In need of advice

[Bmore]

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The facebook status change with no explaination was a dead giveaway but I wanted to hold out hope for you. Oh well now you can move on and find someone better to share your life with.

I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, but deep down I knew something was going on when I saw the fb status change.



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[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Well this is over. Found out a little while ago that she's been seeing another guy. Yet she has still been calling me everyday.

At this point I'm questioning a lot of what she has told me. Stuff just doesn't add up. I think she might even be lying about how sick she was.

Oh well. Thanks for all the support and advice.

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Sorry to hear that. At least you know and can move on.

[seasprite]

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I would suggest watching advice from Corey Wayne....... The guy is a "chick whisper" )lol

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[Bmore]

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This girl is certifiably insane. The cops just showed up at my house with a peace order. Her bf threatened me Friday night. He said: "bring your no legged butt up here so I can F you up" I know some guys in a motorcycle club so I said if he threatens me again, he'll have 50 pissed off bikers to deal with.

So according to her I'm affiliated with a well known biker club, I had anger and depression issues throughout our relationship, and I pose a threat.

Now I'm a 30 year old who is suffering from a disease that eats away at your muscles. I can't walk, and I can barely lift up a glass to drink out of at times. I physically need help with everyday activities. How in the world am I a "threat"?

[mattsb84]

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Hmm..i just cant think of what you said that would cause such a reaction...

I know some guys in a motorcycle club so I said if he threatens me again, he'll have 50 pissed off bikers to deal with.

Anyhow, stop communicating with her(stop paying for her phone now). You've already given her enough ammo to use against you, so stop it.

Clearly, shes moved on, and sounds like an emotionally unstable person. Now you should move on, and find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea and what not.

[Bmore]

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Hmm..i just cant think of what you said that would cause such a reaction...

The biker comment was in retaliation the to threats from her and her boyfriend. I can admit that I lost my cool, but it's hard not to when someone is threatening to "F up your life" and "kick your no legged butt".

The truth about motorcycle club is that is was founded by retired Baltimore City police officers. These aren't the hells angels we're talking about, but I do know that they will make their presence known without getting physical. She also knows a few people in this club.

Anyhow, stop communicating with her(stop paying for her phone now). You've already given her enough ammo to use against you, so stop it.

I've had no communication with her since Friday. I'm not paying for her phone. I'm paying for my phone that I let her borrow. She has just refused to give it back. She has her own contract with at&t. I'm just stuck paying for the actual phone.

Clearly, shes moved on, and sounds like an emotionally unstable person. Now you should move on, and find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea and what not.

I've moved on. We had a court date today. It was basically agree to the peace order, or pay a lawyer and go to trial next week to fight it. There's really nothing to gain. I don't want anything to do with her anyway. The whole situation could have been avoided if she acted like an adult and just returned my property.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Sometimes you just have to take one for the team, and call it a life lesson learned. If you truly need the phone back (financial reasons) and not just out of spite then take her to small claims court.

[Bmore]

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Sometimes you just have to take one for the team, and call it a life lesson learned. If you truly need the phone back (financial reasons) and not just out of spite then take her to small claims court.

I got at&t to disable the iPhone. I've decided that's enough. It's time to just let this go and move on with my life.

[wwharton]

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I got at&t to disable the iPhone. I've decided that's enough. It's time to just let this go and move on with my life.

Good luck to you, Bmore. I know very well how small the "world" of Baltimore is... this crap has had to be hard enough as it is. I feel for you. When I say let it go (and I can probably speak for the others too), don't think of it like "don't contact her, go the other way when you see her, etc." Think more "don't engage her." Ignore her calls, threats, whatever. Don't let her take another second of your energy.

[jeremym480]

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I hate that happened to you Bmore. I knew that something sounded fishy when she deleted your FB comments. I think that what wwharton said was the best advice anyone can give... just avoid her at all cost. Also, you can take solace in the fact that you were the bigger person and moved on.

I know it sucks, but to me it sounds like you're better off without her anyway. You definitely deserve better.

[JODYE]

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Man Bmore, this was hard to read. Probably even more so because I went through a similar situation with an ex (not so much with the threats) but the lying, manipulation, creating stories from thin air and getting other people to buy in.

If they will lie and manipulate little things like FB comments/statuses etc, you obviously found out that they will do it regarding bigger things as well.

It wasn't good and if you feed into it, it sucks you in. My advice, as is the advice of others, is to ignore her completely. Acknowledging any of her behavior, or his, is not going to do you any good.

I definitely wish you the best of luck. You deserve much better than that.

[Bmore]

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I had to accept the peace order yesterday so I can't have any contact with her. Which is fine by me because I don't want anything to do with her.

The MD court system is so screwed up. I wasn't allowed to give my side of the story or defend myself yesterday. I was told that I could hire a lawyer and go to trial next week. So it was either accept the peace order, or pay a bunch of money for a lawyer and waste another day next week. There was really nothing to gain by going to trial.

I have plenty of ammo against her and her new boyfriend. Call records, texts, and a witness. I've talked to some people and they all believed that the peace order would have been dismissed had I gone to trial.

[wwharton]

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Gotta take a small step back... you may want to at least find out what having that on your public record looks like. I think it'd have to be something potentially damaging for you to keep fighting, but you should at least know what the possibilities are.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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I had to accept the peace order yesterday so I can't have any contact with her. Which is fine by me because I don't want anything to do with her.

The MD court system is so screwed up. I wasn't allowed to give my side of the story or defend myself yesterday. I was told that I could hire a lawyer and go to trial next week. So it was either accept the peace order, or pay a bunch of money for a lawyer and waste another day next week. There was really nothing to gain by going to trial.

I have plenty of ammo against her and her new boyfriend. Call records, texts, and a witness. I've talked to some people and they all believed that the peace order would have been dismissed had I gone to trial.

What do you have to gain by taking this to court? Is this something a prospective employer can find out and use as a basis to not hire you? If that's a possibility, then by all means do what you gotta do legal-wise.

If not, just let it go (IMO). Not worth the time or the money. You don't want anything to do with her anyway.

[wwharton]

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What do you have to gain by taking this to court? Is this something a prospective employer can find out and use as a basis to not hire you? If that's a possibility, then by all means do what you gotta do legal-wise.

If not, just let it go (IMO). Not worth the time or the money. You don't want anything to do with her anyway.

That's what I'm wondering. I think Bmore is all ready to let it go... I'd just cover all basis and make sure nothing stupid like that could happen.