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Re: Anyone try online dating sites?
One caveat of online dating that I've experienced so far, is ugly girls get reeeaaaaly brave with the message sending. At least from what I've seen on OKCupid.
I'm not saying I'm Brad Pitt, but some of the golden retrievers that have messaged me makes me wonder what made them think they would have a chance.
Hey, guess I give them an A for effort.Cubs | Bulls | Dolphins | 'Noles
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"Heroes get remembered, but legends never die..."
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Re: Anyone try online dating sites?
As long as you don't text her everyday with "Hey I was thinking of you, how's your day going?" you should be ok. Just don't make her your priority #1. If you have other things to do, do it first.. But don't wake up in the morning and immediately run to the computer to email her.
I made a rule to myself that I don't ever talk to the girl the day after I went out with her. This gives her time to think about you and how the date went. If the date went very well, she'll want you even more with the few extra days you didn't talk to her. and weekends don't count, so if I went out with a girl on Friday, I try to avoid her on Monday. If she asks why you didn't call or email her Monday, say you were busy with work.
I also never call to make a date on a Friday or the weekends. I like to give the girl a few days notice before a date, and I hate hearing "Umm, I'm busy tonight" because then it looks like I'll be home alone with nothing to do. I also ask "Hey are you busy on Friday night?" Never ask "Did you want to go out Friday?" this gives you options to a good response. If she says "No, I'm free, why?" you can say "I wasn't doing anything and wanted to see if you wanted to hang out or grab some dinner" very casually. With the "Busy on a ___ night" question, you're not technically asking her out, so she can't reject you. The only thing she'll respond to is if she's busy.
It's only as complicated as you make it out to be. And please, take my advice, don't ever try to relate what happens in movies to your life, because you will end up seriously disappointed/depressed.
Not all stories end in a happily ever after ending like they do in the movies. That's why you have to take these online dating sites as a fun alternative to dating. You won't find a wife with the first girl you go out with, so don't get yourself attached so quickly. It's like dating in High School. You never assume that the girl you're dating in High School is the girl that you're going to marry 10-20 years in the future. It rarely happens that way. That's how you have to think with these sites.
The girls that sign up for these sites, normally don't go into them thinking,
"OK, I'm going to meet the man of my dreams on this thing" because they know they won't. And they don't want to be disappointed, when all they find is guys wanting to get with them. So they sign up, just for fun. And if something serious comes out of it, it's just an added bonus. But for the most part, they are looking to have fun, go out on a couple dates.. but I'm certain not a single one of them goes looking at profiles thinking "Oh ok, this is the guy I want to marry."
That's how your mentality has to be with them. Go in there, scout some prospects, and the ones that respond, go out and have fun with them. But don't assume that she's the perfect girl you want to marry and bring home to mom. Because a few dates and her online profile won't tell you that she's crazy in the head or has an eating disorder, or something else that's serious. You need more time for those things to develop. You can't rush love.. because if you do, it will only end in disaster.
And there really aren't rules you need to abide to. You just have to put yourself in her place. If you just met someone online, and you go out on a date. And that person calls you everyday asking what you're doing. Would you want to be with that person for the rest of your life knowing that everyday you'll get that same situation? You need to have your own personality, your own agenda in life. You have to have your own objects and goals you want to achieve. Not for her.. BUT FOR YOU.. so that if your girlfriend all of a sudden breaks up with you, it's not the end of the world, because you have other aspirations in life.
That was my problem in high school. I somewhat alienated my friends, and only hung out with this girl everyday my senior year, because I was in "love". I missed Spring Break, I didn't go out with my friends for Prom, basically all I did was hang out with her on a daily basis.
Well guess what? She broke up with me. I was devastated. But the horrible part? Because I didn't really hang out with my friends while I was with her, I didn't have them to help me get over her. I couldn't hang out with them to get my mind off of her. So the whole time I was sulking and only thinking of her instead of hanging out with the boys.
So stop being worried that you're going to be by yourself for the rest of your life, because you have the rest of your life to find somebody.. and eventually you will.
No need to stress over girls, because if you stress over them, they are not worth it. Always remember that. No girl is worth stressing out over unless they are your mother.Last edited by shugknight; 12-10-2012, 12:54 PM.Comment
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The artist formerly known as "13"
"Heroes get remembered, but legends never die..."
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Re: Anyone try online dating sites?
LOL wish I knew. Just uploaded a couple pics and some info about me and after a couple days the hits started coming in.
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Those 3 are the tops so far and just got a notification that 10 people rated me highly. Not sure what that means tho lol Still trying to figure out everything on here.Cubs | Bulls | Dolphins | 'Noles
The artist formerly known as "13"
"Heroes get remembered, but legends never die..."
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I hate living in a low-populated area. Ugh.
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She actually has about 10 pics uploaded, of her with friends and stuff. I just snagged the top one for quickness lolCubs | Bulls | Dolphins | 'Noles
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