Yet another relationship thread...

[the_future420]

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Like someone else mentioned, its usually in regards to marraige but 6 years in with a person is a close to marraige as you can get without the paper.

My thing is this and I may be wrong with my logic but it just makes so much sense to me that if you were to get out of a relationship with someone, keep contact with "thier" closest friends to a minimum. I knew alot of her people to but I'm not interested in talking to them and I dont think they're interested in speaking with me. Especially if we weren't all to close to begin with. My friends wife who I mentioned earlier, they were only cordial when I bought her around. They were never txt or call buddies. Until the end where they would gossip.

Plus they are so different negative scenarios that can come out of remaining in the picture after a breakup. While some are unaviodable, others such as joining a gym where your ex will be around is something that can be and should be avoided.

Whats crazy is that the last time we spoke, which was about the gym membership, we got into an argument. Why am I still arguing with this girl man? Just made me confirm my decision even more.

Be honest with yourself here, and dont just tell us what you think you want, but what you really want. Do you really still want to be with chick? I'm sorta sensing you do. It just seems like you putting alot of thought into her and that is worth something. What was the reason for the breakup (forgive me if you already posted it and I missed it)

[Graphik]

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Be honest with yourself here, and dont just tell us what you think you want, but what you really want. Do you really still want to be with chick? I'm sorta sensing you do. It just seems like you putting alot of thought into her and that is worth something. What was the reason for the breakup (forgive me if you already posted it and I missed it)

Honestly, yes and no. Yes in that I still do care and no in that I know she's not the right person for me. The breakup was for a number of reasons but the one that probably stuck out was that I told her that my mind was starting to wander and I want to see other ppl. Bad idea given the fact that its causing her to act so strange and second, I forgot how spiteful women can be. Whether indirectly or directly. I thought keeping it real would help her with closure but I see it only made matters worse.

Lack of trust, anger issues and other things are what sealed the deal. Im the type of person where if I dont trust you, I dont want nothing to do with you. Women can sit in a relationship and hold all sorts of insecurities and yet still be in love. I'm normally secure with mine and I dont need anyone in my circle I dont trust.

[wwharton]

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Thanks all for the responses. Yea, my expectations sorrounding the breakup are a little to unrealistic but at the same time, its just odd to me that after so many breakups we've had, now she wants to pull these stunts. Usuaully, we dont speak for quite some time and the distance makes our next meeting more meaningful than keeping tabs on eachother.

To add a lil bit more detail to the breakup, she swears that I broke up with her to see someone else. Someone that she's met before. While I assured her this isn't the reason, all these jealousy tactics is showing me that she still believes I'm dating someone else. Hence the desire to rub every so called positive piece of info in my face. It makes me smh cause I thought she was more mature than this.

Gotta listen to yourself. How can you have "so many break ups" and have been together for 6 years? In your mind you had a bunch of fights throughout the course of a 6 year relationship... during those fights you two said you were broken up.

Why is that important? Because either those other situations were the same as this one or not. If you expect them to be the same then you don't expect to be broken up... this is just a fight, or a break (in which case, screw you for wasting our time, lol). If it's different (meaning this is a real break up) then there's no reason you should expect the behavior to be the same as it was during any of those times. And more importantly, your behavior shouldn't be the same either.

If you're done, be done. Maybe you two can come back together as friends in the future but you're not trying to be done. All the crap you're talking about and dealing with is willingly accepted by you right now. I wouldn't care what she said, what she believed or what she did about any of it... because I wouldn't be talking to her anymore.

[Graphik]

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Gotta listen to yourself. How can you have "so many break ups" and have been together for 6 years? In your mind you had a bunch of fights throughout the course of a 6 year relationship... during those fights you two said you were broken up.

Why is that important? Because either those other situations were the same as this one or not. If you expect them to be the same then you don't expect to be broken up... this is just a fight, or a break (in which case, screw you for wasting our time, lol). If it's different (meaning this is a real break up) then there's no reason you should expect the behavior to be the same as it was during any of those times. And more importantly, your behavior shouldn't be the same either.


If you're done, be done. Maybe you two can come back together as friends in the future but you're not trying to be done. All the crap you're talking about and dealing with is willingly accepted by you right now. I wouldn't care what she said, what she believed or what she did about any of it... because I wouldn't be talking to her anymore.

I need to print this out and tack this on my wall man. I'm fighting the feeling but I dont know if I'm feeling this way cause I'm thirsty to get laid or what. Its been a long dry month for your boy. I've been in the field lately but I refuse to chase anybody.

[mgoblue]

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Gotta listen to yourself. How can you have "so many break ups" and have been together for 6 years? In your mind you had a bunch of fights throughout the course of a 6 year relationship... during those fights you two said you were broken up.

Why is that important? Because either those other situations were the same as this one or not. If you expect them to be the same then you don't expect to be broken up... this is just a fight, or a break (in which case, screw you for wasting our time, lol). If it's different (meaning this is a real break up) then there's no reason you should expect the behavior to be the same as it was during any of those times. And more importantly, your behavior shouldn't be the same either.

If you're done, be done. Maybe you two can come back together as friends in the future but you're not trying to be done. All the crap you're talking about and dealing with is willingly accepted by you right now. I wouldn't care what she said, what she believed or what she did about any of it... because I wouldn't be talking to her anymore.

Wow, preach it brother! Spot on though! You can survive, Graphik. Don't give in just for some action, it's not worth it....

[the_future420]

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I need to print this out and tack this on my wall man. I'm fighting the feeling but I dont know if I'm feeling this way cause I'm thirsty to get laid or what. Its been a long dry month for your boy. I've been in the field lately but I refuse to chase anybody.

Man, you GOTTA go out there and knock something down. Its the only way you can truly get over her. The thirst will make you do things you regret. But how it seems, you broke up with her because you wanted something new. Most of the time when thats the reason you already have something lined up that you've been eyeing for awhile. You just jumped out the window without a parachute. I commend you for breaking up with her if you can't trust her though. Thats an automatic reason for dismissal in my book.

How old are you? If yall were together for 6 years yall got a ton of history and you not gonna get over her overnight. After I broke up with my last ex, I kept hitting it for awhile just because it was convienent although I was sure I didn't want her back for a relationship and I made that clear to her. Maybe you go that route too for awhile? I don't know. Good luck either way bro

[wwharton]

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I need to print this out and tack this on my wall man. I'm fighting the feeling but I dont know if I'm feeling this way cause I'm thirsty to get laid or what. Its been a long dry month for your boy. I've been in the field lately but I refuse to chase anybody.

It's tough. Six years is nothing to sneeze at. And since you broke up with her, OF COURSE she's going to keep trying to get back in... especially since breaking up didn't mean anything in the past. I don't agree with laying up with her for a while though. What you're going through now is hard enough. Why create a situation to go through another hard time later when you find somebody else and have to cut that off? Just keep it in your pants, suck it up and just stalk the closest college bars around closing time.

[Graphik]

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Man, you GOTTA go out there and knock something down. Its the only way you can truly get over her. The thirst will make you do things you regret. But how it seems, you broke up with her because you wanted something new. Most of the time when thats the reason you already have something lined up that you've been eyeing for awhile. You just jumped out the window without a parachute. I commend you for breaking up with her if you can't trust her though. Thats an automatic reason for dismissal in my book.

How old are you? If yall were together for 6 years yall got a ton of history and you not gonna get over her overnight. After I broke up with my last ex, I kept hitting it for awhile just because it was convienent although I was sure I didn't want her back for a relationship and I made that clear to her. Maybe you go that route too for awhile? I don't know. Good luck either way bro

33 y/o. And if anyone remembers, yes this is still the same damn girl from that thread I made years ago. Approximately 6 years ago. lol.

And guess who got a long *** text less than an hour after unfriending her on FB?

I debated for a while on if I should bother texting back...well, my dumb *** did. I swear this girl got some type of voodoo like control over me. She say sit down, I sit down...but when she leave...I stand right back up man. My balls are...wait, where'd they go?!

[Graphik]

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It's tough. Six years is nothing to sneeze at. And since you broke up with her, OF COURSE she's going to keep trying to get back in... especially since breaking up didn't mean anything in the past. I don't agree with laying up with her for a while though. What you're going through now is hard enough. Why create a situation to go through another hard time later when you find somebody else and have to cut that off? Just keep it in your pants, suck it up and just stalk the closest college bars around closing time.

Dude, my game been off. I'm out here with the #45 jersey on right now. Shooting a D. Howard like FT percentage out there. I met more than a few women, the problem I've been out the game so long all that crap that got my ex doesn't apply today. I feel like I'm just coming off a rehab stint getting my legs back.

[the_future420]

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33 y/o. And if anyone remembers, yes this is still the same damn girl from that thread I made years ago. Approximately 6 years ago. lol.

And guess who got a long *** text less than an hour after unfriending her on FB?

I debated for a while on if I should bother texting back...well, my dumb *** did. I swear this girl got some type of voodoo like control over me. She say sit down, I sit down...but when she leave...I stand right back up man. My balls are...wait, where'd they go?!

I gotta do it to you man..............











































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It sounds like she must have some Erykah Badu box. Something got a hold of you. But in all seriousness, you know what you gotta do if you really want to shake her. At the very least you should give her the cold shoulder for awhile

[TripleCrown9]

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Dude, my game been off. I'm out here with the #45 jersey on right now. Shooting a D. Howard like FT percentage out there. I met more than a few women, the problem I've been out the game so long all that crap that got my ex doesn't apply today. I feel like I'm just coming off a rehab stint getting my legs back.

From how it sounds to me, you're actually out there in a Birmingham Barons jersey

Just kidding, of course. I'm having some rather unfavorable relationship problems myself, but I'm not gonna take over your thread with it.

Everyone's advice in here has been spot on. The best thing you could do was unfriend her. Now don't be an idiot and send her a friend request in a couple months lol.

[Graphik]

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From how it sounds to me, you're actually out there in a Birmingham Barons jersey

Just kidding, of course. I'm having some rather unfavorable relationship problems myself, but I'm not gonna take over your thread with it.

Everyone's advice in here has been spot on. The best thing you could do was unfriend her. Now don't be an idiot and send her a friend request in a couple months lol.

LMAO. I know I'm not that off. I haven't been swinging n missing. Got a few basehits. Now I'm stranded on 1st.

[JBH3]

Agree w/ what wwharton said and its selfish to think that you two breakup and now she cannot associate w/ people who were originally your friends.

Let it be up to the individuals that are your friends to decide for themselves if they want any sort of friendship w/ your ex.

If she has ulterior motives in seeking these people out, they will eventually be discovered and those who are your friends can decide what they want to do at that time.

The whole idea that you break up w/ a circle of friends, and your boy can't screw around w/ an ex is just dumb.

Its a selfish and entitled outlook.

[Graphik]

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Agree w/ what wwharton said and its selfish to think that you two breakup and now she cannot associate w/ people who were originally your friends.

Let it be up to the individuals that are your friends to decide for themselves if they want any sort of friendship w/ your ex.

If she has ulterior motives in seeking these people out, they will eventually be discovered and those who are your friends can decide what they want to do at that time.

The whole idea that you break up w/ a circle of friends, and your boy can't screw around w/ an ex is just dumb.

Its a selfish and entitled outlook.

Appreciate the feedback. I recognize by now that this is all apart of some immature game to keep me in the picture.

In fact, I'm heading to the shop after work and my friend who works at the gym wants to give me the scoop on his latest findings.

See...thats the ish I was tryna avoid. Which I explained to her could be a likely scenario. But nooo...I'm just paranoid she says.

I cant be the only one who saw this coming.


BTW, the reason behind me being so worried about the circle of friends is because she claimed to not have liked many of them anyway. Gave me grief about it most of the time. There is only 1...ONE female friend she was cool with and that was my buddies wife which she also claimed to just be cordial with. Selfish or not, I can clearly see the BS from miles away.

[wwharton]

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Dude, my game been off. I'm out here with the #45 jersey on right now. Shooting a D. Howard like FT percentage out there. I met more than a few women, the problem I've been out the game so long all that crap that got my ex doesn't apply today. I feel like I'm just coming off a rehab stint getting my legs back.

On the real, I'm too old for that "go smash to shake her" game (or I should say, anyone I'd actually want is too old... I'm still a guy so, yeah). My train of thought is it's a decision you made, and made for a reason so do what you need to do to stick to it. Finding a distraction can help but isn't what you need to do... at the end of the day, that's just leave her alone until you stop thinking about her. You can figure out the best way to help do that but that's what needs to be done. My ex that I had that kind of relationship had me so twisted after, all the shade that would be directed at her went to any woman I approached so you may be wearing 45 but I was more like Jerry Rice on the Raiders... when he had braids and a receeding hairline. It was better for me to just chill for a minute and be happy with myself again. Can't take a 6 year relationship lightly. The game has changed but so have you, and right now you probably aren't in the right place to be running game.

Appreciate the feedback. I recognize by now that this is all apart of some immature game to keep me in the picture.

In fact, I'm heading to the shop after work and my friend who works at the gym wants to give me the scoop on his latest findings.

See...thats the ish I was tryna avoid. Which I explained to her could be a likely scenario. But nooo...I'm just paranoid she says.

I cant be the only one who saw this coming.


BTW, the reason behind me being so worried about the circle of friends is because she claimed to not have liked many of them anyway. Gave me grief about it most of the time. There is only 1...ONE female friend she was cool with and that was my buddies wife which she also claimed to just be cordial with. Selfish or not, I can clearly see the BS from miles away.

I'm gonna reply every time you make a post like this, lol. Who cares? If you need not to hear about her then tell your boy not to give you the scoop on anything, ever. This situation you've been fearing only happens if you're an active participant.