How Often Should the Guy Pay?

[C the Lyte]

Re: How Often Should the Guy Pay?

You pay until she farts around you.

[mgoblue]

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I usually would pay, but when I was going on a couple of dates a week while online dating (usually a lot of first or second dates) we'd end up splitting it more often.

I'm chivalrous and want to pay, but when you're going out that often it can become more expensive...

[dsallupinyaarea]

Re: How Often Should the Guy Pay?

I usually would pay, but when I was going on a couple of dates a week while online dating (usually a lot of first or second dates) we'd end up splitting it more often.

I'm chivalrous and want to pay, but when you're going out that often it can become more expensive...

lol, how'd you sell that one?

"I'm seeing a lot of women right now and it's starting to add up. Do you mind splitting the bill tonight?"

[Altimus]

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Me and my GF never split the bill... she either pays the whole thing or I pay it. I'd say I pay around 70% of the lunches and dinners.

But can't complain, she's taken me to really nice dinners before and covered the whole tab.

[Guru03]

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Depends on the financial situation of the 2 people involved.

[AUChase]

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I finally let my gf pay for dinner a few weeks ago. Every time we go do something she would try stealing the check from me or insisting to the waiter to take her card or money instead and I refused to let her.

Then one night I finally let her do it.

I paid for our first several dates, which included a bunch of drinks, pool, bowling, movies, etc. It's a small price to pay when it's someone who I really enjoy spending time with. I could tell she's not just using me.


Personally, I always think the guy should pay for first dates and maybe several after that, but the girl should be willing to help out after that. If they don't even offer or try to fight you over paying or something, then that's a red flag for me.

[OSUFan_88]

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You pay until she farts around you.

LMAO.

First date my GF farted was actually the first date she paid for too. Dead serious.

I think once you have established that the relationship is serious, it's okay to start splitting the costs. No problem with guys always paying, but sometimes it just isn't feasible. And if she truly is worth it, she will offer. If not...well, I ain't sayin she's a gold digger but...

[mgoblue]

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lol, how'd you sell that one?

"I'm seeing a lot of women right now and it's starting to add up. Do you mind splitting the bill tonight?"

I don't know lol, some just seemed to want to split so I wasn't going crazy (especially if I knew at that point that I wasn't that into them lol). I was mostly going out with professional types so I don't know.

Sometimes I'd get dinner and she'd get the movie or something. They're doing the same thing with dating, so they kinda get how it is.

[cubsfan203]

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Depends on the situation. Typically I'll pay regardless, but there was a situation with an ex where I was already spending $10 in gas round trip to see her (she rarely came to me), and it would have been nice for her to chip in occasionally. She never did.

Another time I went out to get drinks with this girl the first time we met. Our bill came and she grabbed it and wouldn't have any of me wanting to pay. It definitely made me think highly of her because very few girls would even consider it let alone insist.

[Brandwin]

They want to be treated like equals but don't want to be treated like equals.

[st0rmb11]

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My girlfriend never brings her wallet or bank card in with us, so I always end up covering dinner and the tip.

Gets quite a bit expensive. I think she's paid 2 or 3 times, and we've eaten at really expensive places where I'd cover the bill, and she'd leave a good tip, but I'd say I pay for everything about 90% of the time.

Even had to pay an...unmentionable amount of money on my birthday a couple of months ago.

That said, I've never thought anything of it because I've always felt like it's my job to pay for it. We normally take her car when we go out, and she is the one keeping gas in it (most of the time; I've put gas in several times, as well), so I figure the least I can do is pay for food.

[ubernoob]

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She's got you.

[Bmore Irish]

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See, I'm such a progressive guy that I don't mind letting a lady pay for me. She can even make more money than me if she wants, which should lead to her paying more. I'm really just trying to break the whole gold digger stereotype. Guys can be gold diggers too, equal mooching for all!

[cooldude]

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The guy pays, at least initially. Once things get more serious, I don't think there's a hard and fast rule to go by.

[PhilliesFan13]

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When you're dating I think the guy should pay. Once you're married, you either mix it up or just use joint money.