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  • Sinner
    All Star
    • Jun 2003
    • 5483

    #1

    Bad move? am I crazy?

    I am 41 now and been on my own for a long time, enjoy it. Not married..no kids i'm happy. I live in an apartment now and they are going up on the rent big time. Much more than it's worth to be honest. I have a 97 Saturn and I keep it in good condition...have 2 student loans, one mine and the other my biological was supposed to pay..lied to my mom and step father and got them to put their names on it. He passed a couple years ago and I can't let my parents pay on it. I have a place right now set to move early Dec just haven't paid the deposit and first months rent.

    Found out my grandmothers' rent is also going up, my parents and a few of her kids help pay the rent...my parents can't help as much because my father (actually step father) lost his job and isn't making the money he was. Drives a school bus now. Basically they were talking to her after they found out her rent was going up and she said she likes living there and would hate move out...mentioned that she was hoping I would move in. Told her a couple weeks ago that I may be moving.

    My mother told me and at first I was like hell nah...but thinking about it she lives in a 3 bedroom house by herself..she gets around good and is out a lot. There are family members that pop up mostly on Sunday that may get on my nerves but I could just chill in my room. The crazy thing that pisses me off is I have a cousin that just retired from long NFL career and I don't think my grandmother should be in this position. Don't have to do anything for me or his other cousins but at least help out the women that helped you and your mother out...but thats a whole other story. So am I crazy for thinking about it? Stay to myself? I'll do anything I can for my parents, brother niece and grandmother without a doubt....me, my brother and one of my cousins give her money and take her shopping a lot...thoughts?
    Last edited by Sinner; 10-02-2013, 06:37 PM.
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  • Gotmadskillzson
    Live your life
    • Apr 2008
    • 23428

    #2
    Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

    Let her move into a smaller place. She can rent an apartment just as easy as she rented a house. I am not down for going into debt just for another family member can live the high life. Been through that before......it didn't end well.

    Don't fall for that guilt trip trap. Family can drag you down with them. It is like deja vu. Went through the same situation with my grandma 20 years ago.

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    • Sinner
      All Star
      • Jun 2003
      • 5483

      #3
      Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

      Yeah I understand what your saying, maybe I didn't explain it well enough...I wouldn't be going in debt actually. Would be helping with the rent and she would pay half of it...would be cheaper than what i'm paying now and what I would be paying with the place I can move to. Would give me a chance to get more money in the account also
      Last edited by Sinner; 10-02-2013, 07:44 PM.
      -= Never argue with an idiot, they drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.=- Edward Murphy

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      • Gotmadskillzson
        Live your life
        • Apr 2008
        • 23428

        #4
        Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

        Yeah........that is how it started off in my situation as well. Then it went from 50/50 split to 90/10 split while she was making it rain on her friends, her friends kids, her friends grand babies and my cousins. So saving never happened, then when she died, lady who owned the property said umm yeah you have 30 days to GTFO in November, I just sold it to some developers who want to bulldoze it.

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        • FreAk47
          Straight cash homie
          • Jan 2011
          • 247

          #5
          Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

          If you are worried about living with your grandmother, I say don't. I lived with my grandparents for my last semester of college to save money and such. At first I thought it would be horrible, but it was actually really nice. There was always good food, my grandma would offer to wash and iron all my clothes, the house was always super clean and neat. It was quite pleasant.

          There were a few things I had to come to grips with though...and this all depends on what type of situation it's going to be, some things may not apply if you have a mutual agreement to each do your own thing. But my situation, we shared common spaces and crossed paths quite a bit.

          1. Old people are weird...they wake up ridiculously early, have super strict routines, and get crazy if something offsets said routines.

          2. (this may be situation specific) Old people, especially ones who are retired, have nothing to do but worry about simple things. Ie...whats for dinner. They will begin asking you what you want for supper at like 9 am.

          3. Old people die...it was always my biggest fear to come home from school/work to find grandpa "napping" in his chair, there was always a slight pause to make sure he was breathing as I passed through. And although, I love my grandparents and would do anything for them...I didn't want to THE GUY who found one of them stiff as a board. Luckily, never happened!

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          • Clemsonpanther
            MVP
            • Apr 2012
            • 1028

            #6
            Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

            You have an NFL cousin? Lucky!

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            • psychraider32
              Pro
              • Mar 2012
              • 714

              #7
              Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

              Who the hell is your cousin? And living with gparents isn't that bad.
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              • Sinner
                All Star
                • Jun 2003
                • 5483

                #8
                Re: Bad move? am I crazy?

                Originally posted by Clemsonpanther
                You have an NFL cousin? Lucky!
                Its cool, was very happy for him..but he's not doing anything for anybody so no biggie. Not talking about handing out money to every family member....Never asked for anything but take care of your grandmother who helped raise you and helped your mother out.

                Help the family members that helped you get there
                -= Never argue with an idiot, they drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.=- Edward Murphy

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