You know what really grinds my gears?

[CMH]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I don't either. Considering it don't take all day to clean a house. An hour or 90 minutes at the most if your house is really big. What ticks me off even more is the stay at home moms who have a dish washer machine.

Seriously let us break it down:

To fix one bed takes 1 to 3 minutes depending on the size of the bed.

Washing dishes by hand 15 to 20 minutes.

Vacuuming a 3 bed room house, about an hour, but who vacuums EVERYDAY ?

Laundry can take around 3 hours depending on how many loads. But nobody does this everyday either.

So if your kids are in school, you pretty much just chillin most of the time the kids are in school.

You're undervaluing the brain cells it takes to digest the various opinions on The View.


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[TheMatrix31]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Being a stay-at-home Mom or Dad involves way, way, way more than stuff a housekeeper does.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Such as?

I'm not knocking SAH parents, but the ones that get indignant and put themselves on pedestals really get to me.

[TheMatrix31]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Such as?

I'm not knocking SAH parents, but the ones that get indignant and put themselves on pedestals really get to me.

No, you are knocking them.

They're the accountant, the therapist, the shopper, the housekeeper, the chef, the errand-runner, the chauffeur, the doctor, the tutor, and probably countless other things that I'm forgetting.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

No, you are knocking them.

They're the accountant, the therapist, the shopper, the housekeeper, the chef, the errand-runner, the chauffeur, the doctor, the tutor, and probably countless other things that I'm forgetting.

So...they're a parent?

[TheMatrix31]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

So...they're a parent?

Yes. And it's hard, hard, hard work that's not just housekeeping and it's absolutely ridiculous to disparage someone for staying at home to do it.

Someone who's out at an "actual" job isn't doing many of those things. Somebody's gotta do them though. It doesn't just magically happen.

[AUChase]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

My parents never had the ability to stay home with us as kids, but we were fortunate to have grandparents close by and that's where we stayed until we were able to go to school.

My sister, on the other hand, has had her kids in daycare for a few years until the passing of my brother in law. She's now staying at home and finds that managing the kids and the house are so much easier and both kids require a lot of attention at their current age.

Before, she was busting her *** at work all day and coming home after 5-6 and then had to play mom and do house work and then turn around and do it all over again the next day. It's just the grind of being a parents.

I think that being a stay at home mom requires a good amount of work, but it's not any more difficult than working a regular job and still being responsible for the house. I'm not selling it any shorter than it is here. It's hard work, but I think most people would choose it over going to work somewhere, if it meant their family could still be okay financially.

At the end of the day, you're responsible for taking care of your kids. People looking for sympathy for either situation is annoying.

[XtremeDunkz]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

No, you are knocking them.

They're the accountant, the therapist, the shopper, the housekeeper, the chef, the errand-runner, the chauffeur, the doctor, the tutor, and probably countless other things that I'm forgetting.

Both my parents always worked and managed to do all these things. And then when I was old enough to help take care of my sister I pretty much did most of the cleaning, cooking, and driving around when i got my license. Being a stay at home parent really is not that difficult. Most parents do everything you listed AND go to work 8 hours a day.

[gopher_guy]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I get what FT is saying, especially the parents who make it seem like their child(ren) are so much better off because they have a parent staying at home, even when their kids are in school.

[dickey1331]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I feel like we had this argument recently except it was a slightly different topic.

[NDAlum]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm hoping to be a stay at home dad so I'll report back in 5 years

[CMH]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Yes. And it's hard, hard, hard work that's not just housekeeping and it's absolutely ridiculous to disparage someone for staying at home to do it.

Someone who's out at an "actual" job isn't doing many of those things. Somebody's gotta do them though. It doesn't just magically happen.

I guess my issue is, I do all of those things and I don't stay at home.

So I'm not seeing the difference here. Why is it hard for a stay at home parent but not for a working parent?

Now, yes, if into one parent is doing those things then that's a lot of responsibility and I would call the other parent lazy.

To say your life is harder or unappreciated because you do those things is unjustified. I don't complain I have to do those things and work a full day.


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[TheMatrix31]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I guess my issue is, I do all of those things and I don't stay at home.

So I'm not seeing the difference here. Why is it hard for a stay at home parent but not for a working parent?

Now, yes, if into one parent is doing those things then that's a lot of responsibility and I would call the other parent lazy.

To say your life is harder or unappreciated because you do those things is unjustified. I don't complain I have to do those things and work a full day.


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Do you do them for a kid? Serious question. I don't know if you have kids or not.


Not sure why I even bother with the discussion, anyway. Plenty of families don't even have the option of having a stay-at-home parent anymore. Times, and all that.

If people are able to do all the effort, that's fantastic. That's the way it should be done. Being a parent never stops. I took issue with the fact that it's just physical housekeeping, as suggested earlier.

[mgoblue]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

I'm hoping to be a stay at home dad so I'll report back in 5 years

I'll keep everyone informed as I become a dad and my wife is staying home for 3ish months burning all her work time off.

I think she'll be bored and want to work at least part time. We'll see.

One thing to consider though is that a ton of daycare places are scary. She sees a whole bunch working for CPS, so she's not a big fan of daycare in general. How trustworthy are these people you leave your infant with? Also, depending on your job, that childcare can be super expensive. I'd rather my kid be with a parent vs. that parent working (and breaking even money wise paying child care).

[CMH]

Re: You know what really grinds my gears?

Do you do them for a kid? Serious question. I don't know if you have kids or not.


Not sure why I even bother with the discussion, anyway. Plenty of families don't even have the option of having a stay-at-home parent anymore. Times, and all that.

If people are able to do all the effort, that's fantastic. That's the way it should be done. Being a parent never stops. I took issue with the fact that it's just physical housekeeping, as suggested earlier.

The scenario in question was a parent with kids in school.

Kids at home: different story and I agree with you.


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