Am I Wrong

[CharlieBrown]

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1. She was checking in on him to keep dude on her roster. I'm sure she cares some, but...

2. He was wrong for probing.

3. Yet, he was correct for kickin' her keister to the curb for good. No good comes from a guy staying buddies with his ex.

Exactly.

Sorry for your loss, but probing for info was a bad move on your part. Cutting complete ties with her is good though.

Keep your head up, man. Things will get better.

[Husker_OS]

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Sorry to hear about your friend. That's got to be tough to deal with.


As for your question, ignorance is bliss when it comes to your ex girlfriends. The less you know about what they're doing and who they're doing, the better.

[iAM-IncReDiBLe-]

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3. Yet, he was correct for kickin' her keister to the curb for good. No good comes from a guy staying buddies with his ex.

Oh i agree that this was a good move. I was just trying to say that his frustration about finding out she was with another dude combined with his recent loss caused him to react like that. Which is a good move because if he didn't find out she was already seeing other guys he may not have cut her off.

[trobinson97]

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He's wrong for wanting to cut her off and realizing how she really is?

How she really is? It's his ex girlfriend, not his current girlfriend. She called to see if he was alright, and it sounds like he somehow parlayed that into an investigation of her personal business. It can't be stressed enough, she's his ex and what she does with whoever really isn't any of his business. He pressed her, and didn't like what he heard so he threw a little tantrum.

The guy is down, please don't knock him any further.

I'm not knocking the man while he's down either. I mean he came and asked for opinions on the matter and I just gave mine. I said I was sorry for his loss and I am, but to answer his question yes, in my opinion, he's wrong.

From what I can gather, he's mad because his girlfriend has moved on and isn't spending all her time with him during this time of grief, even though she did her part as a friend by calling and checking up on him. Now he wants to cut her off? Sounds unnecessary.

I just don't understand why you would hold an ex girlfriend to the same standard of "loyalty" as you would someone you are in a committed relationship with. I don't understand how you can call her inconsiderate either, she didn't volunteer the info, he probed for it.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Personally, you should have dropped it when you two were done talking about the loss of your friend. She's your ex girlfriend and keeping in contact with her just keeps that wound open, so obviously anything "positive" she has to tell you you're going to react negatively. What were you expecting her to do/say when you asked her why she was still out/up at 1:30 in the AM?


I think cutting your ties with her is a good idea, but I don't agree with the reasoning. Still though, you have to move on sometime and its better you do it sooner than later so you don't regret all that wasted time. On the other hand, some people can be friends with their ex's, but I have no idea how because I could never do it.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Personally, you should have dropped it when you two were done talking about the loss of your friend. She's your ex girlfriend and keeping in contact with her just keeps that wound open, so obviously anything "positive" she has to tell you you're going to react negatively. What were you expecting her to do/say when you asked her why she was still out/up at 1:30 in the AM?


I think cutting your ties with her is a good idea, but I don't agree with the reasoning. Still though, you have to move on sometime and its better you do it sooner than later so you don't regret all that wasted time. On the other hand, some people can be friends with their ex's, but I have no idea how because I could never do it.

It takes time. Having a significant other "upgrade" also helps. Sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side.

[onlybygrace]

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So...*sigh*...nevermind.

Lets just say that 'yes', you are wrong.

[Jasong7777]

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Sorry about your loss man. Forget about that broad.

[stlstudios189]

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I think that you are okay to make a mistake while this is happening talk to her later and tell her how you feel.

[DC]

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^ Why should he do that?

[raidersbball20]

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I understand your situation, I can't say I've ever been in something with death like that. You got hurt by the death and the thing you wanted the most was to see her again, and now it seems like she doesn't care at all even though your in something she can't imagine... you just have to stay strong and try to find new people

[raidersbball20]

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also you have to put yourself in her situation im sure she was pretty confused and you probably shouldn't have gone off on her

[Bellsprout]

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What the helll dude.........no offense but that is your EX. What makes you think she was going to put her life on hold for you ? Life goes on. I mean hell before you told her, she probably had plans made before hand anyway.

So what she was suppose to do ? Tell the new guy she trying to date that she got to cancel the date because my ex is crying and he needs me to hold him ?

You know full well that wouldn't sound right. And you know if a girl you were trying to date cancel your date to go to her crying ex boyfriend house to hold him you would have a fit.

Ding, ding ding. That's the correct answer, in my opinion.

[P2K]

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also you have to put yourself in her situation im sure she was pretty confused and you probably shouldn't have gone off on her

She knew what she was doing. Women are natural schemers. So calculating, they will even convince themselves that they aren't doing anything wrong.

Why would this chick get in contact with the dude she just got out of a relationship with, whom she knows is grieving, from another guy's place? She was probably texting him while in guy's bed lol. What would make her think to contact her ex while gettin' some at another guy's place? Think of that for a sec...

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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She knew what she was doing. Women are natural schemers. So calculating, they will even convince themselves that they aren't doing anything wrong.

Why would this chick get in contact with the dude she just got out of a relationship with, whom she knows is grieving, from another guy's place? She was probably texting him while in guy's bed lol. What would make her think to contact her ex while gettin' some at another guy's place? Think of that for a sec...

With no insider knowledge, I give her the benefit of the doubt. She didn't have to contact him AT ALL.