had friends for 20 plus years that don't remotely know my passwords, but whatever floats your boat.

[WTF]

Re: Should there be privacy within a marriage?

That's sort of the same thing as being married DC, and your wife acquiring your password through the years.