Do You Buy Females Drinks In The Club?

[bkrich83]

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But everyone check out my sig.

Best part of your sig is "We all have to learn someday".. Hopefully you will one day as well.

[aholbert32]

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1. I don't drink and I honestly don't believe I ever will. So with THAT being said I definitely wouldn't buy a female a drink ever.

2. It's not about HOW MUCH it is. I never once mentioned that $10 is that much in the grand scheme of things. It is the principal behind me spending my $ on an unproven talent. A woman has to PROVE to me that she is worth my time, money and there is no way she can accomplish that within a night's worth of conversation (the money part)

How does a woman PROVE she's worth your time at a club. Does she prove it by giving you her number? Conversation?

Finally, I'm sure that women ask this too but who the **** are you? I mean when I meet someone I give them the benefit of the doubt. If they seem interesting and im attracted, then they have proven that they can get some of my time. I think most people take that approach. I mean if everyone carried them self the way you do than no one would meet.

[bgeno]

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Damn, I think you and I are the same person. LOL

That's exactly how my last real long term relationship ended. Identical, even to the whole weed situation and the "girl" friends. In the end, I broke it off b/c she was too controlling - she wanted to wear the pants. Wish her well, but in the end, it wouldn't have worked out if we tied the knot.

Ya, dude. I hear you loud and clear.

She and I dated for nearly 2 years. We made it through a complete school year apart (I went to college nearly 3 hours away and she was still in HS). 2nd school year apart, however, things changed.

It's the same as you said, though: I wish her well, but it just didn't work.

Sure, she ended it with me, but it doesn't mean I hadn't thought about ending it with her a few times before. I put up with a lot from that girl, and I see it now, even though I couldn't back then. Sure, I miss her like hell sometimes... she was a great girl, and, being young and in-love, I thought about a future with her a lot, and that's hard to just push aside... but she just had jealousy and trust issues, though she'd never admit to the trust issues. I just realized I deserve better than that, and now I have a MUCH better idea of what I want in a girl.

[MC Fatigue]

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These last few posts remind me of when my wife's sister got taken out by a guy who then pulled out a bunch of coupons to help pay for dinner.

I found that action to be pretty damn funny.

[DC]

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How does a woman PROVE she's worth your time at a club. Does she prove it by giving you her number? Conversation?

She can't which is my point as to why she shouldn't have $ spent on her

Finally, I'm sure that women ask this too but who the **** are you? I mean when I meet someone I give them the benefit of the doubt. If they seem interesting and im attracted, then they have proven that they can get some of my time. I think most people take that approach. I mean if everyone carried them self the way you do than no one would meet.

Im simply a man that doesn't want/need any of his time/energy wasted on females. It is an audition whether we want to admit it or not. Nobody gets the benefit of the doubt from me. Everyone starts from Point Zero.

[aholbert32]

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Please tell me you aren't being serious?

Buying dinner is desperate? Are you this shallow for real? 20 bucks? Hell I can barely by myself lunch for 20 bucks.

I just had a vision of DC on date with a girl and it's straight out of the Movie Half Baked where Dave Chappelle has like 6 bucks to take the girl out on their first date.

He dates DC hoodrats. Ive dated a few too. They are the only girls in DC you can take out for 20 bucks or below on a first date.

[DC]

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First dates are usually reserved for going someone and just talking to the female getting to know her. I don't pull out the big guns for a first date. She can be here today gone tommorow. So most of the first dates are free. It's plenty of free things out there that you can have a good time doing.

[bkrich83]

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He dates DC hoodrats. Ive dated a few too. They are the only girls in DC you can take out for 20 bucks or below on a first date.

Ahh..

Seriously 20 bucks? I think I spent 18 on my lunch (with tip) yesterday.

I guess just different backgrounds, I don't get the macho bravado, maybe I dated a different class of girl at that age. I don't know.

[Nivek]

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Ya, dude. I hear you loud and clear.

She and I dated for nearly 2 years. We made it through a complete school year apart (I went to college nearly 3 hours away and she was still in HS). 2nd school year apart, however, things changed.

It's the same as you said, though: I wish her well, but it just didn't work.

Sure, she ended it with me, but it doesn't mean I hadn't thought about ending it with her a few times before. I put up with a lot from that girl, and I see it now, even though I couldn't back then. Sure, I miss her like hell sometimes... she was a great girl, and, being young and in-love, I thought about a future with her a lot, and that's hard to just push aside... but she just had jealousy and trust issues, though she'd never admit to the trust issues. I just realized I deserve better than that, and now I have a MUCH better idea of what I want in a girl.

Spot on bro, that's exactly I feel to this day.

[DC]

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He dates DC hoodrats. Ive dated a few too. They are the only girls in DC you can take out for 20 bucks or below on a first date.

Nah I don't mess with no hoodrats man

They aren't worth my time man

[aholbert32]

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First dates are usually reserved for going someone and just talking to the female getting to know her. I don't pull out the big guns for a first date. She can be here today gone tommorow. So most of the first dates are free. It's plenty of free things out there that you can have a good time doing.

So over 20 bucks is considered the "big guns"?

[bkrich83]

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First dates are usually reserved for going someone and just talking to the female getting to know her. I don't pull out the big guns for a first date. She can be here today gone tommorow. So most of the first dates are free. It's plenty of free things out there that you can have a good time doing.

Going over 20 bucks is pulling out the "big guns"?

I am not saying you have to lay out a fortune, but I can't imagine taking a girl out and telling her, uh yeah this is going to be a free date.

My wife would have laughed me out of town. I'd still be single.

[aholbert32]

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Ahh..

Seriously 20 bucks? I think I spend 18on my lunch (with tip) yesterday.

I guess just different backgrounds, I don't get the macho bravado, maybe I dated a different class of girl at that age. I don't know.

Thats not the case. DCallamerican just has a small pool of women he can date. I know some girls that will accept a man being cheap on the first date. Most of them are fat and/or ugly but they are out there. Most girls wont give you a second date if you refuse to even spend the smallest amount on them.

See what DC doesnt understand or care about is that they way he looks at girls....some girls will look at him the same way. They see him as a cheap *** guy who isnt willing to spend 20 bucks and isnt worth their time.

[DC]

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You don't have tell her that this is a "free" date. You don't have to say those words. Just tell her what the plan is and leave it at that.

And no I wasn't considering anything over $20 "big-guns"

[KG]

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Any girl that YOU buy a drink for in the club off of X amount of time conversing (which still makes her a stranger) will not respect you. She views you as a TRICK. You might can SMASH yea. But how valuable is that honestly? Some dudes sell their morals/integrity for a piece of p*ssy. Happens WAY too often.

How do you whether or not she will respect you? Unless your Mel Gibson in that movie you can't read her mind. If she views you as a trick and your only intent was to hit then who is the trick now...her..and to be accurate your the John because you basically paid the price of one drink for it.

I think the disconnect is the fact that DC is relating this to a total stranger. I've bought females drinks who were associates of mine, that's a totally different argument. DC is trying to establish the fact that buying a female a drink, after a 30 second interaction is incredibly stupid. (I agree with him, it conveys the image that dudes wanna get them wasted)

Does that make me an a-hole?

I agree with the both of you on that. If you're using it as a pickup line then its wack. If you're actually interested in this chick and what she has to say after a decent conversation that you could see going elsewhere its dif.

Yea it is. But it doesn't appear that be as desperate as a dude buying a girl a drink in the club that he first met.

I don't spend $ on females until I determine they are worth it like I said. First date I try to limit to under $20 (free most of the time) Since the first encounter we are trying to get to know each other.

But everyone check out my sig.

I can understand trying to limit your money on the ladies. It makes sense to not spend money on girls that you don't see a point in pursuing but your first judgement better be on the money.

and your sig is cool & all but a real mack doesn't need to listen to someone else spit rules on the game. I'll be the first to admit it's funny as hell but when it comes down to it, do what you do and not what someone else tells you to do.