There's so many ways to take that quote. Honesty with others. Honesty with your environment. Most importantly, however, is honesty with yourself. To me, I interpreted that line as being honest with yourself as the pinnacle. If you can't be honest with yourself, looking at yourself and even the world around you, objectively then it's going to be hard to be honest with others. If you don't know who you are then how can you?
From that honesty opens up so many more channels and allows you to be honest with others. While Ellison's remark follows the honesty with others more closely the journey the protagonist takes is essentially finding that honesty with himself. Before he can see the world, his effect/non-effect on it, and those around him he has to wake himself to the truth of himself.
You mention relationships and shedding those based on peculiar circumstances. I've lost some "good" friends because I became honest with myself and the relationship by accepting I was the only one working and nurturing it. Without my effort it went by the wayside. Recently, I've have an awakening about my work. Once you open yourself up to the truth of things then you can actually start anew - accepting the circumstances of the current situation so you can plan and strategize for the future.
It is absolutely an amazing read. A simultaneous journey through a part of America that most people don't want to pull the curtain back on - a part that is with little change unfortunately - and a path to self-honesty.
If you want to stay in the same ballpark for recommendations I would recommend Coates, but you're probably way ahead of the game on him. We Should All Be Feminists is a great, short read that is adapted from a TED Talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.
Lovecraft Country was fantastic if you're looking for some fictional work.
Something lighter - perhaps the new Children of Blood and Bone? It's been an absolutely, amazingly entertaining read as I'm about 4/5 of the way through now.
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