Anyone try online dating sites?

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I thought that was part of "completing" your profile? Like on the side where it says answer 50 questions to unlock whatever. Then you go up a level.

[mgoblue]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I used to get emails when someone rated me 4/5 stars, but I've gotten a couple 5 star ratings the past few days and have no idea who they're from. Don't really want to pay for A-list either so it'll stay a mystery.

Also as someone who has generally only dated 1 girl at a time, I had/have 3 dates this week with another one interested. Currently feel like this:

Spoiler

I was the same way on EHarmony. I went from someone who'd date 1 person for a while and then not date much to a pimp lol

I'd have to seriously plan out my week, I'd do maybe one weeknight date and then have to figure out Fri/Sat/Sun. After a while it wasn't as fun, but it's not really possible to weed everyone out on the phone. Have to meet in person to see if the chemistry is there.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I thought that was part of "completing" your profile? Like on the side where it says answer 50 questions to unlock whatever. Then you go up a level.

What do you mean?

We might be talking about two different things.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What do you mean?

We might be talking about two different things.

I know one of the "profile completion" things I had to do was to rate so many girls. Perhaps I'm misremembering, but I know I've been prompted to rate users.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I know one of the "profile completion" things I had to do was to rate so many girls. Perhaps I'm misremembering, but I know I've been prompted to rate users.

Yes, that's true. I remember having to do that once upon a time.

I'm referring to when you receive an email saying someone rated you a 4 or 5. I remember (remember I've been off the site for a couple years now and just signed back on) that when you did, that email would ask you to rate women because one of them will be the woman that rated you a 4 or 5.

Of course, there's a way to cheat. Just look up who viewed your profile. And when that woman came up in the rating game, if you liked her, rate her a 4 or 5 and off to the races you go.

But now I see that you have to pay to see who rated you highly. I don't know if that's an extra perk to skip the rating part OR if that has replaced the rating part which would blow.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

It still sends you a message if you rate a person highly and the same person rates you. I've gotten messages matching me up with some guys from here, haha.

[CMH]

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One of my favorite things about okcupid is their constant search for answers and the information it provides members.

This article is very interesting especially for the dominant male population on this site. It may also confirm what many of you suspect: women have a very cloudy perception of attraction and men are ignoring strong potential mates.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/yo...online-dating/

...a woman is as likely to be considered extremely ugly as extremely beautiful, and the majority of women have been rated about “medium.”

However,
2/3 of male messages go to the top 1/3 of women.

Compare that to:

...women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium
(DAMN!)

However
...the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males aren’t good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway.

That might explain why sometimes a woman will talk to you via message and suddenly disappear.

Paradoxically, it seems it’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Yeah, I think women are a lot more picky on those sites than guys are. If I think the girl is attractive and she starts up with something that interests me then I will typically continue the conversation.

You have to sift through the girls that are holding out for "the one," the picky "hook-up" ones, the BBWs who know no bounds (can't blame em), and the "curvy"/"average" dupers.

[Sandman42]

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Think I've found a winner.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BritCavallari

Nothing wrong with her, right guys?

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Think I've found a winner.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BritCavallari

Nothing wrong with her, right guys?

Took me about an hour to scroll through that.

[LowerWolf]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Think I've found a winner.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BritCavallari

Nothing wrong with her, right guys?

Still reading ... let me get back to you.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Think I've found a winner.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/BritCavallari

Nothing wrong with her, right guys?

Very afraid to click. Not sure if this is a trap.

Though, I see she's online and I wonder if she's trying to figure out why so many random dudes from different cities are viewing her profile. So long as none of them are from Seattle, she'll probably be all right with it.

Well played, sir.


edit: Okay, I clicked. And scrolled down to see how long (holy crap, I'm still going)...so yeah, I decided to scroll down (seriously, what the hell?) and I immediately saw the words "nutjob" (okay, a second time now) and am pretty much afraid for my life now because she knows what I look like.

Too bad. I think she's actually pretty hot. Even looks good as a brunette and blonde. Unfortunately for her, she also used her actual name as her screenname so here I go to facebook.

Britney has also done some modeling. Okay, I'm a creep.

[Marino]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

The one thing I love about these sites is the ability to move on if a date goes poorly. I had a few dates with this pretty cool girl, but I just couldn't see myself dating her so we will try to be friends. And then the next day after that talk, I started messaging a really cool girl that lives closer to me in Chapel Hill, we have a date for after Christmas.

Do you guys believe that it is important to set up a first date within a week or two of talking to the girl, or to take your time? I always try to set it up within a week or two of the initial conversation.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

The one thing I love about these sites is the ability to move on if a date goes poorly. I had a few dates with this pretty cool girl, but I just couldn't see myself dating her so we will try to be friends. And then the next day after that talk, I started messaging a really cool girl that lives closer to me in Chapel Hill, we have a date for after Christmas.

Do you guys believe that it is important to set up a first date within a week or two of talking to the girl, or to take your time? I always try to set it up within a week or two of the initial conversation.

Within a week or two is the way I go. But it depends on the girl. I've had dates set up within a day or two. Sometimes these girls can be very active with the messaging and if I feel we are vibing and things are moving quickly, I'll ask away.

So, rather than it being a length of time thing, I base it on the conversation. Once it gets to that point that going on a date is the only way you'll learn more about the person, I ask.

[Sandman42]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

The one thing I love about these sites is the ability to move on if a date goes poorly. I had a few dates with this pretty cool girl, but I just couldn't see myself dating her so we will try to be friends. And then the next day after that talk, I started messaging a really cool girl that lives closer to me in Chapel Hill, we have a date for after Christmas.

Do you guys believe that it is important to set up a first date within a week or two of talking to the girl, or to take your time? I always try to set it up within a week or two of the initial conversation.

Depends how the messages are going for me. I normally ask them out within 2-3 days. Some the messages are more sparse so I'll wait a week to ask them. I try to as quick as possible because I know if I wait too long some better looking guy than me will ask her out and then I'm option 2 or 3.

If you ever get a girl who wants to chat on the IM on OKCupid, always do it. Have gotten their number every time I've used that.