Do you stay in touch with your ex?

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Have three of them on my Facebook... My wife has a couple of hers, I believe.

No big deal at all, though I very rarely talk to them on there. No reason to really. I don't regret any of those relationships and they helped me get to the one I am with today.

They all seem to be happily married and enjoying life, just as I am.

Goes to show you... I knew this before, but thank God we don't get what we want earlier in life. That's not a putdown to them, but I'm blessed with an amazing wife and two beautiful baby sons.

Things have a great way of working themselves out.

[mgoblue]

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Nope. I like clean breaks.

Same here. Just better for everyone overall to get past the breakup and move on without the other in your life.

IMO you can't really heal or move on if they're constantly around or trying to get you back (or vice versa).

[LoSoisNiCEx414]

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Ever go with a girl in your younger years & thought she was sext, but to then see her a few years later & your like WTF was I thinking? ...... Yea me neither, lol but seriously saw my ex when I was out with my current GF of 3years & I thought to myself "good job leaving her"

[Phobia]

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Not a single one have I spoken with since we split. Honestly, why would I want to? I tend to move forward and not look back at "what could have been". The way I look at things, its over, done with, time to move forward.

Now I've ran into ex's at the store and other places. Chit chat at bit with the whole how you been....oh I been wonderful, never better and then that is it.

[Phobia]

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Ever go with a girl in your younger years & thought she was sext, but to then see her a few years later & your like WTF was I thinking? ...... Yea me neither, lol but seriously saw my ex when I was out with my current GF of 3years & I thought to myself "good job leaving her"

I've had the opposite happen more. Some girl in highschool liked me or wanted to talk and I blew them off thinking they were only so so. Then I run into them now and they are smoking hot. It has happened way to many times

Example #1 - Had a thing for me and I blew her off.

Spoiler

[LoSoisNiCEx414]

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The crazy thing is my ex was hot now thst I think about it. But now shes out of shape & just looks bad, I found it to be very funny, & my girlfriend was all like you went with her, lmao

[CC]

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I do... I was really serious with my last girlfriend to the point where I thought we might get married someday. She moved away for Grad School and I was in my third year still. We tried the long-distance thing, but it just doesn't work. We have remained friends, and it's because of her that I ended up getting together with my now fiance', her old roommate

[VDusen04]

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I just don't understand how you can just pretend like someone who you used to be close with just doesn't exist.

I won't say I don't understand it, but I am familiar with the struggle. I'm sure many relationships end on terrible notes leaving people wanting to forget they ever happened. But on the other hand, I think there's definitely a lot of amicable splits out there as well. And even in the bad splits, there's often a lot worth remembering anyway. Personally, when a long-term relationship ends, I sometimes find it difficult to consciously attempt to eliminate all my memories and connections to that person, as they played such large roles in my life.

I've personally experienced my fair share of staying in touch, kind of staying in touch, and not staying in touch at all. In one case, I lived with a girl's family and helped take care of her little sisters while we were dating so when we broke up, I was still in the picture due to my familial connection. That ex- is now married and I remain a family friend, still visiting on holidays or taking the family out to eat and whatnot. The ex and I are completely cool and it's almost to the point where, unless I sit down and consciously think about it (like I am now), I forget we dated in the first place.

On the other hand, I've kept in latent touch with another ex that I first dated over 10 years ago. We've never completely broken ties so there's been various moments over the last decade where we'd happen to cross paths once again and give things another shot if we both happened to be single at the moment (ultimately failing time and time again).

As for my last serious relationship, we remain Facebook friends but almost never interact. She is now married with a child and again, it's almost as if we were different people back then. We haven't talked in person since shortly after our amicable split so for all intents and purposes, we do not keep in touch. However, I certainly would not prefer to pretend she never existed. I've been lucky to have some wonderful ladies in my life at different points and in my opinion, to attempt to forget all those moments and experiences would defeat the purpose of living. As in, what's the point of it all if you're not going to be able to remember the great times?

[Nature_Boy]

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I have been happily married for the past eight years so my answer is..........

[Beantown]

I talk to one relatively frequently, I recommend her books when she asks and give her insights on movies and such, and my other one (the one I left crying on a street corner in NYC for those of you who were Twitter members back during Beantown Story Time) I rarely talk to these days. Could probably still hanky-panky her if I ever went to NYC, but that's just because she is hopeless and sad.

[NDAlum]

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My long-term girlfriends:

#1- Cheated on me then we broke up. She then wanted to get back with me and I decline. We are FB friends. She's married now, good for her. No ill feelings towards her. I actually ran into her and the husband-to-be at a store along with her parents. I was with my current girlfriend who is hot and in great shape. As cheap as it sounds I looked at that run-in as me having the upper hand in life to her. She cheated and took a step back while I was rewarded with this awesome girl.

#2- College gf who turned out to be bipolar. No ill feelings even though she was off her meds a few times with me. I broke up with her in college and it crushed her. She has a new boyfriend and seems to be doing great. Good for her. Hope she got her issues cleared up. She sends me a birthday facebook message each year because we had the same birthday.

#3- This girl was good looking and became a professional model. She fit the stereotype as she was shallow, into the party scene, and is simply immature. I didn't see a future with her and broke it off. She hates me because I'm the one guy who turned her away. No communication outside of a facebook message from her a few months after our breakup. She made a last effort to reach out to me to see if my mind changed. I did not reply.

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Cliffs: FB friends with 2/3, no real communication

[Bullit]

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Only with a Cricket Bat or the bumper of my car......

[cjonesfan921]

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I was only a one-woman man one time, so far. We were together for 2 years and change. Broke up with her in Aug last year, we were keeping in touch (doing the deed) until 2 months ago. Now, it's over...couldn't be happier.