Interesting ordeal at the gym tonight...

[Con-Con]

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^What he said. I could do without these scenarios lol. Like I said, happy thoughts.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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With all the SINGLE and available 20-something T&A out there, I don't understand the appeal...


Maybe it's just me, but married women are always off limits. Way too many people are affected by it....husband, kids, etc. Yeah it's mainly on her, but it takes two to tango.

[TheShizNo1]

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I posted this in another thread. It's the day and age of the cougar. We, in our young 20's have a duty to fulfill. Do not let us down......unless she's married

[Con-Con]

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Yo I can't help if potential poonani is thrown on my table. I was just being myself at the gym. Plus she's bangable. I clearly see the risks. That's why I wanted a second opinion on it all. But if it's in a place where I can get in, get out for the hell of it, why not? Besides, ain't like I'm rushing into it.

I see the married folk are mixed about this, and I clearly understand. Do consider the fact that her husband straight up left her ***, presumably for good. She didn't seem bothered in the least bit in telling a complete stranger her business. As far as her kids goes, some of y'all right I gotta avoid that topic at all costs.

[Nivek]

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Yo I can't help if potential poonani is thrown on my table. I was just being myself at the gym. Plus she's bangable. I clearly see the risks. That's why I wanted a second opinion on it all. But if it's in a place where I can get in, get out for the hell of it, why not? Besides, ain't like I'm rushing into it.

I see the married folk are mixed about this, and I clearly understand. Do consider the fact that her husband straight up left her ***, presumably for good. She didn't seem bothered in the least bit in telling a complete stranger her business. As far as her kids goes, some of y'all right I gotta avoid that topic at all costs.

What's your deal homie? Are you looking for validation from a message board? It seems like you've already made your mind up. So hit it until you can upgrade your female situation. That's it.

[agte]

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maybe she's got a hot little 18 year old daughter?

never know?

[Con-Con]

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What's your deal homie? Are you looking for validation from a message board? It seems like you've already made your mind up. So hit it until you can upgrade your female situation. That's it.

Not at all, man. It just that I never had a cougar, let alone a woman with her situation, hit on me before. I wanted to know what I was getting into before I ventured into the unknown. Hell, everybody here could've told me don't do it and I still would've for the sake of my own curiousness. I figured from the ODogg discussion that someone could let me know what I'm dealing with here, so pardon me if this is a little new.

[Nivek]

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Not at all, man. It just that I never had a cougar, let alone a woman with her situation, hit on me before. I wanted to know what I was getting into before I ventured into the unknown. Hell, everybody here could've told me don't do it and I still would've for the sake of my own curiousness. I figured from the ODogg discussion that someone could let me know what I'm dealing with here, so pardon me if this is a little new.

I'm not hating at all. It just seems like you already have your mind made up, but are getting defensive when other people are telling you not to do it. I for one hope you go through with it and enjoy it.

[areobee401]

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Ah another male/female relationship thread...I'm starting to love these. I think we can all say we helped Odogg out, and I'm really happy for the guy.

This is a simple case of Stella trying to get her groove back. I say that because she choose YOU in this instance. She interrupted your workout and started the conversation, you simply enabled her to talk. You played your part, all you did was listen and provided petty compliments that validated her new role as a cougar.

Is she into you? Aside from your youth, I doubt it. She's not treating you subjectively. You're a 21 year old, and she's 48. She's not looking for a man, she's looking to have fun with a young buck. Can you **** the snot outta her? Of course, and by all means. Keep this as a jump-off. (For the urban impaired, a jump-off is a girl who is available anytime for sexual gratification)

You're dealing with confidence issues so ****ing her will only help with your self-esteem. Another bonus is she'll enable you to step your game up. I doubt older women do this consciously, but they have an impact on your fashion, your communication with other females and even your sex life. Older women have more awareness when it comes to what a man actually looks like and they will show you the way. This woman will tell you what looks good with your body type, what cologne you should wear and how you should fix your hair. Prime example, look what Aston Kutcher use to look like before he met Demi Moore. He went from being an Abercrombie and fitch, trucker hat wearing douche bag into Mr. GQ over night. You have to leverage her wisdom, she knows more about being a man then you do.

Plus, she's also dealing with confidence issues, and by ****ing you allows her to get back into the game and make her feel like a young women again. She's technically still married, but that shouldn't stop you. (I can already hear the bible thumpers bashing me) A women will not leave a man without having another guy to fall in line. It's just women psychology, don't try to understand it, just keep hitting it.

It's a win/win situation, as long as you don't fall for her.

I've been in this situation before, all I'm going to say is have fun. This will only help your confidence, but do not treat her like a g/f. Do not buy her flowers or write her any emo poems. Just hook up, have good conversation that enables her to talk about life (stay away from anything that mentions her ex) and have sex. That's it. Don't play Aston Kutcher and don't let her introduce you to her kids or her friends. Allow her to tell you what women want..she's been one for 48 years. Use her to your advantage my man and reap all the benefits.

This was posted on the first page of this thread. Listen to what this man is saying.

[Brandwin]

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Unless the Husband shows up mid Cougar attack that isn't his problem.

ROFL!

Listen to Nivek and not only get a rise out of your penis for a rise for your self esteem.

[Scottdau]

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You guys are telling him to hit it with a 49 year old? For real? Go watch Fatal Attraction. Ladies that age are crazy! In all serious; I would pass on a woman that have kids my age or that are 20 years older than me. But hey that is just me. Good luck with what ever you decide.

[TheShizNo1]

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You guys are telling him to hit it with a 49 year old? For real? Go watch Fatal Attraction. Ladies that age are crazy! In all serious; I would pass on a woman that have kids my age or that are 20 years older than me. But hey that is just me. Good luck with what ever you decide.

So many jokes went through my head with that, but I'll be serious.

23, lately for whatever reason, I've started talking to older women. Nothing serious, just fun hanging out. It's a nice break from the the women of my age who still have no idea what they want in life and sometimes don't even know who they are. As long as you stay away from certain things, as a post mentioned earlier, you're fine.

[Scottdau]

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I am just saying as someone that is 38. I would stay away from the Cougars. Sure it sounds fun, but a lot of cougars are head cases. Sorry to be so mean about them, but it true. They want to do what the man can do and that is go hook up with some hot little 20 year old girl, but they are going for the hot 20 year old boy. But like I said before, I am sure you guys that are in your 20's think I am crazy for saying that, but I bet you when you get my age you will feel the same way I do. Good luck Con with all this. I wish the best for you.
One more thing. One more thing why did the husband. People need to take that into consideration when you are dating someone. If the person just left OK, but it takes two to wreck a relationship usually. I wouldn't be surprise if she had a part in the husband leaving too. I have seen some real nice ladies before and I was like why would their husbands split. Then after some more time with them. I totally got why they split. And the same can go for guys too.

[DueceDiggla]

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Yo I can't help if potential poonani is thrown on my table. I was just being myself at the gym. Plus she's bangable. I clearly see the risks. That's why I wanted a second opinion on it all. But if it's in a place where I can get in, get out for the hell of it, why not? Besides, ain't like I'm rushing into it.

I see the married folk are mixed about this, and I clearly understand. Do consider the fact that her husband straight up left her ***, presumably for good. She didn't seem bothered in the least bit in telling a complete stranger her business. As far as her kids goes, some of y'all right I gotta avoid that topic at all costs.

Just do it. If you're even thinking about it, then you will probably do it regardless of what anyone here tells you.

Just be smart and don't give her too much info about yourself in case things go bad.

[DueceDiggla]

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I am just saying as someone that is 38. I would stay away from the Cougars. Sure it sounds fun, but a lot of cougars are head cases. Sorry to be so mean about them, but it true. They want to do what the man can do and that is go hook up with some hot little 20 year old girl, but they are going for the hot 20 year old boy. But like I said before, I am sure you guys that are in your 20's think I am crazy for saying that, but I bet you when you get my age you will feel the same way I do. Good luck Con with all this. I wish the best for you.
One more thing. One more thing why did the husband. People need to take that into consideration when you are dating someone. If the person just left OK, but it takes two to wreck a relationship usually. I wouldn't be surprise if she had a part in the husband leaving too. I have seen some real nice ladies before and I was like why would their husbands split. Then after some more time with them. I totally got why they split. And the same can go for guys too.

If he is just looking to have sex with this woman (which I recommend) then why does it matter if she's a headcase or the reason why her husband left her?

I'm 31, and if I was single and a 48 yr old hit on me and was hot, then I'd go with it. Its ok to not follow the straight and narrow your whole life.