You know what really grinds my gears?

[mgoblue]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

People still DVR? Should've set up your VHS while you're at it.

Why wouldn't you DVR? We like to be able to fast forward through commercials/ads and most on demand stuff (while awesome to have) always has commercials or crap we can't skip.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Life is way too short to be spending it with somebody who criticizes everything you do. My mother-in-law goes in on my father-in-law every day about something "stupid" he did or what have you. I wouldn't last five minutes with her.

I don't see how some guys do that **** for years and decades.

[Majingir]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Why wouldn't you DVR? We like to be able to fast forward through commercials/ads and most on demand stuff (while awesome to have) always has commercials or crap we can't skip.

DVR watching tv is the best way to watch. I honestly can't remember last time I watched a non sports show live, with commercials, that wasn't just me channel flipping.

It saves so much time. In a week, lets say you watch shows that total 10 hours. DVR watching it will save you 2-2.5 hours! 15 minutes saved for every hour you watch adds up to alot.

I know people who never cared so much about DVR watching shows, but after showing them how quick and easy it is, and how much time I actually save, they do it so often.

[slickdtc]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Life is way too short to be spending it with somebody who criticizes everything you do. My mother-in-law goes in on my father-in-law every day about something "stupid" he did or what have you. I wouldn't last five minutes with her.

I don't see how some guys do that **** for years and decades.

Most definitely. There’s a level of that one should accept before it’s too much. If you don’t stand up for yourself, you’ll get walked on.

Jeremy has been spot on. Communication and compromise. And not just hey I like video games and collecting stuff. But actually a fully blown serious conversation. I don’t always convey how strongly I feel about things well, so sometimes I finally hit my point and have to really lay it out. Show some emotion. What’s stupid or pointless to her is something that really brings you happiness. I’m sure she has/does things that are lame to you but bring her joy. Supporting your wife/husband in their passions even if you don’t actually care for it is a major sign of a successful relationship. (Story time: I had a major blowup at my wife and destroyed a cheap something of hers that I thought was so stupid but when I did it I saw the absolute hurt in her eyes. Killed me to have caused that. I learned a lesson that night.)

And not that throwing out the D word is a thing anyone should be doing in a marriage, but if you have to show how deeply it’s hurting you that your passions are being crapped on... maybe not use divorce, but let her know it’s driving you away and resenting her. That’s not how a marriage should be. Your S/O should be your best friend, confidante, biggest supporter. Feeling ill will towards your S/O is not a road you want to continue to go down.

I’ve seen you post these types of things a few times now and I don’t wanna see you miserable but I also don’t want it to cause a major rift in your marriage. But we leave things be and eventually they blow up. Address it. Then address it again and again until real changes are made. Not just bandaids or playing nice.

[kehlis]

You know what really grinds my gears?

I think Jr. was thinking the old school DVD-R, not DVR. I don’t think it possible to watch everything you want without a DVR.

[mgoblue]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

DVR watching tv is the best way to watch. I honestly can't remember last time I watched a non sports show live, with commercials, that wasn't just me channel flipping.

It saves so much time. In a week, lets say you watch shows that total 10 hours. DVR watching it will save you 2-2.5 hours! 15 minutes saved for every hour you watch adds up to alot.

I know people who never cared so much about DVR watching shows, but after showing them how quick and easy it is, and how much time I actually save, they do it so often.

It's awesome...plus we DVR'ed a few shows we never got to this season, but now can just binge watch easily. On Demand has the stupid ads, and it takes a bit for seasons to get to Netflix (and I don't happen to pay for Hulu or anything else now)....

I know everyone's cutting the cord, and some of those offer DVR features, but it's just so nice to have...

[Jr.]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I think Jr. was thinking the old school DVD-R, not DVR. I don’t think it possible to watch everything you want without a DVR.

No I was talking about DVR. I haven't needed it in about 5 years. I guess I don't mind ads though, so I watch everything on-demand.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

FX On Demand sucks ****ty ***. Not being able to fast-forward through commercials makes it worthless to me. DVR is the only way to watch those shows. Hell, they even put ads on the Atlanta episode that didn't have any in the broadcast.

[woodjer]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm seeing some good advice thrown out to PhilliesFan so I'm throwing out one of my wife-related grinders...

She sleeps ALL THE DARN TIME! Like seriously...both of our kids go to bed around 8-ish and we usually divvy up the duties. Most nights, I'll come upstairs from putting my daughter to bed and my wife's already in bed.
I could understand if she was up super early but I'm regularly up before she is on work days. Weekends? She'll get up around 7-ish and go in for a nap somewhere around 1:30 and sleeps until 4 or 5. BOTH days. Some days, she'll even go back to bed once I get done with my breakfast (9-ish).

Short of saying "don't do it," I've tried just about everything I can think of. I started by telling her that it didn't seem normal/healthy ("I can't help it...I LOVE naps!"). Tried taking the kids out to do something fun or to church ("Thanks but you guys didn't need to leave...I was sleeping just fine"). I've even started passive-aggressively joking about it...but she joins in and thinks it's funny.

Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much but I'm usually doing laundry, mowing the lawn, or cleaning around the house during this time. On top of that, I told her a year ago that I wanted to try another marathon and was told that it took me away from the family for too long. It wasn't until a couple months later that I did the math and realized that she's sleeping for more time than I'd be training.

Ok, folks...any other thoughts? I know a conversation would be good but I can barely get one in before she's in bed and I don't want to do it in front of the kids.

[l3ulvl]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm seeing some good advice thrown out to PhilliesFan so I'm throwing out one of my wife-related grinders...

She sleeps ALL THE DARN TIME! Like seriously...both of our kids go to bed around 8-ish and we usually divvy up the duties. Most nights, I'll come upstairs from putting my daughter to bed and my wife's already in bed.
I could understand if she was up super early but I'm regularly up before she is on work days. Weekends? She'll get up around 7-ish and go in for a nap somewhere around 1:30 and sleeps until 4 or 5. BOTH days. Some days, she'll even go back to bed once I get done with my breakfast (9-ish).

Short of saying "don't do it," I've tried just about everything I can think of. I started by telling her that it didn't seem normal/healthy ("I can't help it...I LOVE naps!"). Tried taking the kids out to do something fun or to church ("Thanks but you guys didn't need to leave...I was sleeping just fine"). I've even started passive-aggressively joking about it...but she joins in and thinks it's funny.

Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much but I'm usually doing laundry, mowing the lawn, or cleaning around the house during this time. On top of that, I told her a year ago that I wanted to try another marathon and was told that it took me away from the family for too long. It wasn't until a couple months later that I did the math and realized that she's sleeping for more time than I'd be training.

Ok, folks...any other thoughts? I know a conversation would be good but I can barely get one in before she's in bed and I don't want to do it in front of the kids.

I don't really have any advice but I'm curious, does she take any medication that makes her sleepy? I remember being on stuff that made me spend more time asleep than awake, which doesn't seem healthy

[cusefan74]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm seeing some good advice thrown out to PhilliesFan so I'm throwing out one of my wife-related grinders...

She sleeps ALL THE DARN TIME! Like seriously...both of our kids go to bed around 8-ish and we usually divvy up the duties. Most nights, I'll come upstairs from putting my daughter to bed and my wife's already in bed.
I could understand if she was up super early but I'm regularly up before she is on work days. Weekends? She'll get up around 7-ish and go in for a nap somewhere around 1:30 and sleeps until 4 or 5. BOTH days. Some days, she'll even go back to bed once I get done with my breakfast (9-ish).

Short of saying "don't do it," I've tried just about everything I can think of. I started by telling her that it didn't seem normal/healthy ("I can't help it...I LOVE naps!"). Tried taking the kids out to do something fun or to church ("Thanks but you guys didn't need to leave...I was sleeping just fine"). I've even started passive-aggressively joking about it...but she joins in and thinks it's funny.

Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much but I'm usually doing laundry, mowing the lawn, or cleaning around the house during this time. On top of that, I told her a year ago that I wanted to try another marathon and was told that it took me away from the family for too long. It wasn't until a couple months later that I did the math and realized that she's sleeping for more time than I'd be training.

Ok, folks...any other thoughts? I know a conversation would be good but I can barely get one in before she's in bed and I don't want to do it in front of the kids.

Could be she has some kind of medical condition, she should talk to the doctor about it. Maybe she just has something that is out of wack and getting a pill could help her.

Maybe she is just a person that likes to sleep. My cousins boyfriend sleeps 12 hours a day at least. When he's not working he's sleeping.

Of course there is always a chance she has depression, which could really be bad also. If I were you I would suggest she see the doctor and tell him/her what's going on and go from there.

[Blzer]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Could be she has some kind of medical condition, she should talk to the doctor about it.

Or a malnutrition. Could be anemia.

I can't blame her though either. Naps are not only extraordinary, but also addicting. It may be her body clock at the moment now too, so it's a hard habit to break.

[Jr.]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Could be she has some kind of medical condition, she should talk to the doctor about it. Maybe she just has something that is out of wack and getting a pill could help her.

Maybe she is just a person that likes to sleep. My cousins boyfriend sleeps 12 hours a day at least. When he's not working he's sleeping.

Of course there is always a chance she has depression, which could really be bad also. If I were you I would suggest she see the doctor and tell him/her what's going on and go from there.

This is what I'm thinking.. there might be some kind of "condition" where she needs/wants more sleep than normal. I have that kind of thing but the other way around where I only need 4-6 hours of sleep per night to be functional.

[Caulfield]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm seeing some good advice thrown out to PhilliesFan so I'm throwing out one of my wife-related grinders...

She sleeps ALL THE DARN TIME! Like seriously...both of our kids go to bed around 8-ish and we usually divvy up the duties. Most nights, I'll come upstairs from putting my daughter to bed and my wife's already in bed.
I could understand if she was up super early but I'm regularly up before she is on work days. Weekends? She'll get up around 7-ish and go in for a nap somewhere around 1:30 and sleeps until 4 or 5. BOTH days. Some days, she'll even go back to bed once I get done with my breakfast (9-ish).

Short of saying "don't do it," I've tried just about everything I can think of. I started by telling her that it didn't seem normal/healthy ("I can't help it...I LOVE naps!"). Tried taking the kids out to do something fun or to church ("Thanks but you guys didn't need to leave...I was sleeping just fine"). I've even started passive-aggressively joking about it...but she joins in and thinks it's funny.

Maybe it wouldn't bother me so much but I'm usually doing laundry, mowing the lawn, or cleaning around the house during this time. On top of that, I told her a year ago that I wanted to try another marathon and was told that it took me away from the family for too long. It wasn't until a couple months later that I did the math and realized that she's sleeping for more time than I'd be training.

Ok, folks...any other thoughts? I know a conversation would be good but I can barely get one in before she's in bed and I don't want to do it in front of the kids.

she needs vitamins. crush'em up & put'em in her breakfast.
she'll be back on her feet in no time.
j/k. but yeah, no srsly. do it.

[Majingir]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Really do have a weird mailman. Same one as past few years which hasn't been so great(delivered to wrong address, dropped stuff off without knocking on door/putting it in private area etc.).


This week, they didn't knock, left the missed delivery notice in the mailbox, and when I went later in the week to pick up whatever mail it was, the post office said they never got it....


I'm not expecting anything, so I have no idea what it could be. It's just some mysterious package that wasn't delivered.