Looking for work is so frustrating

[23]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

I just quit a sales job myself.

I was working 60+ hours a week, 6 days a week and just couldn't take it anymore.

I was working so much that I began to have dreams about being at work. I mean, it really does make sense, right? My whole life was at that damn place. And even my (rare) off days were dedicated to preparing for my next shift (laundry, shaving, hair cut, etc). And worst of all, it was really taking it's emotional toll on me too. I began snapping at my loved ones (not horribly), and stopped seeing my friends because I literally had no free time.

It was no way to live. Not for me.

My fiancé and I agreed that no matter what happened, we would be better off if I left because we literally had no time together.

Fortunately, my previous employer had me back. It's pretty flexible, I can come and go as I see fit, etc. Granted, it's like 1/2-2/3 of what I was making before, but I am happy again...like I used to be...every minute of the day. And in MY situation, that more than makes up the financial difference. I'm really hoping this works out because honestly, I love my job.

I guess my point is this: I have to believe that we were not put in this earth to do work that's emotionally debilitating. I'd fight at all costs if I were you 23 to find a place or stay at the place that doesn't play this kind of internal havoc on you, as long as your family and you are on the same page on this.

I've learned my lesson. Even if my current employment doesn't work out, I'll never make that mistake again.

That's entirely too much time taken away from yourself.. that's not living man, thats just living to work.

I dont have those hours here but I feel like im in the twilight zone right now because I want to get out of here, but see to many scenarios like what has been described in the looking process.

Yet and still, everyday that I wake up, im grateful for life, but coming here is just like having a cramp mentally. Now someone might be like dude man up and all of that, well im here everyday so I am, but at the same time, I notice that I am exhausted every single day, I go to bed within an hour of being home, I can't stay up, and thats a problem...something is wrong because I have never in my life felt this way before.

Sure you always wish you could take a nap or sleep like you did in kindergarden, but this is not that...my body is literally tired when I get home every single day and the only thing I can think of is even trying to block it out to move on , or man up...it has taken a toll on me mentally.

[cjonesfan921]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

I'm right there with you, 23. I'm drained. I'm forever grateful and need this job more than ever, but just emotionally drained. It may just be the commute, as my coworkers are great and I'm treated fine. Just the drain of the commute really takes a toll.

I do have weekends but feel like this fly by.

[23]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

Weekends you say?

[cjonesfan921]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

Weekends you say?

I don't want to make it seem like I'm complaining, because I am fully aware others have no such thing as weekends. Friday night I get home around 7, don't really feel like doing anything. Saturday is my one day off, the way I look at it.

By the time Sunday is here, I'm basically prepping for the work week. Preparing lunch, laundry, ironing, getting a haircut/shape-up.

I do love, and appreciate, being able to catch all football games.

[23]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

I don't want to make it seem like I'm complaining, because I am fully aware others have no such thing as weekends. Friday night I get home around 7, don't really feel like doing anything. Saturday is my one day off, the way I look at it.

By the time Sunday is here, I'm basically prepping for the work week. Preparing lunch, laundry, ironing, getting a haircut/shape-up.

I do love, and appreciate, being able to catch all football games.

I know.. im the same. I have Saturday off as my only day as well, and I feel the same way you do. Its just the weekends seem to go by so fast thats why I laughed lol.

[dickey1331]

What I find so frustrating is the automation of the process. No one wants you to show up any longer....it's all computerized. You have no shot to make any kind of initial impression. Then you wait for weeks/months for some **** form letter via your e-mail.

That's what I've noticed with my wife job hunting. It's all online. No point in driving around and going inside because they all say apply online.

[VTPack919]

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That's what I've noticed with my wife job hunting. It's all online. No point in driving around and going inside because they all say apply online.

Honestly, nowadays I feel like some employers would be weirded out if you showed up in the office in regards to an online app.

[Cusefan]

I make about 50K a year before taxes delivering office supplies. Good thing about that is the cost of living in Syracuse is about the cheapest in the country so my 50K is about the same as someone who makes 100K in NYC or LA.

[23]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

I make about 50K a year before taxes delivering office supplies. Good thing about that is the cost of living in Syracuse is about the cheapest in the country so my 50K is about the same as someone who makes 100K in NYC or LA.

Wish I could do that here, at least I'll be outside and not in the same place all the time.

[Marino]

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I know how tough it is and it makesme that much more thankful that I landed a job for a company whe I did. I was about another month from moving home and being broke. I understand the struggle though, took me 7 months to find this job.

[Jr.]

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I turned down a $65K a year job working with the military to go for a career as a baseball coach.

I'm currently coaching baseball at a D3 school in Southern California and making $5,000 for the season. It is impossible to find a part-time job from January to June that will give me every afternoon and Friday/Saturday off, so I have drained all of my savings.

Luckily, the school here is a tight network, so one of the former players offered me a seasonal job for the summer packing fireworks for huge shows. The pay sucks and the hours are long, but I'm really hoping it's only for this summer and I will be able to start teaching at the university in the Fall and make decent money.

[ehh]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

I don't want to make it seem like I'm complaining, because I am fully aware others have no such thing as weekends. Friday night I get home around 7, don't really feel like doing anything. Saturday is my one day off, the way I look at it.

By the time Sunday is here, I'm basically prepping for the work week. Preparing lunch, laundry, ironing, getting a haircut/shape-up.

I do love, and appreciate, being able to catch all football games.

That's really how life is as an adult though, especially if you want to go anywhere with your career. I do at least 15-30 minutes of work every single Saturday/Sunday, whether it's answering an email for a client or some brief server maintenance. Some weekends are crazy. Tonight I'm doing a server cutover that's going to take from about 3-11pm. I'm doing it entirely by myself and I've been working since 8am this morning. It's just how it goes. The beauty of my job/company though is that if it's quiet tomorrow I'm out the door at like 2pm sipping an iced coffee and reading a book outside in the park.

I can't remember the last time I went out on a Friday, even to just dinner w. my girl. Forget boozing or anything. Friday is 'come home and plop on the couch and catch up on the DVR' night and usually be passed out by 11pm.

Unless you're working for a non-profit or something making an easy $40k (in CT terms) I don't think you'll find many 9-5p jobs anymore. We have a lot of NPO's as clients and outside of management pretty much everyone is there just to bring in a little more cash to their family and for the benefits. Everyone comes in late, most leave early or right at 5, most take 1+ hour lunch breaks. Every time I look at a workstation at those places it's littered with games the user downloaded. I don't think too many people want those types of jobs either, I'd be bored out of my mind and go mad. Better than being unemployed though.

[23]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

A career and a job are 2 different things

[AUChase]

Re: Looking for work is so frustrating

The automated aspect of a lot of jobs really is frustrating.

It's supposed to make things easier because the amount of applicants at some places, but I view it differently. A lot of companies are only allowed to hire people that have been pre screened by their corporate office.

I got lucky with my current job, but it's really not satisfying at all. I feel like I'm ripping people off by selling them a car for 20k+ after financing that our company invested 7.5k into. We're supposed to sell a 5 year, 50,000 mile warranty and no credit checks, but It's still tough for me to sell something I don't believe in. That's why I want out.

I don't know whether I'll make the military a career or not, but for right now I want to do something more important that actually helps people.

Our customers get excited about getting a car when everyone turns them down for their credit and they don't pay attention to the 24% interest and the terrible sale price. Then a few months later they get to thinkin', "Man, I'm going to be paying 20,000+ for a car I could get for 7,000 just because I wanted to get it financed." In turn, they let the car get reposessed and jack their credit up even further and will likely file for bankrupcy.

Again, it's hard for me to sale and work for something I don't believe in and I think is a lie. Yeah we're upfront with people about the process and they don't have to sign their name to anything, but it doesn't make it any easier for me.

It's not about the money for me right now.

[Heroesandvillains]

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Yet and still, everyday that I wake up, im grateful for life, but coming here is just like having a cramp mentally. Now someone might be like dude man up and all of that, well im here everyday so I am, but at the same time, I notice that I am exhausted every single day, I go to bed within an hour of being home, I can't stay up, and thats a problem...something is wrong because I have never in my life felt this way before.

...my body is literally tired when I get home every single day

I'm right there with you, 23. I'm drained. I'm forever grateful and need this job more than ever, but just emotionally drained. It may just be the commute, as my coworkers are great and I'm treated fine. Just the drain of the commute really takes a toll.

I do have weekends but feel like this fly by.

You guys said what I was trying to say, just way more articulately.

I can relate to these two posts so much.

We all have commitments in life, so I know all too well that these decisions are delicate. Compound that by the whack-job job market and application criteria out there (seriously, do hiring managers NOT want to meet their applicants in person any more?) and I understand completely that it's not like we can all just up and quit our jobs because we know the grass will be greener.

I literally prayed this morning that my current job will work out; to be able to provide me enough income to support myself and my fiancé. I dread having to go look for work again because I dread finding one like the sales position I just left.

I work for a small business owner by the way, essentially running his store like a retail/sales/commission hybrid. But I have to wonder if there's enough money to go around? Yikes, we've had a slow week!

Here's hoping, because like I said yesterday, I am extremely happy here.

I had those "Just man up" voices too! And boy can they really take over your actions and make you perpetuate a horrible situation. In my opinion, at least for me, it was a coping mechanism created by social pressure, life/family circumstances and sadly the times we live in (after giving it some thought. At the time I think it was all done subconsciously. It was like a reflex.). I wish I could explain it better. We all deserve happiness and peace and our families deserve it too is another way to put it.

Anyway, trust me when I say I will be praying for you all too. I've been there and know the hardship of these kind of jobs all too well.