Sad day for me

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Sorry to hear man. Lost my dad in 2010. I teach at the high school and he was subbing for another teacher that day. I still remember that we were talking in the car ride to work about if he was gonna go to the homecoming game that night with me. Said he would if I was driving...would be our last conversation. He had a heart attack and collapsed in the hall after the pep rally. I watched them try and give him CPR and rode in the back of the ambulance. Didn't think I could survive it. Nothing ever makes the pain go away completely, but time does help make the pain more bearable.

You have a chance to spend time with your grandpa before that unimaginable time happens. Do and say everything you need to him while you still have the opportunity. A lot of times you don't get that chance and have to live with that regret.

The best thing for me was getting back to work. Having family and friends over helped as well.
Being at home with my thoughts and sadness was just not helpful. My dog sat with me during most of my crying sessions. That's why I'll do anything for Benji (yes, he's spoiled but rightfully so).

[JeremyB]

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Thank you again for the kind words.

I was able to take today off to go and see him. He was tired and pale but otherwise pretty good. The hospital said there is nothing else they can do so discharged him tonight as they need the bed. He has a follow up with the cancer clinic a couple towns over ( same one wife went too and regarded as one of the best ) I still don't think he will go though chemo but we will see what they think. I will keep you guys posted. Thanks again for all the advice.

[Brandwin]

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Sorry to here that brother. I'm glad you are able to spend some time with him.

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[JeremyB]

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Back again fellas,

Thank you for all the kind words and messages they were very nice.

My grandfather lost his battle with cancer this morning at 10:30. I was there most nights last week and last saw him on the weekend. We were able to talk last Monday before he was medicated to help him sleep through the pain. I gave him a a hug and told him I loved him.

Thanks again for the well wishes guys

[jeremym480]

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Back again fellas,

Thank you for all the kind words and messages they were very nice.

My grandfather lost his battle with cancer this morning at 10:30. I was there most nights last week and last saw him on the weekend. We were able to talk last Monday before he was medicated to help him sleep through the pain. I gave him a a hug and told him I loved him.

Thanks again for the well wishes guys

Sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[Knight165]

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My condolences.

M.K.
Knight165

[Bullit]

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Thoughts and prayers to you and yours

[woodjer]

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Back again fellas,

Thank you for all the kind words and messages they were very nice.

My grandfather lost his battle with cancer this morning at 10:30. I was there most nights last week and last saw him on the weekend. We were able to talk last Monday before he was medicated to help him sleep through the pain. I gave him a a hug and told him I loved him.

Thanks again for the well wishes guys

Hey man--

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my grandfather almost three years ago now and your first post brought a lot of emotions back surrounding mine. It sounds like you did everything that I would have recommended in terms of being there as often as possible.

Moving forward, don't be afraid to let the emotions take over for a bit from time to time. Be gracious enough to lean on those that love and support you. I made the mistake of shifting all of my grief internally and ended up way over-stressed as a result.

I'm happy to talk through things with you any time if I can be of any help. In closing, I'll relay what a close family friend told me at his funeral luncheon. He's only really gone when you stop thinking of him.

All the best.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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Been away so just now seeing the update. So sorry to hear of your loss.

[JeremyB]

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Thanks for the nice words guys, much appreciated. So much class and good people here at os.

The funeral was nice my brother read something he wrote which was for me the most touch part of the ceremony. I'm glad they asked him he's good with a audience and doesn get nervous easy. When I got home It felt that he was actually gone now and that I won't get to hear his voice.

I used all my vacation and sick days and o be with him while he was still conscious and talking. The bad part is I now have a bad cough and cold and quite a high fever. Almost like my body is just rundown now

[woodjer]

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The bad part is I now have a bad cough and cold and quite a high fever. Almost like my body is just rundown now

This is quite possible. You've spent so much of your recent time focusing on your grandfather and the emotions of losing him. Now your body finally has a chance to get a word in edgewise. This happened to me as well. All I can suggest is taking really good care of yourself. Get to bed early, eat healthy, remove bad habits as much as possible. The worst thing you can do is try to ignore it. As my wife kept telling me, "just let yourself be sick for a little while" otherwise, your body will continue to scream louder and louder. I ended up in the hospital because I didn't listen...had to have CAT scans, chest x-rays, tested for seizures, ultrasounds, blood tests, etc. and there was nothing there in any of them. It all got better pretty quickly once I started heeding her advice and taking better care of myself.

Of course, I'm not a doctor (I just play one online ) so get yourself checked out, too. Chances are you just need more rest but don't take my word for it. Get a professional's opinion if you get worried.

[LambertandHam]

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Thanks for the nice words guys, much appreciated. So much class and good people here at os.

The funeral was nice my brother read something he wrote which was for me the most touch part of the ceremony. I'm glad they asked him he's good with a audience and doesn get nervous easy. When I got home It felt that he was actually gone now and that I won't get to hear his voice.

I used all my vacation and sick days and o be with him while he was still conscious and talking. The bad part is I now have a bad cough and cold and quite a high fever. Almost like my body is just rundown now

I'm sorry for your loss. I gave the eulogy for my father with my brothers besides me, I wouldn't beat yourself up if you were nervous, it's very hard. It's good that you got to spend time with him and talk to him, as those are the conversations you'll remember years from now.

I do agree with woodjer in you have to take care of yourself now.