Re: Off-Topic

[studbucket]

Maybe just a sign of the times or people getting older, but for whatever reason I've noticed much more people moving lately.

I'd say within the last 3 or so years I've had at least 5 neighbours (that I'm familiar with) move (3 in the last 12 months). Not just people living directly beside me, but even just houses directly across the street too. And all of them had lived in their houses for at least a decade (some I genuinely thought they'd just live there forever and when they die their kids either get it or just sell it).

Made it feel like such a smaller world back then compared to how it'd feel even just a few years later where it goes from "you know your neighbours" to now feeling like everyone around are just total strangers living in someone else's house.

I live in the Seattle area and the price increases + remote work via COVID saw 10 families we were friends or acquaintances with move away.

2 of them explicitly moved because they couldn't afford a home out here. I saw starter homes go from $300k in 2010 go to $1 Million in 2020+.

The others all realized that with remote work and things closing down due to COVID, there was no point in living out here. They might as well be closer to family.

Of course, this is all anecdotal for me.

[Majingir]

Price increases definitely have been insane. One downside to living in a major city because the demand is higher meaning the prices go up, and developers and businesses just buy things as investments which is a whole other issue (developers and businesses aren't typically buying properties in some small town hours away from a major city). It's sad to see how a 1 bedroom condo here costs the same price as a 2 or 3 bedroom house in a small town (sure, I dont know if that neighbourhood or house is actually good, but just comparing prices it's interesting to see).

[Ghost Of The Year]

Maybe just a sign of the times or people getting older, but for whatever reason I've noticed much more people moving lately.

I'd say within the last 3 or so years I've had at least 5 neighbours (that I'm familiar with) move (3 in the last 12 months). Not just people living directly beside me, but even just houses directly across the street too. And all of them had lived in their houses for at least a decade (some I genuinely thought they'd just live there forever and when they die their kids either get it or just sell it).

Made it feel like such a smaller world back then compared to how it'd feel even just a few years later where it goes from "you know your neighbours" to now feeling like everyone around are just total strangers living in someone else's house.

My neighbors on my left and right have been my neighbors for over twenty years. They each moved next door to me a couple years after I moved into a brand new subdivision. Couple Christmas' ago the one on the left up and moved. Him and his wife were great neighbors, hated seeing them move. My son is friends with the other neighbors son and he's (my son) telling me his friends parents are thinking of moving so they can get a place with a lot smaller yard to upkeep. I hope they change their mind.

[Majingir]

Everyone obviously had their reasons for moving, but I don't think I've ever seen this many people living this close to me move in such a short time. It's not like prices are so high that it's worth it to sell before the bubble bursts. It does feel weird though suddenly getting used to so many different neighbours. Not that I personally know them or anything, but at some point you get used to everyone and the way things are that someone new coming in feels different. Even one of my new neighbours is like the exact opposite of the people who used to live there. An older couple who kept to themselves and didn't spend much time in their yard (if they were even home). The person who moved in is now the opposite. I think they work from home but they're also outdoors so often and are constantly playing music on their surround speakers on their deck and having people over. I miss having those other neighbours. They're everyone's dream neighbour. You never see them, never hear from them, but know they're there.

[Majingir]

Note to self, if you're gonna go and basically ask someone out, be prepared for them to not say yes and either friend zone you or just zone you (which is probably worse than friend zoning you since this is like some limbo where you're not on friend terms but you're not entirely in the doghouse either).

[Ghost Of The Year]

Note to self, if you're gonna go and basically ask someone out, be prepared for them to not say yes and either friend zone you or just zone you (which is probably worse than friend zoning you since this is like some limbo where you're not on friend terms but you're not entirely in the doghouse either).

Still, all in all, its better to ask regardless of yes or no. For everyone you consider asking but don't, you will wonder, did you let "The" one get away.

[Majingir]

You never know who will be "the one", but I feel like I'm drawn to certain kinds of personalities more than any other traits. It's easier to be drawn to certain looks because it's much easier to find someone who fits certain physical listings, which is probably why I care more about personality because as much as people can fake their personalities for a while, once you're around someone enough, you can tell the kind of person they really are and if that's the kind of person you want to surround yourself with. Which, based on what I look for, I find it really is hard to find someone who checks off those personality traits. Not that it's unrealistic or unbelievable to expect it, but I feel like if I ever did list out the personality traits I'm looking for, it really might show how small that field probably is if you had some multi layered Venn diagram, so it does feel like finding a unicorn.

[Majingir]

Note to self, if you're gonna go and basically ask someone out, be prepared for them to not say yes and either friend zone you or just zone you (which is probably worse than friend zoning you since this is like some limbo where you're not on friend terms but you're not entirely in the doghouse either).

Still, all in all, its better to ask regardless of yes or no. For everyone you consider asking but don't, you will wonder, did you let "The" one get away.

The other part that should probably be common knowledge is knowing ahead of time if they had a boyfriend (which I'm now piecing together after the fact was 99% likely the case), because I do think they might have said yes if not for that.

[Ghost Of The Year]

Hoppy Easter, don't eat too many scrambled easter eggs today!

[Majingir]

I almost never use Facebook anymore but randomly saw a post about someone I used to know back in high school who died a few weeks ago and their funeral service was this past weekend (I'm also surprised how many people I knew from high school are all still friends. I cut all of them out of my life the day I graduated, I figured people would naturally drift apart from each other too but seems like they never did...)

I don't know what happened, but what a crazy way to find out. Makes you wonder how many others I might have once known who are no longer around.

The last time I saw them was probably a year or two after graduating high school and I was walking home one day and randomly saw them waiting at a bus stop and I just walked up to them to catch up. They were the definition of the popular/well rounded person in high school who did everything from music to sports.

I've already been hating things lately finding out one of my friends at work is moving soon and now seeing someone I once knew is dead (not that I kept in touch with them but it's still sad to hear), you really have to cherish every day for so many different reasons and the older you get the more things will change.

[SmashMan]

I almost never use Facebook anymore but randomly saw a post about someone I used to know back in high school who died a few weeks ago and their funeral service was this past weekend (I'm also surprised how many people I knew from high school are all still friends. I cut all of them out of my life the day I graduated, I figured people would naturally drift apart from each other too but seems like they never did...)

That reminds me of my 20-year high school reunion a few years ago. I didn't go for the reason you listed here: I cut most of them out after high school. Not for any negative reason, it's just that I knew them in the context of school. Even if we hung out on weekends sometimes it still came back to just being friends because I saw them once or twice a day when we had class together. Once that routine was broken and we moved in different directions? I don't know, it just felt like we all had different lives and didn't have too much in common.

Sent some Facebook messages about five years after graduation and kept in touch every so often with those who responded, but I even lost touch with them eventually too. From the responses to the 20-year invite a lot more people kept in touch than I thought but I think it's natural for a lot of us to just drift apart.

[rockchisler]

I almost never use Facebook anymore but randomly saw a post about someone I used to know back in high school who died a few weeks ago and their funeral service was this past weekend (I'm also surprised how many people I knew from high school are all still friends. I cut all of them out of my life the day I graduated, I figured people would naturally drift apart from each other too but seems like they never did...)

I don't know what happened, but what a crazy way to find out. Makes you wonder how many others I might have once known who are no longer around.

The last time I saw them was probably a year or two after graduating high school and I was walking home one day and randomly saw them waiting at a bus stop and I just walked up to them to catch up. They were the definition of the popular/well rounded person in high school who did everything from music to sports.

I've already been hating things lately finding out one of my friends at work is moving soon and now seeing someone I once knew is dead (not that I kept in touch with them but it's still sad to hear), you really have to cherish every day for so many different reasons and the older you get the more things will change.

See if there’s a Facebook page for your high school friends
I am part of mine

Sent from the Operation Sports App

[Majingir]

I almost never use Facebook anymore but randomly saw a post about someone I used to know back in high school who died a few weeks ago and their funeral service was this past weekend (I'm also surprised how many people I knew from high school are all still friends. I cut all of them out of my life the day I graduated, I figured people would naturally drift apart from each other too but seems like they never did...)

I don't know what happened, but what a crazy way to find out. Makes you wonder how many others I might have once known who are no longer around.

The last time I saw them was probably a year or two after graduating high school and I was walking home one day and randomly saw them waiting at a bus stop and I just walked up to them to catch up. They were the definition of the popular/well rounded person in high school who did everything from music to sports.

I've already been hating things lately finding out one of my friends at work is moving soon and now seeing someone I once knew is dead (not that I kept in touch with them but it's still sad to hear), you really have to cherish every day for so many different reasons and the older you get the more things will change.

See if there’s a Facebook page for your high school friends
I am part of mine

Sent from the Operation Sports App

I don't have any intention of connecting with them though. I'm glad I've moved on from them. People who were friends for 10-15 years basically by the end of high school I realized I just didn't want to be friends with them anymore for various reasons and by the end of high school I was only wanting to stay friends with them for convenience (school projects, homework help and so on). I still remember the last time I ever spoke to most of them was actually the very last day of school (the day you get your grades from all your teachers and everyone signs each others yearbooks). Once all that was over with I literally just left and never looked back.

And seems like people are still good friends with 1 person in particular who let's just say they more than anyone else hated me for reasons I never understood.

It's a shame that my entire school life gets overshadowed basically by the last year or two of high school because it was fun prior to that. It was mainly because of a few people specifically who just made that last year or two ones I don't look back on fondly.

[Majingir]

I almost never use Facebook anymore but randomly saw a post about someone I used to know back in high school who died a few weeks ago and their funeral service was this past weekend (I'm also surprised how many people I knew from high school are all still friends. I cut all of them out of my life the day I graduated, I figured people would naturally drift apart from each other too but seems like they never did...)

That reminds me of my 20-year high school reunion a few years ago. I didn't go for the reason you listed here: I cut most of them out after high school. Not for any negative reason, it's just that I knew them in the context of school. Even if we hung out on weekends sometimes it still came back to just being friends because I saw them once or twice a day when we had class together. Once that routine was broken and we moved in different directions? I don't know, it just felt like we all had different lives and didn't have too much in common.

Sent some Facebook messages about five years after graduation and kept in touch every so often with those who responded, but I even lost touch with them eventually too. From the responses to the 20-year invite a lot more people kept in touch than I thought but I think it's natural for a lot of us to just drift apart.

That's what it came down to for the few people I wanted to keep in touch with from high school. We did hang out away from school at times but it happened less and less as we got closer to the end of high school. Eventually it was like "ok, if you don't care to hang out with me away from school then maybe we're not as good friends as I thought". Eventually it just turned in to only reaching out for birthday messages on Facebook but even that stopped eventually.

But that's something I'm trying to stop from happening at work now. It's easy to just be like "we're work friends, we only see each other/talk at work so once we're no longer coworkers we won't keep in touch", but I'm definitely trying to make this one last beyond this friends time at work more than I have any other friend. Maybe it stems from all the people I've lost touch with over the years and me not wanting that to happen anymore, or maybe its just that I clicked with this person more than all those people I lost touch with, but whatever the reason, I hope this time it's different, but if it doesn't work out, I at least want to know I did try everything to make it work this time around.