Just Need to Vent....

[Spainiard44]

I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship. The girl and I are Seniors in high school. The other guy graduated last year and is now off in the Navy. The girl and I met each other in October and we immediately became like best friends, we "clicked". Then, she told me she had feelings for me and I felt them too but didn't tell her. About 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt and we were pretty much dating but no name on it because she had a guy in the military. The guy called her and said after you graduate high school, will you marry me. I asked her what she was going to do and she said idk, i dont want to hurt you. Then, last night she told me she has to stop these feelings before she cant. She told me, I was her best friend and I was everything to her but she wants to marry the other guy. I know this girl is the one for me. I don't know what I can do to get her to look at me in the same way again after she pretty much pushed me away and told me she didn't want me. She feels something between us and that's the hard part. Just felt like venting guys. Any advice?

[fistofrage]

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I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship. The girl and I are Seniors in high school. The other guy graduated last year and is now off in the Navy. The girl and I met each other in October and we immediately became like best friends, we "clicked". Then, she told me she had feelings for me and I felt them too but didn't tell her. About 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt and we were pretty much dating but no name on it because she had a guy in the military. The guy called her and said after you graduate high school, will you marry me. I asked her what she was going to do and she said idk, i dont want to hurt you. Then, last night she told me she has to stop these feelings before she cant. She told me, I was her best friend and I was everything to her but she wants to marry the other guy. I know this girl is the one for me. I don't know what I can do to get her to look at me in the same way again after she pretty much pushed me away and told me she didn't want me. She feels something between us and that's the hard part. Just felt like venting guys. Any advice?

Go to college, meet alot of people, have some fun. Worry about finding the woman who is right for you when you are in your late 20's once you have decided on the direction you want to take in life. You most likely won't be the same person you are now in 10 years. I know you probably won't believe that, but its true.

[mburke2]

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Go to college, meet alot of people, have some fun. Worry about finding the woman who is right for you when you are in your late 20's once you have decided on the direction you want to take in life. You most likely won't be the same person you are now in 10 years. I know you probably won't believe that, but its true.

Agreed. I think its difficult to know if this girl is "the one" when you're only in HS. You're still young, you have so much more to experience in your life before you decide what direction you want your life to go. At your age you shouldn't tie yourself to one girl because of how much more there is out there. That being said, I also think she's prbly making a mistake by marrying the other guy so young as well.

[N51_rob]

Great advice from fistofrage.

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[Happy29]

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Go to college, meet alot of people, have some fun. Worry about finding the woman who is right for you when you are in your late 20's once you have decided on the direction you want to take in life. You most likely won't be the same person you are now in 10 years. I know you probably won't believe that, but its true.

This. I was stupid and got married way in my early twenties, within 2 years we were divorced. Live life and grow for a while find yourself before you find the right girl.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Agreed. In 10 years (heck 5 years) you'll be a different person and be looking for different qualities in a potential wife. After high school people start to grow apart as they realize there is more to life than what's in their town/city. Have some fun and meet a bunch of people.

[LingeringRegime]

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Go to college, meet alot of people, have some fun. Worry about finding the woman who is right for you when you are in your late 20's once you have decided on the direction you want to take in life. You most likely won't be the same person you are now in 10 years. I know you probably won't believe that, but its true.

Very true. So happy, I didn't get married till I was in my late 20's. I smile with relief now, that I didn't marry the girl I dated for most of my high school days. It would have been to worst mistake of my life.

[RoyalBoyle78]

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I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship. The girl and I are Seniors in high school. The other guy graduated last year and is now off in the Navy. The girl and I met each other in October and we immediately became like best friends, we "clicked". Then, she told me she had feelings for me and I felt them too but didn't tell her. About 2 weeks ago I told her how I felt and we were pretty much dating but no name on it because she had a guy in the military. The guy called her and said after you graduate high school, will you marry me. I asked her what she was going to do and she said idk, i dont want to hurt you. Then, last night she told me she has to stop these feelings before she cant. She told me, I was her best friend and I was everything to her but she wants to marry the other guy. I know this girl is the one for me. I don't know what I can do to get her to look at me in the same way again after she pretty much pushed me away and told me she didn't want me. She feels something between us and that's the hard part. Just felt like venting guys. Any advice?

didn't go any further, juts read the first line "I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship".....

Listen my freind, Move on, the Girl is not for you, granted the Guys in the navy, she had a Man and was messing with you, now that could be you next time. The girl Is in High School, she doesn't know what she wants, like I said move on. Your in High school too, you have your whole life in front of you, live your life first man.

[jeremym480]

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didn't go any further, juts read the first line "I had been seeing this girl who's in a relationship".....

Listen my freind, Move on, the Girl is not for you, granted the Guys in the navy, she had a Man and was messing with you, now that could be you next time. The girl Is in High School, she doesn't know what she wants, like I said move on. Your in High school too, you have your whole life in front of you, live your life first man.

Good advice here. Plus, if the girl does get married she will likely be back in the market in a couple of years. Except then maybe she will know more about what she really wants in a relationship.

[KingV2k3]

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With the benefit of hindsight, I shudder to think what a nightmare my life would have been if I had married (or had kids with) ANY of the women I thought were the "loves of my life" in my teens and twenties...

I'm sure all this is little consolation to you now, because you're hurting, but that will pass, unlike the permanent mess you'd have on your hands with this troika bubbling over...

Best of luck and ENJOY your single-ness...

[DaveDQ]

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fistofrage fistofrage fistofrage

Excellent advice.

Never awaken love until it so desires. Don't try and shake it, yell at it and force it to work on your terms. Take your time and let it happen when it desires.

Doing that is tough for sure. But that's how it is sometimes in life. The principle sometimes is really a difficult thing to do and then maintain.

Hang in there.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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If you haven't seen 500 Days of Summer, do it ASAP. If you have, go watch it again.

[65South]

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Very true. So happy, I didn't get married till I was in my late 20's. I smile with relief now, that I didn't marry the girl I dated for most of my high school days. It would have been to worst mistake of my life.

From someone thats been there, truer words have never been spoken!

Take your time Spaniard. As has been mentioned several times in the replies, you will become a different person once you begin to experience life. Take the time to go to school or whatever path life takes you and figure out what makes your life tick. You'll soon learn this isn't the only girl you're going to meet and quite possibly figure out that she isn't anything like what you want long-term when the dust settles.

You've got a whole life ahead of you. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but one day you'll look back on this with no regrets and probably think boy, what kind of a mess would I have been in had I stuck this out?! Give it time, you'll find yourself and the right partner when the time is right. I'm a living example.

[bluengold34_OS]

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Some great advice in here........follow it. I didn't get married until I was 30 years old. All my friends were getting married and having kids, but it wasn't for me. I wanted to do things, enjoy life, and mature.

I have been married 8 years now, and it was the best decision of my life to wait. Of the 4 people that were in my little click when I was in HS, all four got married, and 3 of the four have already gone through divorce. You change so much from the ages of 20 to 30, and its not a bad thing.

[the_future420]

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I know alot of people say you change alot from teen years to 30, but I'm 25 and will be 26 in a few months, and honestly I haven't changed much at all from when I was 18. I still go for the same types of girls, enjoy the same activities and have basically the same mindstate. Maybe I'll change more, but I doubt it. Off topic a bit I know, just throwing it out there.