Just Need to Vent....

[Buckeyes_Doc]

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I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship. The girl and I are Seniors in high school. The other guy graduated last year and is now off in the Navy. The girl and I met each other in October and we immediately became like best friends, we "clicked". Then, she told me she had feelings for me and I felt them too but didn't tell her. About 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt and we were pretty much dating but no name on it because she had a guy in the military. The guy called her and said after you graduate high school, will you marry me. I asked her what she was going to do and she said idk, i dont want to hurt you. Then, last night she told me she has to stop these feelings before she cant. She told me, I was her best friend and I was everything to her but she wants to marry the other guy. I know this girl is the one for me. I don't know what I can do to get her to look at me in the same way again after she pretty much pushed me away and told me she didn't want me. She feels something between us and that's the hard part. Just felt like venting guys. Any advice?

Dude stay away from my girl. I'm off in the Navy and you're trying to get with her, WTF?!


Seriously, if she is in a relationship and she is also seeing you, that should tell you a lot about her. Is that really the girl you want to marry? Also if she was already in a relationship, why even get involved in the first place?

Also if the dude is off in the Navy, the last thing he needs is finding out his girl is back home with someone else. I've seen it too many times, it's not cool.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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No offense..........but she was already TAKEN. So she never was your girl. And majority of the time, the jump off, mistress, whatever you want to call it, always get left out in the cold in the end.

And you my friend was the jump off. So just move on and find your OWN girl and stop messing with other people women. Your young, enjoy life.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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If she'll cheat on him (with you) then what do you think she'll do to you? I'd go fishing elsewhere and consider yourself lucky that you got out now.

[Cusefan]

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Ah, the old "I'm joining the navy so will your marry" trick. If you really like this girl, just wait a year or two and she will be divorced, she will probably be fat with a kid or two though. These marriages do not last, lets be realistic, they are still kids so they probably do not know what they want.

My prediction: he is tying the knot with her do he can get that fancy military house with the extra money. After a few months she will want to party but she can't cuz she has a swollen belly. She will be unhappy as she is the only one taking care of this kid while he is deployed. A few months later she will say eff it and move back home: damaged goods.

[Husker_OS]

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First off, move on. She's obviously not the faithful type if she started things up with you. That flaw in her personality will NEVER change. If she chose you over him, eventually she'd choose a guy over you.



Secondly, you have to be the one controlling the game. It's obvious she had you by the b***s and essentially used you to get rid of the loneliness she had since he's left. Eventually, she was going to break it off with you no matter what. Luckily for you, the boyfriend expedited things and you can get away from her without getting into this any deeper.


Finally, while in college, just have fun. Play the field. Getting serious with a girl before your 21st birthday is pointless. Mainly because your weekends in college prior to being 21 consist of going to parties where, on 99.3% of college campuses in America, there are a lot of hot girls down for whatever. Going to a party with a girlfriend defeats the purpose of going to a party.




Also, go get a 1/5 of bourbon. Take 2 oz. and mix with 8 oz. of Coca-Cola every 45 minutes tonight.

[Spainiard44]

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This is why I love this place. Every person that posted, thank you.

[jct32]

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First off, move on. She's obviously not the faithful type if she started things up with you. That flaw in her personality will NEVER change. If she chose you over him, eventually she'd choose a guy over you.



Secondly, you have to be the one controlling the game. It's obvious she had you by the b***s and essentially used you to get rid of the loneliness she had since he's left. Eventually, she was going to break it off with you no matter what. Luckily for you, the boyfriend expedited things and you can get away from her without getting into this any deeper.


Finally, while in college, just have fun. Play the field. Getting serious with a girl before your 21st birthday is pointless. Mainly because your weekends in college prior to being 21 consist of going to parties where, on 99.3% of college campuses in America, there are a lot of hot girls down for whatever. Going to a party with a girlfriend defeats the purpose of going to a party.




Also, go get a 1/5 of bourbon. Take 2 oz. and mix with 8 oz. of Coca-Cola every 45 minutes tonight.

Encouraging underage drinking?

[Heelfan71]

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don't date someone who is "in a relationship".

[DickDalewood]

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Go to college, meet alot of people, have some fun. Worry about finding the woman who is right for you when you are in your late 20's once you have decided on the direction you want to take in life. You most likely won't be the same person you are now in 10 years. I know you probably won't believe that, but its true.

Like everyone else said, and just to reiterate... THIS.

[Spainiard44]

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So, I went and watched 500 days of summer. Thank you for recommending it. I know it may seem weird, but I watch it every day now.

EDIT: I had stopped talking to her for about a week, and she finally realized what she had been missing. She tells me she wants to be with me now, problem is is while she was away I started talking to a new girl just to get over the old one. I've never been more happy in my life than when I read she wanted to be with me again. Wish me luck guys, I think I was right; She's the one.....