I can understand where these guys are coming from though. While you are in the process of learning to counter what your opponent is doing to you, it can be a VERY frustrating experience. I am going through it right now. It really sux, LOL.
The only way you can really learn how to deal with it is to play people who play those styles of ball. Most of my games are not spent trying to win, but rather trying to figure out what stops certain plays/styles. Which in my case means ALOT of losing.
Sometimes you can call the right play and things still break down and you end up giving up a big gain to the offense. Its frustrating.
Ill say to these guys it sux to lose, but in the long run your game is gonna get better and better if you can learn from the experience.
I do wish some of the experts at this game would throw some bones to us on how to deal with certain styles.