Off Topic 2015

[jeremym480]

Re: Off Topic 2015

I guess you have enough money for an "escape plan" and don't have to break a lease or something, then maybe it's worth a shot, slick.

I wouldn't do it, but if you think you can, then give it a shot. I would definitely make goals for yourself though..... and more importantly make sure you keep those goals. Lastly, I would tell the in-laws (and wife) that we will be here for X amount of time and then we're getting our own place.

Man, even typing that makes me weary about the whole thing. The first question that comes up is what's in it for them? Are you going to be paying them a little for rent each month? If so, are they going to be pissed when you find a new place? What if something goes wrong? Something major breaks or your FIL loses his job or something like that? Are they going to expect you to pay more or give up the money you saved? To me it's kind of like don't let a family/friend member borrow money because it can just take a turn for the worst so quickly type of situations. But, if you have enough money to get out if things aren't to your liking and don't think it will hurt feelings (with your in-laws, as well as your wife), give it a try. It's a very risky proposition though.

[slickdtc]

Re: Off Topic 2015

I guess you have enough money for an "escape plan" and don't have to break a lease or something, then maybe it's worth a shot, slick.

I wouldn't do it, but if you think you can, then give it a shot. I would definitely make goals for yourself though..... and more importantly make sure you keep those goals. Lastly, I would tell the in-laws (and wife) that we will be here for X amount of time and then we're getting our own place.

Man, even typing that makes me weary about the whole thing. The first question that comes up is what's in it for them? Are you going to be paying them a little for rent each month? If so, are they going to be pissed when you find a new place? What if something goes wrong? Something major breaks or your FIL loses his job or something like that? Are they going to expect you to pay more or give up the money you saved? To me it's kind of like don't let a family/friend member borrow money because it can just take a turn for the worst so quickly type of situations. But, if you have enough money to get out if things aren't to your liking and don't think it will hurt feelings (with your in-laws, as well as your wife), give it a try. It's a very risky proposition though.

Yeah, definitely an escape plan in place just in case (we have enough for a security deposit and first month rent to go back to an apartment or townhouse in savings). Our main goal is just save, save, save. We've really done well with it over the last couple months, so this is an opportunity to kick that into high gear.

They're getting an additional source of income and downsizing without having to sell their home. When we're done there, we'll give them an appropriate notice. No just upping and leaving, even though it's going to be our space within their house, they're still being generous to offer it to us so we would want to extend that courtesy back.

Fair question about payments. They've actually been through a rough time the last few years but are getting back on their feet (both been laid off but have found work within the last few months). That sounds like a major red flag and it certainly is. That's why we haven't committed to a date just yet. I want to see that they're stable in their jobs and that the final renovations are done and not dragged out.

I think the final thing is to be real and honest in a talk with them. Hash out all the possibilities and details. If they're not up to my liking, we walk away. I'm not getting roped into a rent payment of this amount one month, then $100 more the next. Nah. Ain't happening. Even if it's still cheaper then what we currently pay, I'm all about stability. No up and down games. It's this much a month, every time. I'm not signing **** just yet.

We have all the leverage here. Our current lease is month to month so we don't have an expiration date on our current living arrangements. The target date is the fall so there's a couple months to evaluate how things are going over there. Again, if not up to my standards, it's off.

I appreciate all the scenarios you've presented and believe me I'm playing them all out in my head. Got a nice notepad going with everything I want to talk about. Since they're my in-laws, I'm a bit removed and also being a male, I'm thinking it through. No jumping in blindly.

[ImTellinTim]

Re: Off Topic 2015

I hate this time of the year here at home. So many stupid hipsters in the valley clogging up space for Coachella Fest and to make it worse it's two weekends in a row. I live about 10 minutes from the grounds and never been to the festival.

I didn't really see too many of them this weekend. I'm in Cathedral City.

I did see that 10 was a parking lot earlier today though.

[TracerBullet]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Having a new phone that isn't a pile of **** has decreased my anger quite a bit.

[Majingir]

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It's nice having sun up this early in the day! Already gets bright after 6am and before 630am the street lights are already shut off cause it's bright enough that you don't need it!

And it doesn't get dark until around 8pm(street lights don't come on until then either,unless it's real cloudy or something)!

[psychraider32]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Started trying to wake up at 6 am everyday in an effort to be productive and get a good start to the day. Studying for the GRE for grad school in two weeks as well. Fun times and so many vocab words.

[seasprite]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Started trying to wake up at 6 am everyday in an effort to be productive and get a good start to the day. Studying for the GRE for grad school in two weeks as well. Fun times and so many vocab words.

Good luck with the GRE. You will probably overthink it and stress more than you should over it.

[TracerBullet]

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Just found an adult baby while casually browsing Tinder.

[RockinDaMike]

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Visiting Cebu City for the first time for a hotel convention and it's already my favorite city in The Philippines. Such a relief because I hate Manila for the most part.

[slickdtc]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Say word, it's Whopper Wednesday

[Majingir]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Say word, it's Whopper Wednesday

People still say that.......?

[Cusefan]

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Anyone listen to Howard Stern today? David Arquette sounds like a absolute lunatic, dude has completely lost it.


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[slickdtc]

Re: Off Topic 2015

People still say that.......?

Fo shizzle playa

[TripleCrown9]

Re: Off Topic 2015

Anyone listen to Howard Stern today? David Arquette sounds like a absolute lunatic, dude has completely lost it.


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I didn't hear Stern, but I have seen Ready to Rumble.

[Fresh Tendrils]

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Tax Season 2015 is over. I also managed to get through it while "on call" for jury duty from Jan 20th through April 19th and not be selected.