Relationship issues

[Chaos81]

Re: Relationship issues

Is the fact that I am jealous of him a sign that I should still be with my ex-gf, or is jealousy in this situation normal and I just have to get over it? I feel like I still love her, its just that she starts arguments with me everyday, plus the awkwardness of her having hit me.

The jealousy is pretty normal, at least assuming you are human.

As for the rest of it. Dump the chick and don't even bother talking to her. As someone else said, all you're doing is giving her power, and she knows she has you wrapped around her finger.

[DIESEL]

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Well, she didn't go to jail. The cops basically did nothing except take pictures of my mouth. But yeah, I totally would have been in jail if I had hit her.

I didn't say I wanted to get back with her. I'm sick of her starting an argument with me everyday, , and the awkwardness is still there soemtimes, among other things. I was asking about the jealousy issue.

Read what your writing here. You're talking about police involvement in a relationship with your girlfriend at age 20. That's not anywhere normal or acceptable.

And why are u still talking to here everyday? If you were truly broken up you should be out doing your thing. Of course your going to be jealous if your still talking to her all the time. Now your just like a boyfriend without any of the benefits.

That's not supposed to happen until your married with kids.

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[P2K]

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He's in total denial. He still wants her and wants to be her personal pin cushion.

[Chaos81]

Re: Relationship issues

He's in total denial. He still wants her and wants to be her personal pin cushion.

Eh...it happens. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, shorts, and shoes.

[mgoblue]

Re: Relationship issues

He's in total denial. He still wants her and wants to be her personal pin cushion.

He really needs to get her out of his life and just forget about her. No being friends, etc. That's not going to work...it's tough enough to be friends with exes, but this situation makes it impossible. She's a nutter and nothing good will come out of this, she enjoys playing his heart like a damn harp.

Sadly people (me included) don't always listen to people, you gotta go down in flames a few times to really learn this lesson. Oh is it fun going down in flames though lol

[ninjamonkey]

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Chaos and P2K,
I'm not sure how to respond to that. If I wanted to be with her, I would be. Numerous times she has told me that if I wanted to, she would be my girlfriend again. But I don't ask her to be because I know we don't work out. She said this guy who calls her everyday to ask her out is only interesting b/c I eliminated myself from the "pool" of guys to consider when I broke up with her and denied her when she begged.

DIESEL,
you make some good points.

You're talking about police involvement in a relationship with your girlfriend at age 20.

Never even realized that

[P2K]

Re: Relationship issues

Maybe we need to see what she looks like

That could be the reason he is simpin' to a new low.

[P2K]

Re: Relationship issues

Chaos and P2K,
I'm not sure how to respond to that. If I wanted to be with her, I would be. Numerous times she has told me that if I wanted to, she would be my girlfriend again. But I don't ask her to be because I know we don't work out. She said this guy who calls her everyday to ask her out is only interesting b/c I eliminated myself from the "pool" of guys to consider when I broke up with her and denied her when she begged.

So why are you still talking to her, telling her it may be too early to date others and so on?


Dude, you're thirsty.

[ninjamonkey]

Re: Relationship issues

I thought I already said that I still love her. If she hadn't punched me, we'd probably still be dating right now (althoguh event hat might nto be a good idea sicne we had plenty fo other ridiculous fights and issues). I still love her it's just that things became awkward for me after she hit me.

[Chaos81]

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I'm kind of confused over what it is your asking here.

You mentioned the jealousy aspect of things, and so I answered with yes that's normal. You also mentioned how you didn't like the fact that she hit you, and I agree completely with you, which is why I think you just need to stop talking to the chick. Physical abuse like that is not a good way to have a relationship.

[ninjamonkey]

Re: Relationship issues

Right. I'm just responding to what people say, I'm not really asking anything other than what's in my initial thread-starting post.

That being said, no one's really touched on my second question. Do I tell people that she hit me, or do I just suck it up? I want people to know what happened, but I don't know whether or not my desire for people to know is reasonable, or if I should act on it or let it be.

[Chaos81]

Re: Relationship issues

Right. I'm just responding to what people say, I'm not really asking anything other than what's in my initial thread-starting post.

Cool, just kinda confused me for a sec.

That being said, no one's really touched on my second question. Do I tell people that she hit me, or do I just suck it up? I want people to know what happened, but I don't know whether or not my desire for people to know is reasonable, or if I should act on it or let it be.

Hmm...that's a tough one to me. On one hand I can wanting people to know that she is the kind of person that is able to do that, but on the other hand, I can also see it as a way to "get back" at her for doing that to you. Does that make sense? Sorry if it doesn't, I'm tired.

[TheMatrix31]

Re: Relationship issues

She punched you and you're still talking to this estrogenal mess?

Shame on you. Seriously.

Don't put up with that ****.

[P2K]

Re: Relationship issues

Right. I'm just responding to what people say, I'm not really asking anything other than what's in my initial thread-starting post.

That being said, no one's really touched on my second question. Do I tell people that she hit me, or do I just suck it up? I want people to know what happened, but I don't know whether or not my desire for people to know is reasonable, or if I should act on it or let it be.

You want to tattle on her or something? I don't get why this is even an issue.

Maybe it's just me...but YOU are the weird one in the relationship.

You want to tell people that she socked you, even though you keep talking to her w/ jealousy afterwards?


Forget about her being the nutball. You, kiddo, are the looney toon.

[DIESEL]

Re: Relationship issues

Right. I'm just responding to what people say, I'm not really asking anything other than what's in my initial thread-starting post.

That being said, no one's really touched on my second question. Do I tell people that she hit me, or do I just suck it up? I want people to know what happened, but I don't know whether or not my desire for people to know is reasonable, or if I should act on it or let it be.

Tell who and why?

If somebody asks you "why did you guys break up?", tell the truth. If it's because she hit you than say it. If it's because you were tired of arguing say that.

Not trying to be a jerk, but as a few others have stated this is just one of these relationships that is going down in flames and you're on fire dude!

We're trying to throw water on you, and you're asking if you should adjust the air conditioner.

Hopefully you'll be able to look back and laugh at this someday. Good luck man.