Anyone try online dating sites?

[DickDalewood]

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Also, dinner&movie sucks as a first true date. In high school when you knew each other is fine, but you don't get to talk at all during a movie. Save that ish for later.

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A dinner and movie first date scored me my wife.

[rangerrick012]

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Women are dumb. They really dont know what they want.

You sound like Patrice O'Neal (RIP) on that one brah, lol.

[baumy300]

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A dinner and movie first date scored me my wife.

What the dirty old man fails to mention is that the "dinner" was at a Chuck E. Cheese's and the "movie" was a matinee showing of Monsters Inc. where they shared their first box of Hi-C and animal crackers together.

[Sandman42]

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Need your opinion/help here guys. So I've been talking to this girl for almost 3 months now, and we are dating exclusively or whatever and she keeps bugging me about when I'm going to ask her out. Around New Year's I let her know that it bugged me that she still got on dating sites all the time (she is always on her phone and that little POF icon was always up). She told me it wasn't a big deal, so I asked like a boss and said prove it. She would beat around the bush, but later in the night she said fine here. She showed me the messages, mostly just the usual lame messages guys sent her. Problem was, when I got there that day I noticed two new message icons on her phone. When she showed me the messages the newest one was from a few days before, so obviously when she went to the "bathroom" she was deleting messages. So quick on my feet I asked to see the Sent Messages. She flips out and absolutely refuses. Obviously she was hiding something, but she deleted it a couple days later so I'll never know what.

Now I really like this girl, but I think you guys agree with me that if you've been seeing someone that long it's annoying especially when I drive an hour and a half round trip only to see her on a dating site the second I leave. Now the problem is, she's still getting on OKCupid all the time. Should I call her out on this? If so, how should I do it?

I just don't want to waste my time/money on a relationship if it isn't going to work. The only reason we aren't actually a couple is because the whole dating site thing makes me feel like she isn't committed to me.

I see 2 reasons she's doing this:

1. She thinks she can do better than you, so she's leaving the account up to see if that guy comes along.

2. She doesn't want an exclusive relationship at this point and might be into the idea of polygamy/open relationships.

If she wasn't serious with using the dating sites anymore she would delete her accounts. No reason for her to leave those accounts up if she's not serious about them unless she needs an again boost. She shouldn't need an ego boost from other guys if she's happy with you though.

Ask her how she'd feel if you went back on the sites and start messaging other women?

If it was me I'd probably start the accounts back up and message other women, but then again I'm into the idea of open relationships. If you want to be exclusive with her though then you need to offer an ultimatum and say she either deletes her accounts or you're gone. No reason for her to be on the sites if she's truly happy with you.

[NDAlum]

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Hard to let go of that ego-boosting online dating app!

[CMH]

I'm harsher. Drop her. Waste of your time.


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[bichettehappens]

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I'm harsher. Drop her. Waste of your time.


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I would agree with this. Or at the very least, start talking to other girls, go on other dates. Ultimately if she was really into you she'd stop with that nonsense. Who knows, if she catches wind that you're talking to someone else or going on a date, it could serve as a reality check for her. Either way, I wouldn't be counting on things going much further with her unless she starts making a concerted effort to show it's what she wants. Start moving on IMO

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As an example, I was recently seeing 2 girls casually, one for a longer period of time than the other. The one I'd been seeing longer, I had asked about an exclusive relationship about a month and a half ago and she said she wasn't ready. We were both seeing other people casually at the time as well. About 2 weeks ago we were hanging out and she asked what I was doing on Thursday, told her I had a date with someone else planned. Later that night she tells me she doesn't think I should go on that date in a just-kidding-but-seriously-though way. 2 days later (Wednesday), says she's ready for a relationship. I say we'll revisit on Friday after my date. Had a great time with her Friday and we're now "exclusive." Granted, it's a different scenario because we had previously "dated" last summer, and so the reason she was apprehensive to get serious is because she didn't want it to be a brief thing like it was before, which had hurt her. But still, my point stands that if a girl senses that you're not just waiting around for her to decide she can commit to you, seeing that you've got other options could serve as a spark. Women are weird.

[TripleCrown9]

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Well men, I'm going in. My first date with someone from a dating website. Will report back.

[LowerWolf]

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I'm close to pulling the plug on my profile. Tired of looking at the same old faces and realizing either A. I'm not interested in them or B. They're not interested in me.

[TripleCrown9]

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Ok guys, I've found myself in a situation. Spoilered for relative length, copied from Off-Topic. For reference, Girl B is the one I met on PoF.

Spoiler

Guys I'm having a dating dilemma. Since it will eventually get to this, I'll split it into Girl A and Girl B.

Girl A is awesome. She loves tattoos, she's a big sports fan except baseball, we love the same music and same movies, she's currently not in school like myself, she's 19, she's more attractive than Girl B, and I feel like there's a slightly better chance of "scoring" if you will. The negative is that she missed our 2nd date and we didn't talk much after, but there's still some kind of interest from both parties*.

Girl B is equally as awesome. She likes tattoos, she's a big sports fan except basketball, we like some of the same music and movies and all that, there's minimum to no chance of scoring because she attends a Christian university, she's also 19. There's definitely interest between both parties, however she isn't as attractive as Girl A and she's bigger.

So, since OSOT is great at advice, #TeamGirlA or #TeamGirlB?

*We were supposed to watch the Packers game last week, but I had a change of plans and hung out with a friend before he went back to school. So we both want an eventual 2nd date.

[Scott]

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I would go with the girl you could see being your best friend...

[TripleCrown9]

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I would go with the girl you could see being your best friend...

I honestly believe either one could be my best friend.

[LowerWolf]

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Is there a reason you can't go out with both until you decide which one you hit it off better with?

It's not like you're exclusive with one or the other at this point.

[Scott]

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I honestly believe either one could be my best friend.

I'd probably go with Girl B, but that's just me...

[TripleCrown9]

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Is there a reason you can't go out with both until you decide which one you hit it off better with?

It's not like you're exclusive with one or the other at this point.

That's true. I just don't want to sound like a jerk. I don't want find myself in a situation of "I had a great time but I have a date with someone else tomorrow". I don't know, that just seems like a dick move because I've never been in that scenario before.