You know what really grinds my gears?

[Beantown]

It was one year on November 23rd, so there shouldn't be as many fights and disagreements and questions and second guessing as their is currently. It's just crazy how bipolar our relationship is. It's never mediocre...it's always real good or real bad.

The problems have been going on for almost four months now, so it's not just because of the job. In the TMI category, we've had...together time...I think four times since July. That's just not right.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

It was one year on November 23rd, so there shouldn't be as many fights and disagreements and questions and second guessing as their is currently. It's just crazy how bipolar our relationship is. It's never mediocre...it's always real good or real bad.

The problems have been going on for almost four months now, so it's not just because of the job. In the TMI category, we've had...together time...I think four times since July. That's just not right.

You should point her to Dr Oz and say Dr Oz says on average, healthy couples have together time twice a week. Chicks listen to Dr Oz. So tell her she is being unhealthy.

[slickdtc]

It was one year on November 23rd, so there shouldn't be as many fights and disagreements and questions and second guessing as their is currently. It's just crazy how bipolar our relationship is. It's never mediocre...it's always real good or real bad.

The problems have been going on for almost four months now, so it's not just because of the job. In the TMI category, we've had...together time...I think four times since July. That's just not right.

Oh man. It's more severe then I thought. Yeah, you gotta get to either fixing this or letting it go. But with living together, that will be a tough one.

Communication is key. Put it out there. If you guys have only been "together" that little in 5 months, that is a real problem. Not saying you gotta be doing it like rabbits, and I don't know how much you were doing it before this drought, but that's a big part of a relationship.

Sounds like there could be a really big rift somewhere with her (if you feel fine, that is). You obviously care about her so in both of your best interests, you should pick a time to have a real talk and discuss where the relationship is going. It's not a bad thing to have that talk. In 6 years, me and my fiancé have reinvented our relationship numerous times, fixing things by talking. We've had problems, and that was due to a lack of communication.

Btw, if you do have the talk, do it spur of the moment. Don't torture her with a text, "We need to talk." Girls will freak out, as anyone would.

Good luck. Hope things get better for you guys. Sounds like with a little communication you can fix the issues you guys are having or at least confront them and decide to go separate ways.

[8]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

When you go into a restaurant and they ran out of the ingredients for what you were going to order. Case in point, went to Subway for Lunch had my mind set on getting a 6" Meatball Sandwich, get there and they tell me they ran out of Marinara & Meatballs and are making more, it won't be ready for 15 minutes. So I have to just suddenly change my mind as I'm on my Work Lunch so I didn't have time to wait..

I went to taco bell one time and they were out of ground beef. 80% of your items include ground beef how can you be out of it. I think they actually have the stuff but they just don't feel like working at that moment. Just remembered at our local wendys we went several different times in the span of a few months and they said the frosty machine was broken. Now this was while going through the drive through. The last time they said that we went in and saw multiple people with frosty's.

[JODYE]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

If I'm in a relationship, and not bumping uglies at least once or twice a week, then we're going to have a problem.

[cjonesfan921]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I didn't like this because I enjoy your misery, but because I share your pain.

I've fallen into the "routine" which then it feels like my life is over.

Literally wake up, go to work, go to lunch, go back, then get off work and go to the gym, eat dinner, relax, repeat.

Have no motivation to do anything other than something that involves sitting down. Pisses me off. Used to make music for fun, used to go play darts with buddies on Thursday and Friday, and I don't even do that anymore. It's horrible. Can't imagine having a girlfriend right now. Talk about no time. If this is how life is the rest of the way, ****, just shoot me now.

You sound like me.

I started the 9-530 gig in May of 2011. Since then, the routine is in.

As of now, I wake up 6:30 to get into the city by 9, get home by 7, gym from 7:30 to about 8:30, then home to catch up on some tv/sports then sleep. SMH

I took a sick day yesterday, even though I was sick, it felt like heaven to have a Monday off and watch TV 'till 1-2PM.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

You sound like me.

I started the 9-530 gig in May of 2011. Since then, the routine is in.

As of now, I wake up 6:30 to get into the city by 9, get home by 7, gym from 7:30 to about 8:30, then home to catch up on some tv/sports then sleep. SMH

I took a sick day yesterday, even though I was sick, it felt like heaven to have a Monday off and watch TV 'till 1-2PM.

After working out there's **** I would love to do in the evenings, but with only 3-4 hours I don't want to get heavy into anything so I basically just sit around and watch TV or something like that most nights. It kind of sucks after awhile. Plus, it puts more pressure on the weekends to "do stuff."

[cjonesfan921]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

After working out there's **** I would love to do in the evenings, but with only 3-4 hours I don't want to get heavy into anything so I basically just sit around and watch TV or something like that most nights. It kind of sucks after awhile. Plus, it puts more pressure on the weekends to "do stuff."

YES!

This Saturday I wasted about $200 on drinks and at a strip club, for no apparent reason...other than, I felt like I needed to do something this weekend. What a waste.

[Beantown]

If I'm in a relationship, and not bumping uglies at least once or twice a week, then we're going to have a problem.

Generally how I feel.

I've brought that problem up and she gave me some iffy excuses. It's annoying.

And before anyone says is, no, I have about a 99.8% assurance that she's not cheating or anything like that. She's just ****ed in the head.

[cjonesfan921]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Generally how I feel.

I've brought that problem up and she gave me some iffy excuses. It's annoying.

And before anyone says is, no, I have about a 99.8% assurance that she's not cheating or anything like that. She's just ****ed in the head.

Runaway as far as you can and never look back.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Instead of ****ed in bed.

Spoiler

I'm here all week!

[AUChase]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

You sound like me.

I started the 9-530 gig in May of 2011. Since then, the routine is in.

As of now, I wake up 6:30 to get into the city by 9, get home by 7, gym from 7:30 to about 8:30, then home to catch up on some tv/sports then sleep. SMH

I took a sick day yesterday, even though I was sick, it felt like heaven to have a Monday off and watch TV 'till 1-2PM.

After working out there's **** I would love to do in the evenings, but with only 3-4 hours I don't want to get heavy into anything so I basically just sit around and watch TV or something like that most nights. It kind of sucks after awhile. Plus, it puts more pressure on the weekends to "do stuff."

YES!

This Saturday I wasted about $200 on drinks and at a strip club, for no apparent reason...other than, I felt like I needed to do something this weekend. What a waste.

I feel you guys completely.

I'm up around 7:30 every morning (not too bad). Then I drive an hour to work every day and work anywhere from 6:30-8:30 every day and then drive another hour back home.

Once I'm home, I usually grab a snack and fix a preworkout drink and head straight to the gym, which is only about 10 minutes away. After an hour at the gym and I'm back home, my day and night is really gone.

I'll sit around and play games and watch TV for a few hours and then go to bed and do it all over again the next day.

Just like you CJones, I feel obligated to do something on Friday or Saturday night. My best friend works in the coal mines and works night shift and my other friend works night shift as well. We're all on opposite pages throughout the week, but usually meet up every weekend and go blow some money on drinks and the occasional club.

. I can't imagine how much worse it would be if I was a young parent or was in a serious relationship

Life really grinds my gears sometimes, but after my wreck a few weeks ago, I don't let much get to me anymore. Some of the stuff clouding up my free time are choices I make. I don't have to go to the gym or play video games and watch TV, but it's how I relax and unwind throughout the week.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Honestly, I could handle a relationship during the week because I typically get bored/semi-depressed living alone and doing the same **** all the time. Especially sucks that friends live 30-40 minutes away and there is jack **** to do in the town after dark.

Its the weekends that I don't mind spending completely locked inside and by myself. After doing the "chores" I probably spent the 90% of my weekend playing guitar and watching the Redskins.

[JODYE]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Generally how I feel.

I've brought that problem up and she gave me some iffy excuses. It's annoying.

And before anyone says is, no, I have about a 99.8% assurance that she's not cheating or anything like that. She's just ****ed in the head.

Yeah time to:



For real though, isn't the point of being in a relationship to share and enjoy each others company both physically and emotionally? Sounds like neither of those things are happening. Tell her kick rocks. Some one will appreciate you for you.

[Beantown]

Yeah time to:



For real though, isn't the point of being in a relationship to share and enjoy each others company both physically and emotionally? Sounds like neither of those things are happening. Tell her kick rocks. Some one will appreciate you for you.

Easier said than done...though its trending towards that. All my **** is in her place, we live together, etc. it'd be like a divorce.