Re: Off Topic 2012
Definitely. Just be yourself. Straight up.
I'm definitely awkward. But it seems everyone thinks they are! But I can totally sit in silence and it doesn't reallllly bother me, but I'm thinking, it's probably bothering this other person. Once you stop caring what the other person MIGHT BE THINKING, you're golden.
There's nothing wrong with this, either. I'm the same way. I'm not going to be the first one to get up and dance, or dance at all. lol. It's just not in my personality. If I tried, I'd fail. I do have moments, and I love when it's just natural and let go. But I can't force it.
It's a fine line between putting yourself out there, and forcing it. You'll find someone you click with. I was lucky when I found my fiance'. She knows me so much better then... anyone. She knows I can be the life of a room. But 9 times out of 10, I'm not. Until I get comfortable. We actually had this conversation the other day. She was a little put off that I seem awkward around people even though she knows I'm not at other times (like with my best friends). Or at work (my example). I have to be really comfortable to come out. That's all it is. Comfort level.
Like I said, you'll find yours, Feared. You definitely come across on here as trying too hard, wanting to get a girl too badly. It's easy to say from my point -- I've been in the same relationship my whole adult life. But for real, it'll come, and it'll be natural. That may be the problem... you're trying to force it.
You sound like a good dude, for sure. Maybe you put women up on a pedestal. I do the same! I really try to be a gentleman, and respect women. There's nothing wrong with that, and though the jerks seem to get the girls, it's not in your nature to be that guy. A girl will dig you for you. I bet there's a girl out there just like you, watching their friends be the life of the party while they sit off to the side. Sometime, you'll be sitting off to the side together, hitting it off. That's your niche, not in the center of the dance floor.
Sorry, didn't mean to spit out advice like that. I'm really in no position to do so, but I just wanted to lift ya up and let you know you're not alone and good things and a good person will come your way.
Definitely. Just be yourself. Straight up.
I'm definitely awkward. But it seems everyone thinks they are! But I can totally sit in silence and it doesn't reallllly bother me, but I'm thinking, it's probably bothering this other person. Once you stop caring what the other person MIGHT BE THINKING, you're golden.
Originally posted by Feared
It's a fine line between putting yourself out there, and forcing it. You'll find someone you click with. I was lucky when I found my fiance'. She knows me so much better then... anyone. She knows I can be the life of a room. But 9 times out of 10, I'm not. Until I get comfortable. We actually had this conversation the other day. She was a little put off that I seem awkward around people even though she knows I'm not at other times (like with my best friends). Or at work (my example). I have to be really comfortable to come out. That's all it is. Comfort level.
Like I said, you'll find yours, Feared. You definitely come across on here as trying too hard, wanting to get a girl too badly. It's easy to say from my point -- I've been in the same relationship my whole adult life. But for real, it'll come, and it'll be natural. That may be the problem... you're trying to force it.
You sound like a good dude, for sure. Maybe you put women up on a pedestal. I do the same! I really try to be a gentleman, and respect women. There's nothing wrong with that, and though the jerks seem to get the girls, it's not in your nature to be that guy. A girl will dig you for you. I bet there's a girl out there just like you, watching their friends be the life of the party while they sit off to the side. Sometime, you'll be sitting off to the side together, hitting it off. That's your niche, not in the center of the dance floor.
Sorry, didn't mean to spit out advice like that. I'm really in no position to do so, but I just wanted to lift ya up and let you know you're not alone and good things and a good person will come your way.
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