OS Dad's... Advice?

[C the Lyte]

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Thx, I think! My sleep hasn't been so bad. My wife has largely stayed up with him while I sleep since I have to work and she can sleep during the day. I still help with things where I can in the middle of the nyte though. Weekends is a different story. I'm up if he is so she can rest.

[JBH3]

Having more than one most be tough, we have only one. Our son is 4 and about to start Kindergarten in Sept.

My advice for anyone w/ more than one kid would be to be sure to keep the bond w/ your wife/significant other strong. You two have to work as a team and be on the same page. Each needs to be understanding of the others needs and accommodate. Do not belittle those needs, or think because you do not require that need, it is not important.

For men this may mean that your wife needs intimate time w/ you, not sex, "pillow talke" or time between just the two of you.

For women, us men need our space, need time to roam to get our head on straight. By roam I mean time to where its just a man and his xbox, or just a man and a few buddies going to a baseball game or something. I don't mean going out to nightclubs and flirting etc w/ other women.

C - If you're on here looking for advice chances are that you are already doing things right and just looking for a little validation of that. You seem to be doing a great job so keep it up and enjoy these years!

[C the Lyte]

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Word of advice for any new dads that may stumble upon this thread...

Baby's are going to cry and spit up no matter what you do. The sooner you come to accept that, the better off you will be!

[joshuar9476]

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you will learn to despise toys that require batteries

[fishepa]

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The more patience you have the better. I'm not a patient person and it's very hard sometimes. There are also times when I've wanted to run out of the house screaming. It's normal.

[8]

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I can't stand to hear my little girl cry when she's sick or hurt (21 months old). I don't get mad I just feel horrible, like I should be able to do something. That feeling sucks.

[Lieutenant Dan]

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I can't stand to hear my little girl cry when she's sick or hurt (21 months old). I don't get mad I just feel horrible, like I should be able to do something. That feeling sucks.

I know...but wait until they get their first broken heart.

On a bright note, I successfully pulled one of my sons out of the throes of heartbreak with a viewing of "Better Off Dead". LOL I was thanked many times over for that.

[DaveDQ]

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I have a moment where I blew it big time. I may have shared it once, but my second son was just 8 months old or so and I was trying to get him to nap. My oldest boy was over two at the time.

My boy was so tired but he was just crying and being very stubborn. It was one of those things where you knew he needed to rest and he knew it but he was just so tired he was crying and crying.

Anyway, I was so tired and upset myself that I had to walk into my bedroom and take a break..but I proceeded to start pounding on my bed. One closed fist..just getting out my frustration. I even remember saying a prayer that God would help me. I thought my door was shut and I look out and see my oldest boy just staring at me.

I felt horrible. Meanwhile..my other son decides it's time to fall asleep.

[joshuar9476]

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I have a moment where I blew it big time. I may have shared it once, but my second son was just 8 months old or so and I was trying to get him to nap. My oldest boy was over two at the time.

My boy was so tired but he was just crying and being very stubborn. It was one of those things where you knew he needed to rest and he knew it but he was just so tired he was crying and crying.

Anyway, I was so tired and upset myself that I had to walk into my bedroom and take a break..but I proceeded to start pounding on my bed. One closed fist..just getting out my frustration. I even remember saying a prayer that God would help me. I thought my door was shut and I look out and see my oldest boy just staring at me.

I felt horrible. Meanwhile..my other son decides it's time to fall asleep.

i got so frustrated at my youngest who was fighting sleep as a toddler ... i finally laid him in his crib and took out my frustration on our wall ... plaster wall ... boxer's break and a hand that has never fully healed.

one other thing i noticed ... tragic stories in the news about children and kids used to not phase me at all. now when i see or hear them, i almost break down thinking, "what if?"

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I have a moment where I blew it big time. I may have shared it once, but my second son was just 8 months old or so and I was trying to get him to nap. My oldest boy was over two at the time.

My boy was so tired but he was just crying and being very stubborn. It was one of those things where you knew he needed to rest and he knew it but he was just so tired he was crying and crying.

Anyway, I was so tired and upset myself that I had to walk into my bedroom and take a break..but I proceeded to start pounding on my bed. One closed fist..just getting out my frustration. I even remember saying a prayer that God would help me. I thought my door was shut and I look out and see my oldest boy just staring at me.

I felt horrible. Meanwhile..my other son decides it's time to fall asleep.

Hopefully you don't continue to beat yourself up over this. It happens. We wish it wouldn't, but it does. It's part of being a parent.

I know you know all of that, but it sounds like you might still beat yourself up about it.

[dingleberryfinn]

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I remember my 3 year old cousin pullin' my less than one year old brother into the livin' room by the hair of his head whilst my brother was cryin' & tellin' the adults in the room "Hers is hungry".
(not that this helps)

[C the Lyte]

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****ing "Hers is Hungry"!!!! Lmfao off man.

Thanks. Now I'm sitting in my office with the goofiest smile trying not to bust out laughing!!!

[DaveDQ]

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Hopefully you don't continue to beat yourself up over this. It happens. We wish it wouldn't, but it does. It's part of being a parent.

I know you know all of that, but it sounds like you might still beat yourself up about it.

I have removed myself from it. What I look at is that it was controlled and no aggression was taken out on either of the kids. I still have times where I totally screw up. Like you said, it's part of parenting. Just tough to learn.

[Brandwin]

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Well the good thing is, you guys took it out on yourself. I wish everyone who got upset would do that. Read way too many stories of parents abusing their children. I've had my moments as well... I think sometimes you just can't take the frustration any longer. When it happens it's okay to just step away for a few.