Confidence...
Ok. Am I the only one that feels like dang near everybody has issues with self-confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, etc? I mean, it's probably a lot of people my age (20s) who still haven't accepted themselves yet, but seriously...
It seems like a realization I've recently come to. Probably a lot because I was never the most confident person either, but my confidence has really grown over the last couple years. And the more my confidence grows and the more comfortable I become around other people, the more I sense their lack of confidence in themselves. Even in people I would never have suspected. And it makes sense to me, I suppose. I sometimes see that weird looking guy with the girl that looks way out of his league and feel confused, but now I'm starting to think that practically all females (young ones anyway) have some kind of lack of confidence.
And then sometimes I feel like "Men are surely better" but then I remember all those nights downtown with my posse of friends who didn't have the cajones to go talk to a girl. And I've now befriended girls (like friend-zoned them, gotcha bitches!) and it's almost the exact same way with them. And I know all you guys are like "avoid girls with baggage" but dang, who doesn't come with at least a purse full of crap? They seem to go hand in hand to me.
For me, my confidence grew with me being put to the test doing a lot of things I'm normally not comfortable doing. With my job over this past summer, I had to work with a lot of people (I typically prefer to put my head down and work alone), do a lot of public speaking, talk with new students and parents, etc. Stuff I typically wasn't comfortable doing, but I did it because I had to do it and it helped me immensely. I also had to really change my perspective of myself and what people though of me and really look at myself from an objective point of view and I realized "Well dang, nobody really cares..."
I don't know...What are your thoughts on confidence? How do you guys build your confidence? Was there some "defining" moment? Lord knows there's some cocky SOBs on this site.
It seems like a realization I've recently come to. Probably a lot because I was never the most confident person either, but my confidence has really grown over the last couple years. And the more my confidence grows and the more comfortable I become around other people, the more I sense their lack of confidence in themselves. Even in people I would never have suspected. And it makes sense to me, I suppose. I sometimes see that weird looking guy with the girl that looks way out of his league and feel confused, but now I'm starting to think that practically all females (young ones anyway) have some kind of lack of confidence.
And then sometimes I feel like "Men are surely better" but then I remember all those nights downtown with my posse of friends who didn't have the cajones to go talk to a girl. And I've now befriended girls (like friend-zoned them, gotcha bitches!) and it's almost the exact same way with them. And I know all you guys are like "avoid girls with baggage" but dang, who doesn't come with at least a purse full of crap? They seem to go hand in hand to me.
For me, my confidence grew with me being put to the test doing a lot of things I'm normally not comfortable doing. With my job over this past summer, I had to work with a lot of people (I typically prefer to put my head down and work alone), do a lot of public speaking, talk with new students and parents, etc. Stuff I typically wasn't comfortable doing, but I did it because I had to do it and it helped me immensely. I also had to really change my perspective of myself and what people though of me and really look at myself from an objective point of view and I realized "Well dang, nobody really cares..."
I don't know...What are your thoughts on confidence? How do you guys build your confidence? Was there some "defining" moment? Lord knows there's some cocky SOBs on this site.
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