Do You Buy Females Drinks In The Club?

[CMH]

Re: Do You Buy Females Drinks In The Club?

My biggest issue with this entire thread is that there is a belief that it should be a competition or a game to see who comes out on top in the relationship.

That's really sad that people view relationships in that way. That they believe they need to have the upper hand or risk losing it.

I don't see an upper hand in relationships. I see common ground.

If you need to fight over upper hand then I will say that there is a 100% chance that the two people do not belong together.

[DC]

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LOL Who the hell was even talking about relationships though

[CMH]

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LOL Who the hell was even talking about relationships though

There was talk about how a girl would view a guy that buys them a drink. And there were responses that briefly hinted at the "power" struggle involved in giving the girl a push to believe she has an upper hand on the male in question.

Yes, no actual talk about relationships was made but isn't this what all of this is about? It's about the relationship between male and female. And the talk about how to act like a man and position yourself as one is just another way of suggesting that men need to grab the upper hand in any form of relationship with a female.

I'm not suggesting that men let women over power them. I'd drop a girl in a heartbeat if she tried controlling me. Bothers me every Sunday when I play baseball with my adult semi-pro team and guys are like, "My wife doesn't like it when I play baseball. She doesn't want me out late so I can't stay for the second game of the doubleheader." To me, that's just stupid. Would never let anyone, not even my parents, tell me what I can or can't do.

Anyway, what I am suggesting is that there shouldn't be this problem at all. Everything should be understood.

Then again, I'm against marriage so I'm probably the wrong person to talk about this stuff. I'll go crawl back into my hole of solitude.

[DC]

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Man I am simply talking about random females you don't know that you see in the club. I used the word stranger about 67 times. Wouldn't attach the word relationship to those random females.

[CMH]

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Man I am simply talking about random females you don't know that you see in the club. I used the word stranger about 67 times. Wouldn't attach the word relationship to those random females.

I definitely agree with you on that.

[cooldude]

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Not the last time I went to one. Unless, entertainment is paying too much $$ for ****ty drinks and having to deal with douches trying to get laid, bad house music, and girls wearing stuff that would make Jenna Jameson blush.

Either way, I don't understand this newfound "man power movement" that has been started lately. Someone has mommy issues.

You musta went to some ****ty clubs, dude.

[wwharton]

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Man I am simply talking about random females you don't know that you see in the club. I used the word stranger about 67 times. Wouldn't attach the word relationship to those random females.

It's still a relationship. You have some kind of relationship with every person you interact with. Relationship doesn't just mean it's your girl, your wife or even your friend. Even the person you hate the most... if you know enough to hate em, it's a relationship.

All of your talk about what this person will think of if you do that is most definitely about keeping the upper hand in that relationship with said person. It's a game. I don't play games. I wouldn't buy anyone a drink without having SOME kind of convo that would make me want to continue spending some time with them, so I don't think you're completely wrong but having stead fast rules is pretty closed minded. I can't really tell if you're just strict to the rules or don't understand all the possible situations, but (as my man Jay has said a couple of times) you don't even drink so you shouldn't even be in the discussion.

I know the cliche of buying a girl a drink to try to get in, but the reality of being in that environment (which many here don't seem to know much about) and/or drinking with someone (which you don't know anything about) brings in many factors that you can't really talk about without ever having been there. You're right on the extreme cases, but just like all extreme cases, only a small amount of people fit in that box.