In advance: sorry for the long thread.
I was dating my ex-girlfriend for almost 3 years. We argued a lot during those years, and she "broke up" with me numerous times, but it never lasted more than a week before we were back together. I can't even count the number of times she has said "we're never talking again," and we wind up talking the next day. There is not even enough space in this thread to explain all the ridiculous things such as these.
Also, to set the scene--I just turned 20, and she will be 21 in a couple months. Both go to the same college.
Anyway, we "officially" broke up about 2 months ago. This time however, it was me ending it with her. I knew our relationship had a lot of issues, but ultimately, she did something that put it over the top. In September of '07, she punched me in the face. We got into an argument because I wanted to spend the night in my room, whereas she wanted me to spend the night with her. She pushed me, so I told her not to touch me. She pushed my shoulder, so I begin to walk away. As I'm walking away, she kicks me, so I turn around. When I turn around, facing her, she punches me in the mouth. I am bleeding b/c my inner lip is cut, I can't close my jaw b/c my teeth have shifted from swelling.
I called the cops because in reality, I was assaulted. Plus, I thought I was going to need stitches.
One of my teeth still hurts to this day in the cold weather, and when eating cold things, and I still have scar tissue in my lip from where it was cut by my teeth. Also, she broke her knuckle (from the punch hitting my teeth I guess).
Anyway, we broke up around that time for a bit. We ultimately got back together b/c she kept begging me. But after a few weeks, I realized things were just different. I still loved her, but things just felt awkward because she had hit me. I didn't feel completely comfortable. Plus, numerous other things happened after the punch. For example, she went on my computer and read a conversation I had with my mom online. She claims it was accidental, but you can't accidentally read a whole conversation.
Anyway, here is the issue.
There's this guy she met 2 months ago while at home on break (we go to college in a different state from our home--yes, we live in the same city at home in addition to going to college together). She went on one date with him. We are back at school now, so this guy is in a different state. He calls her every day, and asks her out everyday. My ex-gf has said no every time, but just a few nights ago she said "That's it, I'm dating *that guy*" during an argument. That same night she decided against saying yes to him, but only after I talked to her and told her how it didn't make much sense to date him right now.
The problem is I am really jealous of this guy. I hate the fact that he calls her everyday, and that she enjoys it, and that he asks her out all the time. Is the fact that I am jealous of him a sign that I should still be with my ex-gf, or is jealousy in this situation normal and I just have to get over it? I feel like I still love her, its just that she starts arguments with me everyday, plus the awkwardness of her having hit me.
Here's another issue:
It really bothers me that people don't know that she hit me. It sucks thats he betrayed me in that way, but it feels even worse that it's as if she "got away with it." I want people to know what she did--especially people who seem to be friends with her while ignoring me. Not all of them ignore me, but for some reason it bothers me that these people like her more than they like me, when she betrayed me like this. I'm not looking for sympathy. It's just that people not knowing the real her just feels like it worsens her betrayal of me.
So what do I do? Do I tell people what happened, or do I suck it up?
Thank you for reading (and hopefully replying
).
I was dating my ex-girlfriend for almost 3 years. We argued a lot during those years, and she "broke up" with me numerous times, but it never lasted more than a week before we were back together. I can't even count the number of times she has said "we're never talking again," and we wind up talking the next day. There is not even enough space in this thread to explain all the ridiculous things such as these.
Also, to set the scene--I just turned 20, and she will be 21 in a couple months. Both go to the same college.
Anyway, we "officially" broke up about 2 months ago. This time however, it was me ending it with her. I knew our relationship had a lot of issues, but ultimately, she did something that put it over the top. In September of '07, she punched me in the face. We got into an argument because I wanted to spend the night in my room, whereas she wanted me to spend the night with her. She pushed me, so I told her not to touch me. She pushed my shoulder, so I begin to walk away. As I'm walking away, she kicks me, so I turn around. When I turn around, facing her, she punches me in the mouth. I am bleeding b/c my inner lip is cut, I can't close my jaw b/c my teeth have shifted from swelling.
I called the cops because in reality, I was assaulted. Plus, I thought I was going to need stitches.
One of my teeth still hurts to this day in the cold weather, and when eating cold things, and I still have scar tissue in my lip from where it was cut by my teeth. Also, she broke her knuckle (from the punch hitting my teeth I guess).
Anyway, we broke up around that time for a bit. We ultimately got back together b/c she kept begging me. But after a few weeks, I realized things were just different. I still loved her, but things just felt awkward because she had hit me. I didn't feel completely comfortable. Plus, numerous other things happened after the punch. For example, she went on my computer and read a conversation I had with my mom online. She claims it was accidental, but you can't accidentally read a whole conversation.
Anyway, here is the issue.
There's this guy she met 2 months ago while at home on break (we go to college in a different state from our home--yes, we live in the same city at home in addition to going to college together). She went on one date with him. We are back at school now, so this guy is in a different state. He calls her every day, and asks her out everyday. My ex-gf has said no every time, but just a few nights ago she said "That's it, I'm dating *that guy*" during an argument. That same night she decided against saying yes to him, but only after I talked to her and told her how it didn't make much sense to date him right now.
The problem is I am really jealous of this guy. I hate the fact that he calls her everyday, and that she enjoys it, and that he asks her out all the time. Is the fact that I am jealous of him a sign that I should still be with my ex-gf, or is jealousy in this situation normal and I just have to get over it? I feel like I still love her, its just that she starts arguments with me everyday, plus the awkwardness of her having hit me.
Here's another issue:
It really bothers me that people don't know that she hit me. It sucks thats he betrayed me in that way, but it feels even worse that it's as if she "got away with it." I want people to know what she did--especially people who seem to be friends with her while ignoring me. Not all of them ignore me, but for some reason it bothers me that these people like her more than they like me, when she betrayed me like this. I'm not looking for sympathy. It's just that people not knowing the real her just feels like it worsens her betrayal of me.
So what do I do? Do I tell people what happened, or do I suck it up?
Thank you for reading (and hopefully replying
).
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