I just want to hear some advice....

[Heisman316]

This is dating stuff, and I have asked my friends but I just wanna hear more opinions on what to do. So here we go.....

I've known this girl since my Sophmore year in High School. I'm now a senior and a week ago on Wednesday we started seriously talking. This past Monday, I asked her to the movies. She said okay. Then on Tuesday and Wednesday I walked with her to class and everything was going good. Then on Wednesday afternoon, I asked her if we were still going on Friday and got no reply. 3 hours later, I had my friend text her (she dosent know him) and she texted back. At 10 she told me she had been sleeping. Definately you've been sleeping from 4 to 10 hahahaha. On Thursday we walk right past each other and nothing is said. Then Friday I told her friend to talk to her for me and see whats going on. And now her friend won't even talk to me.

WTF is going on? Anyone ever had this happen to them? What should I do now? I'm just trying to hear as many opinions as possible, becasue I really like that girl I was talking to.

[TheMatrix31]

Re: I just want to hear some advice....

I'd let her go. This is blunt but, all chicks are ****ing crazy. There really is no rhyme or reason to her actions. She's just trying to play games or something and her friends are probably influencing her one way or the other.

[NDAlum]

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My advice is to not care

The less you care, the more they do

[Heisman316]

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Like how long should I wait to try to be her friend again though? Because it's gonna be awkward to even attempt to talk to her now.

And ND, I know, but where her friend talked to her for me that route is kinda blown off haha.

[NDAlum]

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Who cares man there are so many other girls.

My advice is to go about your life not worrying about the situation. Whatever happens happens.

You're going to try and be her friend? Give me a break man.

You'll look back saying "Damn ND was right!"

[Heisman316]

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Who cares man there are so many other girls.

My advice is to go about your life not worrying about the situation. Whatever happens happens.

You're going to try and be her friend? Give me a break man.

You'll look back saying "Damn ND was right!"

I like your style haha.

And yea I want to be her friend, because for two years we had a great friendship.

She's been my best friend, so that's why I'm upset.

I'm over trying to be more than friends, but just want to get that back I don't know how.

But ND, you probably are right. And as of now that's my course of action is to do nothing, and then maybe she'll realize she misses me. Thanks for your help.

[TheMatrix31]

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I like your style haha.

And yea I want to be her friend, because for two years we had a great friendship.

She's been my best friend, so that's why I'm upset.

I'm over trying to be more than friends, but just want to get that back I don't know how.

Sounds like the same exact thing I went through. Seriously.

This girl was my best friend for a while, then she got into a serious, serious accident and I started to fall for her. I felt that I needed to "secure" her to "secure" her, if that made sense. She started going down a really bad path in her life, clubbing, hanging around with horrible influences, turning into a slut with a horrible reputation, etc. After a while I gave up on the "relationship" thing but I was still trying to be close with her. I constantly tried making an effort to hang out, talk, whatever, only to be blown off in some form or fashion.

I had enough, and stopped talking to her for like six months until one day she calls me drunk, crying saying all this stuff. I told her I'd call her back after the dust settles (I had lost a family member during that time). Few weeks later I talk to her to make sure she's alright, but we fell into the same pit again. After a few months, and a repeated, even more severe pattern of behavior, I cut ties again.

We didn't chat for a VERY long time until she FB-chatted me a few months ago where she admitted to me that she was wrong about everything, how I was the only good influence in her life, yada yada.

Long story short, that friendship absolutely killed me over time. You can't let the same thing happen to you. Once any feelings are declared or anything like that, its impossible to go back to just being friends. I know it sucks, but you have to recognize the signs of sketchy, flaky behavior before it absolutely consumes you like it did me. "My" girl ended up helping ruining my perception of most chicks, and now I'm definitely skeptical of chicks and their motives and gunshy about entering a serious relationship/friendship with any girl (lack of candidates doesn't help, lol)

[MassNole]

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I would imagine she was probably reconsidering her acceptance of your offer. This is why you get things signed and notarized people.

[ImTellinTim]

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All women turn on the crazy at some point. You just hope they do it early and it's not too severe. If that happens, you're golden.

[MassNole]

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I ran the scenario by my wife, according to her a friend of hers probably likes you and after she told her friends that came out and now they're mad at you for asking out the wrong girl.

Yes, HS girls are crazy.

[ImTellinTim]

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I ran the scenario by my wife, according to her a friend of hers probably likes you and after she told her friends that came out and now they're mad at you for asking out the wrong girl.

Yes, all girls under the age of 26 are crazy.

Fixed. And that age is still kind of pushing it.

[Heisman316]

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Massnole, that actually does kind've make sense now that I think about it. And yes it seems that every female is bipolar.

Thanks for the help guys. I didn't think I would get any replies except for you loser quit posting dating stuff on here lol.

I appreciate the help guys.

[kehlis]

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Thanks for the help guys. I didn't think I would get any replies except for you loser quit posting dating stuff on here lol.

LOL, you must not visit the neighborhood very often!

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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LOL, you must not visit the neighborhood very often!

Co-sign. You'll get all the advice you'll ever need.

High school girls are so fickle. They change their mind about the guy they like as often as they change underwear. And usually there is no rhyme or reason to it.

[AUChase]

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Head games. Don't play em, there's no way for you to win..