Did I do the right thing?

[Trent Booty]

Okay, so here's a bit of backstory drama.

Pretty much, this kid wants to fight my brother. He's 15 and a sophomore. I'm 17 and a senior and the kid who wants to fight im him is also 17 and a senior. That's bad enough, but the reason he wants to fight him is because he's talking to this girl (who's 14 and a freshman) that he is oddly obsessed with. (Obsessed is not an exaggeration.) so he is on Twitter currently tweeting about how he's gonna kick my brothers ***, so I come in and defend my brother. I actually am a little rude, and pretty muc make him look like a joke. While I'm doing this, my brothers also responding, and not being hateful at all, he's trying to understand why he's being targeted for such a dumb reason.

So the kids starts talking about how he'll fight me too, and I'm about 5'10, 225 lbs, and he's about 5'8 and like 150 lbs lol. I've never been in a fight, but I'm fairly confident I can whoop this kids candy ***. I also came up with a strategy to avoid getting in trouble at school. I'm pretty much gonna warn him not to try anything, and that he's threatening me, and I'll back away a couple times and if he comes at me more, I'll just take him out fast with a couple quick punches. I can then claim self defense and also look like a badass. If he tried fighting my brother, I was gonna break it up, and if he tried anything, whoop his *** and also call it self-defense.

My brother is about 5'8 too, but he's like 115 lbs lol. surprisingly he wasn't scared of the kid, who had confronted him yesterday, so I'm not sure if it's the right idea. Should I step in or no?

Also something that's pretty important: I called him out for always backing out of fights, as he talks a lotta crap and when it comes down to it, he denies saying this or that and ends up unscathed.

I'm just trying to figure out if I have the right idea if he tries anything, and if he doesn't, how I should respond. I have a feeling he's just gonna ignore us, even after talking so much crap on Twitter. So what should I do?

I know this is stupid high school drama but my brother didn't even want a part of it, he just talked to a girl with crazy-ex-syndrome (they actually barely even hung out, let alone dated.) I know everyone on this site are usually grown men but at my age, is this the right thing to do? I'm just trying to stick up for my brother, as I've been a pretty ****ty brother up until recently (around the summer is when I started being nice) and I want to prove it even more by having his back. Plus we've actually become good friends who hang out and play video games together, go hangout somewhere, etc.

Am I butting in too much? Should I let him fight his own battle? I need your guys help, and it's supposed to be in the morning around 7:45 PST, as our school starts at 8. What would you guys do?

[Equinox831]

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Well this is interesting.

First and foremost, you don't want to fight the kid. Fighting someone is pretty pointless and stupid in just about every context. There's still a chance you can defuse the situation without getting into an altercation. As for stepping in and defending your brother, hell yeah you did the right thing. You gotta protect your family, so telling some dude to back off is completely necessary.

I predict that this dude isn't going to be so damn aggressive in person, so with that in mind try to just get him to relax and not throw punches. If he swings at you then I'd say everything's fair game..

[Trent Booty]

Re: Did I do the right thing?

Well this is interesting.

First and foremost, you don't want to fight the kid. Fighting someone is pretty pointless and stupid in just about every context. There's still a chance you can defuse the situation without getting into an altercation. As for stepping in and defending your brother, hell yeah you did the right thing. You gotta protect your family, so telling some dude to back off is completely necessary.

I predict that this dude isn't going to be so damn aggressive in person, so with that in mind try to just get him to relax and not throw punches. If he swings at you then I'd say everything's fair game..

Thanks! One quality both me and my brother have is that we're good, slow, methodical talkers and we've both talked out way out of fights, trouble, etc. before. Should be no different, guess we'll find out tomorrow lol

[jeremym480]

Re: Did I do the right thing?

I would try to avoid a fight at all cost. Certainly don't instigate anything, but there's nothing wrong with having your brothers back.

Hopefully, common sense prevails and the guys just backs off. However, if he makes a move, then he has what's coming to him. Some people don't learn unless they're taught a lesson.

Good luck.

[fistofrage]

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Fighting is stupid. Do it only in self defense if its absolutely necessary. This doesn't seem like a self defense situation.

When I was younger, I saw no problem in fighting. I was in a few and every time I barely remember them, I literally saw red and while no one got hurt too bad because people would step in before they got too out of hand, my goal was to destroy that person and make sure they never wanted to consider fighting again.

In college I saw a guy die in a bar fight over a stool. He got decked pretty hard but got up and shook it off. He died of head trauma during the night and the person he was fighting got prison time. These were people with seemingly bright careers.

Don't fight, it's not worth it. Learn to defend yourself if need be, but only as a last resort.

[Jr.]

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Be sure that if you do fight at school, you won't get suspended. When I was in high school there was a zero tolerance policy for fighting. If you got in a fight, you got suspended 10 days, no matter who started it or what the reason was.

I got into quite a few fights as a kid, so I'm not necessarily against it if there's a good reason and you seem to have one assuming everything is truly going down like you explain.

If he does try to fight your brother, and your brother truly isn't scared, see what your brother can do first. Maybe he can take care of yourself and you won't have to step in. Punching someone isn't painless, and there's a good chance you'll hurt yourself since you've never been in a fight and probably don't know how to punch properly.

[Mabster]

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I've never been in a fight... I'll just take him out fast with a couple quick punches.

I hope it didn't come to blows because I doubt it happens like you envisioned it.

[fistofrage]

Re: Did I do the right thing?

I hope it didn't come to blows because I doubt it happens like you envisioned it.

[mgoblue]

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I'd rather never fight in my life...for all I know I have a glass jaw and someone would knock me the f out and i'd hit my head and die or something crazy.

[Matt10]

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I'd rather never fight in my life...for all I know I have a glass jaw and someone would knock me the f out and i'd hit my head and die or something crazy.

That's why I've never fought, or wanted to. You just don't know what can happen. You punch a guy in the head, he falls down, and hits head on a rock - dead. You kick a guy in the jewels, he falls to his knees, lays down and hits his head on a rock. You b**** Slap a dude, he oversells it, falls down, and hits his head on a rock.

You can replace rock with table corner, cement step, stair rail, etc. Either way, don't do it.

[fistofrage]

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That's why I've never fought, or wanted to. You just don't know what can happen. You punch a guy in the head, he falls down, and hits head on a rock - dead. You kick a guy in the jewels, he falls to his knees, lays down and hits his head on a rock. You b**** Slap a dude, he oversells it, falls down, and hits his head on a rock.

You can replace rock with table corner, cement step, stair rail, etc. Either way, don't do it.

That's exactly right, one punch could change someone's life forever. If you want to prove who is manlier go to the gym and strap on the gloves. But in a fight its a whole different ball game. Natural human instincts take over. You have to assume that if the guy gets you on the ground, he's going to curb stomp you American History X style. It's no joke. When it comes to blows, some people will assume they are fighting for their life, kill or be killed and you better be ready to do the same. Bad things can happen whether its intentional or not. Its silly to fight unless you are in imminent danger.

[Phobia]

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The threads I've seen on OS recently........................lord! From memory foam mattresses & boners to highschool & fighting. The internet can be a strange place

[jeremym480]

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The threads I've seen on OS recently........................lord! From memory foam mattresses & boners to highschool & fighting. The internet can be a strange place

Come on Phobia you know you would whoop that bullies *** if they were missing with you or one of your relatives. Wouldn't you?

edit: And I wise man once said "life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get"... well, the same can be said about the internet.

[Trent Booty]

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I hope it didn't come to blows because I doubt it happens like you envisioned it.

The kid avoided me AND my brother at school all day. He said "he's over it" but whatever. And when I said that, I didn't mean to sound cocky at all, or that I was gonna knock him out, i just meant I'd probably get him on the ground (I'm bigger than him) and just kind hold him until someone breaks it up. Again, I've never been in a fight, and I don't ever plan on it unless it's in self defense. I am definitely no badass, I'm compared more to a nice teddy bear, lol.

I hope I didn't sound extremely cocky last night.

[Trent Booty]

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Also, I never was gonna instigate the guy. The only fighting I'll ever do is self defense or defending Someone who needs it.