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[JohnnytheSkin]

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I got in my fight with my best friend who used to go out with her because I told him I liked her and wanted to ask her out (that was actually the end of the fight, we were arguing about other **** about her). Then, he went and told her that I liked her and she asked me about and I told her straight up that I liked her. She told me not to like her because she wasn't worth getting in a fight with my best friend over her. So now I have no idea what the **** to say because she knows I like her since I told her, and she basically told me not to ask her out.

So yeah, there's my situation.

Hey Acid...if you truly like her, it's worth losing a friend over. I actually lost my best friend in the world, a chick I've known since I was five (and we bathed together...WOOT!...oh wait, TMI) because I thought things would work better if we went out.

Point being, go with your gut man. Friends come and go...as it is, my "best" friend is a dude who just got married 700 miles a way (whom I was cool with in high school and got kicked out in college as we got in a fight our first week with some frat douches) and my other friends are folks my wife has met through her company.

Friends come and go, and you just have to look long term...you might NOT ask her out to preserve a friendship, that may or may not end, or you do and see how strong your friendship really is.

Sorry if my Sunday drinking (look at the spelling!) makes things more difficult, LOL.

[JohnnytheSkin]

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Alright, you have me convinced...by text message or in person? I probably won't get to see her for another week.

By text!?

You crazy kids and your mobile bull****...I started the conversation with my [now] wife with a straight up "hey stranger" line. I knew she had a boyfriend, I knew she was taken, and I knew I was lame...but hey, it worked!

[Husker_OS]

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On the dinner thing...ask her to dinner. BUT, don't tell her about your feelings until after you've left the restaurant.


The best way to do this, is ask her to get some dinner. Then when you get the check(and for the love of all that is holy, tell the waiter that its together)ask her if she wants to go get ice cream. Then get the ice cream to go and go somewhere else private(a park would suffice)and tell her there.

[Rawdeal28]

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I'm good friends with a girl that I want to go out with, but I haven't asked her out yet. Does that mean we're fake friends too?

let me break it down.

we as men (including me) sometimes when we are interested in a woman dont know how come out and tell her that we are interested in her. either we are intimated by her beauty (she is too pretty for me) or we dont know how to approach the situation (what do say, how do say it). so we "become best friends" with her. which relieves some of the pressure of yourself because now u can talk to her and kick it with her and be around her (which is where u want to be right).

cuz then u figure, "ill just wait till the right time to tell her" or with all this time we spend together, eventually she will see how i treat her and she will want to be with me on her own. but once a female sees u as just a friend thats it, YOUR JUST A FRIEND.

ur not true best friends when one person is holding back thier feelings and only became friends as a way for him to "get his foot in the door" instead of just coming out and saying it at first. thats why its fake.

[cubsfan203]

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let me break it down.

we as men (including me) sometimes when we are interested in a woman dont know how come out and tell her that we are interested in her. either we are intimated by her beauty (she is too pretty for me) or we dont know how to approach the situation (what do say, how do say it). so we "become best friends" with her. which relieves some of the pressure of yourself because now u can talk to her and kick it with her and be around her (which is where u want to be right).

cuz then u figure, "ill just wait till the right time to tell her" or with all this time we spend together, eventually she will see how i treat her and she will want to be with me on her own. but once a female sees u as just a friend thats it, YOUR JUST A FRIEND.

ur not true best friends when one person is holding back thier feelings and only became friends as a way for him to "get his foot in the door" instead of just coming out and saying it at first. thats why its fake.

Problem is that it doesn't always work like that. My ex was my best friend before we started dating.

[cubsfan203]

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On the dinner thing...ask her to dinner. BUT, don't tell her about your feelings until after you've left the restaurant.


The best way to do this, is ask her to get some dinner. Then when you get the check(and for the love of all that is holy, tell the waiter that its together)ask her if she wants to go get ice cream. Then get the ice cream to go and go somewhere else private(a park would suffice)and tell her there.

Nice plan, I'm going to try that sometime.

[BunnyHardaway]

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let me break it down.

we as men (including me) sometimes when we are interested in a woman dont know how come out and tell her that we are interested in her. either we are intimated by her beauty (she is too pretty for me) or we dont know how to approach the situation (what do say, how do say it). so we "become best friends" with her. which relieves some of the pressure of yourself because now u can talk to her and kick it with her and be around her (which is where u want to be right).

cuz then u figure, "ill just wait till the right time to tell her" or with all this time we spend together, eventually she will see how i treat her and she will want to be with me on her own. but once a female sees u as just a friend thats it, YOUR JUST A FRIEND.

ur not true best friends when one person is holding back thier feelings and only became friends as a way for him to "get his foot in the door" instead of just coming out and saying it at first. thats why its fake.

It's not like this is how it's been ever since we've been friends.

When you hang out with someone 4-7 days a week for nearly 3 years, it's only natural that you develop feelings over time.

Not to mention the fact that we buy presents for each other (birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day, graduation), say that we love each other, and stuff like that.

[Husker_OS]

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It's not like this is how it's been ever since we've been friends.

When you hang out with someone 4-7 days a week for nearly 3 years, it's only natural that you develop feelings over time.

Not to mention the fact that we buy presents for each other (birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day, graduation), say that we love each other, and stuff like that.

Whoa. I hate to say it, but that's not good. If you two say that and mean it, she loves you as a friend...but then again, that might make it easier for you to get into a relationship with her.


You just need to tell her.

[Acid]

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It's not like this is how it's been ever since we've been friends.

When you hang out with someone 4-7 days a week for nearly 3 years, it's only natural that you develop feelings over time.

Not to mention the fact that we buy presents for each other (birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day, graduation), say that we love each other, and stuff like that.

Speaking of that, the girl asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told her not to get me anything because I didn't even ask for anything from my parents but she insisted on getting me something. So we ended up getting each other gifts. Good sign?

[cubsfan203]

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Whoa. I hate to say it, but that's not good. If you two say that and mean it, she loves you as a friend...but then again, that might make it easier for you to get into a relationship with her.


You just need to tell her.

It could give him a back-up plan if it doesn't work out when he tells her though. He can just be like "Sorry, I was getting signals that you felt the same way" or something of that nature and hopefully prevent things from being TOO awkward.

With that said I hope everything works out for you J.J. I was in the same situation with my ex. We were best friends, and wound up both deciding together that we liked each other more than just friends (luckily for me she came out and said it, I probably never would have). We went out for a while, and both came to the point where we agreed that it was better for us to just be friends. We're both still really good friends today (well kind of, she moved somewhere out west but we still talk occationally).

[cubsfan203]

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Speaking of that, the girl asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told her not to get me anything because I didn't even ask for anything from my parents but she insisted on getting me something. So we ended up getting each other gifts. Good sign?

Damnit she's giving you hints, take advantage bro!

You're buddy will understand eventually....hopefully.

[Husker_OS]

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Speaking of that, the girl asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told her not to get me anything because I didn't even ask for anything from my parents but she insisted on getting me something. So we ended up getting each other gifts. Good sign?

Sounds like a good sign to me. That means she has something in mind to get you. Which is ALWAYS good.

[Acid]

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Sounds like a good sign to me. That means she has something in mind to get you. Which is ALWAYS good.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking.

I'm hoping she asks me to go to her soccer game tomorrow, this thread has convinced me to just get over it and ask her out.

[av7]

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Yeah, that's what I was thinking.

I'm hoping she asks me to go to her soccer game tomorrow, this thread has convinced me to just get over it and ask her out.

Good job, dont ask and you'll never get the ball rolling

[jmood88]

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Speaking of girl problems, whatever happened to that bucswhitesoxmagic guy?