May need some advice..

[AUChase]

I'm currently living at home and I'm only 21 years old.

I have a full time job and I'm decent at managing my money.

I have a good relationship with my parents, and it's no inconvenience for me to live with them. I take care of washing my clothes, pay for my cell phone, split the internet bill, and pay my car insurance. Those are the only real bills that I have right now.

My friend and his girlfriend (they're pretty serious and there's no doubt that one day they'll end up married. They've dated since they were 16 and both are now 21) are on the verge of finishing up the work on the land they were given and the house. They both asked me if I want to move in with them and only have to pay $100 dollars a month.. that would cover living, electic, and water.

I can't stress how great of a relationship I have with these two people. They're awesome and in the 10+ years we've been friends, we've never once argued or had words. I see him once every day or two anyways and I'm looking to take the next step towards getting out on my own.

I know it wouldn't jeopardize our frienship and it's a big enough house to where we wouldn't be treading on each other's space..

So.. do you guys think it's a good deal, considering the information I've gave ? I know it may sound stupid, but It's sort of tough to say bye to what's been my home for years and get out from my parents.

[ImTellinTim]

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Live there for $100. Easily the best deal you'll ever get outside of family members letting you live with them. Not to mention that you and the people you're renting from know exactly what they're getting into. You're actually lucky to have an opportunity like this.

[NoDakHusker]

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Live there for $100. Easily the best deal you'll ever get outside of family members letting you live with them. Not to mention that you and the people you're renting from know exactly what they're getting into. You're actually lucky to have an opportunity like this.

Agreed. I wish I could get a place to live for $100 a month. That's a freaking steal.

[areobee401]

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I'm assuming you a single.

If you going to move out you should do so with another single friend.

[AUChase]

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I'm assuming you a single.

If you going to move out you should do so with another single friend.

I'm actually in a few month long relationship.

It's just not serious enough to even debate moving in with her..

[Chaos81]

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Move in with them.

[SqueakyD]

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I also say go for it... You've got responsibilities down pat and welcoming housemates to help support one another. Seems like only advice you'll need is the getting homesick part. A lot of folks go through that for whatever reason (college/work/military/etc...) so you're not alone! You can survive!

Is the new house close to you're living now? Visit home a few weekends! If not, then call often! I think eventually you'll get used to being away and the nerves will settle in the end.

Good luck!

[mburke2]

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Living there for $100/month is practically like living there for free! The only qualm that I have is that you'd be moving in with a couple. For me, it would just be strange to sort of be the third wheel in the house, you know what I mean. But if you and them are all comfortable with that situation, then jump at it.

[AUChase]

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Living there for $100/month is practically like living there for free! The only qualm that I have is that you'd be moving in with a couple. For me, it would just be strange to sort of be the third wheel in the house, you know what I mean. But if you and them are all comfortable with that situation, then jump at it.

That was my biggest concern and I expressed it to them both. I said, " I don't mind living with either of you, but I don't want to get in anyone's space or get in the middle of anything y'all have going on.".

They both kept saying that I wouldn't be, and they wouldn't offer it to me if they had any concerns about that...

They are currently in a nice apartment complex, but have to share the apartment with her mother. They gripe about her, but only because of her obvious unhealthy habits and issues.

I'll probably say yes, I just asked for a little time to think it over.

Thanks for the feedback guys.. just trying to get some other people's perspectives on the situation.

[Beantown]

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Would definitely do it if I had the chance.

[areobee401]

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Before you say yes remember one thing. Your good friends with the two of them. When the two of them are arguing guess who will be put in the middle? Just something to think about.

[slickdtc]

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Pretty sweet deal. I say take it and don't look back. You're at that age that it's time to start doing things on your own (or with roommates) and it's clear you can take care of your responsibilities judging by how you pay some bills (cell, car, internet) so you must have a good enough job and are responsible.

It's funny, I'm practically in this situation too, in an opposite role. I'm 21, my fiance is 22, high school sweethearts. Her mother's friend is trying to move to Florida and is offering her split level apartment in a good area for cheap ($400 - 500/month, and fully furnished). Can't find anything around here for less then 700$, and that's the lowest of the low (and the areas suck). Basically, this is the best deal of all-time. It's a 2 bedroom spot, though, and we've debated asking a friend to move in with us to make the already small monthly payments even smaller.

In the end, we've decided to just split the rent 50-50 and not get a 3rd person for a few reasons. 1) When you add another person, you have to make sure they're going to pay rent. I have a few friends who are responsible, but they still are in that college mindset of partying a lot whereas I do party about once or twice a month, but for the other 29 days of the month I hang with my girlfriend, work, go to school in the fall, and play video games. I just don't want to have an issue if he wants to drink or something and have some people over and we don't. 2) I'm getting married next summer. I want to start my life with my fiance now. Having a 3rd person kind of ruins it a bit.

I'm sure the couple that asked you to move in has talked about this. The big difference here is it's a house (right?), so there's presumably a lot more space. They can do their thing, and you can do yours, and really not encroach on each other too much. There could be times of awkwardness, but if they came to you to ask, no reason for you not to take them up on this offer. It's a great stepping stone.

[Brandwin]

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Before you say yes remember one thing. Your good friends with the two of them. When the two of them are arguing guess who will be put in the middle? Just something to think about.

This would be the only concern I would have. But you know these two better than any of us on OS. As long as you guys will have your space and you are ready to move out, and from reading your post it sounds like you are, go for it.

[oneamongthefence]

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As long as your names not on any sort of lease, I don't see why not. However, for legality sake make a document and have both of you sign it. Refer to any daytime court show for reference.

[NDAlum]

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$100/month for everything?

That is ridiculous. Do it.