Welp, I'm in trouble

[DukeC]

Things came to a head today. About a month ago my mom said in all serious that she was going to kick me out of the house for not taking out the trash that night...when I wasn't anywhere near the house. In fact, she had dropped me off at a friend's house 60 miles from where we live the day before. So not only did she get mad at me for stuff she, my sister, and my grandmother did, she blamed me for something I had no control over.

She recently got mad at me for not paying the cable and internet bill (the past 2 months) and for not having any of my refund money left...conveniently forgetting that because she said she was going to pay for her portion of the bill (that was 50$) and for 6 months she didn't. I had to pay all 125$ (the cutoff from it being shut off) for 6 months and my money eventually ran dry. Of course she blames that on me.

And now, she's taking me to see a recruiter. This isn't going to end well. I'm either going into the military with a full commitment or I'm homeless.

To be honest with you guys. I'm scared. Scared ****less. I'm not ready to be homeless. I don't have a penny to my name, minimal clothes, no I.D (that I've been meaning to get but it keeps slipping my mind, and now that I have no money to get it) and no one I can lean on for in a 60 mile radius.

I'm ****ed aren't I? **** ME.

If it helps any I'm 19 years old.

[areobee401]

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To be honest it sounds like you need to get your **** together. No reason getting a valid I.D. should continue to slip your mind. Do you not have a source of income?

[Brandon13]

Is going to school (vocational/college) something that is a possibility? Does discussing that with her have any possibility at defusing the situation?

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Sounds like a tough situation. If you have a car, then you need to find a job.

[Redacted01]

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Drop a brick on your foot. Military will pass. Then get a job. Stat.

[kingkilla56]

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Find a job asap, find a roommate where you can afford the rent on that salary even if its a ****ty place. If you arent ready for the Military life dont do it. You can't make that step out of the blue like this.

Do you have other family that can take you in for a few days, friends?

[jeremym480]

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You don't have any friends or relatives who have houses that you can squat at for a few days? Maybe you can do an odd job or something so you can get money for an I.D. Then you can try to get a job from there. Good luck.

[Beantown]

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If you arent ready for the Military life dont do it. You can't make that step out of the blue like this.

Do you have other family that can take you in for a few days, friends?

From the sound of it, the military thing sounds like a "forced by Mother" thing, not his choice. In that case, she's a ****ing terrible mother (no offense meant) because you do not force someone to join the military if the idea scares the **** out of them and they aren't ready. The military is not a joke, not a punishment and not a solution if you don't want it.

[kingkilla56]

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From the sound of it, the military thing sounds like a "forced by Mother" thing, not his choice. In that case, she's a ****ing terrible mother (no offense meant) because you do not force someone to join the military if the idea scares the **** out of them and they aren't ready. The military is not a joke, not a punishment and not a solution if you don't want it.

Yeah I understood that. His mother is obviously gon off her rocker here. But he has to step up as a man and find a solution to this. He certainly can't just pick up and join the military all of a sudden like this without serious thought and consideration because his momma said so. So he should find a place to crash for a few days to get his affairs together and find a new place to stay.

Im just hoping his mother was out of her mind and will calm down and see things clearly when some time passes.

Regardless Duke, do not join the military because your mother is forcing you. Find another way to get by.

[Beantown]

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Yeah I understood that. His mother is obviously gon off her rocker here. But he has to step up as a man and find a solution to this. He certainly can't just pick up and join the army all of a sudden like this without serious thought and consideration because his momma said so. So he should find a place to crash for a few days to get his affairs together and find a new place to stay.

Im just hoping his mother was out of her mind and will calm down and see things clearly when some time passes.

Regardless Duke, do not join the army because your mother is forcing you. Find another way to get by.

Completely agree with this. Do whatever you have to do, but if the military scares you/you're not ready for it/you don't actually want to join...don't let her force you into it.

[Chrisksaint]

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I agree with what's been said. If the military is something that doesn't interest you, do not join even if she's trying to force you.

[Redacted01]

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He wouldn't actually have to join the military guys. He's 19. His mother can't sign any papers for him. They can't force him to sign either.

[Beantown]

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He wouldn't actually have to join the military guys. He's 19. His mother can't sign any papers for him. They can't force him to sign either.

But if she drags him to a recruiter and the pressure gets to him and he sees "no other choice" or whatever might go through someone's mind when they have no where else to turn...he might give in and sign the papers.


I think the bigger thing is, I'm preeeeeetty sure the military might, you know, require some form of valid ID.

[SPTO]

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I don't know how you can go without ID. I know I couldn't. This sounds like a tough situation. You need to find a job ASAP. As for the military thing you better come up with some fake condition if you don't want to join up.

[The 24th Letter]

I doubt your mom is crazy. She's likely taking you to the recruiter to scare some sense into you...19 is around that age where things like not having an I.D because it "slipped your mind" is not longer acceptable....

Your mom doesn't want to ship you off or put you out in the street, she's looking for you to show some responsibility and set some goals....I guarantee if you go your mom today with a gameplan...all of this goes away....

Time to man it up...