Anyone try online dating sites?

[Dog]

Some of you are being ridiculous right now. LOL. I am always going to need VT time. Thats who I am, that's how I am wired (looking at you 13). You guys are looking for some subliminal desire to be single and I don't want that.

Talking in the 3rd person feels strange, enough of that.

We're actually not being ridiculous, you're just being ridiculously dismissive because someone told you that the relationship you're in might not be THE one

[VTPack919]

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Almost as silly as you telling me you are in a lasting relationship but fantasizing about other women naked, and missing drinking and going out with the boys.

If you're in a lasting relationship, those things will be an afterthought, or won't be an issue.

You will be spending that time with her because you want to, not because you see her make sacrifices, so you do too.

Has nothing to do with being wired differently. I can assure you, I love naked women and alcohol just as much as the next guy, but the last relationship I was in, for almost 6 years, I never once cared or thought about either of those things, or even "missed" them. And received both, plenty.

Wow, I am happy for you. I promise you I am not the only man who acts and thinks like a man however. Your posts are making me frustrated because you are judging my relationship by assuming we are the same person. Can't do it anymore.

[CWSapp757]

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Wow, I think I'm gonna have to side with VT on this one. I have been with my current girlfriend for 5 and a half years. I have had opportunities and offers to cheat on my girl and I never have and never will. I love her to death and couldn't see my self ever going anywhere. With that being said, there are definitely times I have missed being single. Rather it is just missing the fun of going out and getting numbers with the boys or whatever. There are certain things that you can not do when you are in a serious relationship and just because I may occasionally miss one or two of those things does not mean that my girl is not the one or that I shouldn't be with her. It just means that I value HER more than those things. But that's just my opinion.

[VTPack919]

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Wow, I think I'm gonna have to side with VT on this one. I have been with my current girlfriend for 5 and a half years. I have had opportunities and offers to cheat on my girl and I never have and never will. I love her to death and couldn't see my self ever going anywhere. With that being said, there are definitely times I have missed being single. Rather it is just missing the fun of going out and getting numbers with the boys or whatever. There are certain things that you can not do when you are in a serious relationship and just because I may occasionally miss one or two of those things does not mean that my girl is not the one or that I shouldn't be with her. It just means that I value HER more than those things. But that's just my opinion.

Oh god, prepare to get hammered. I agree with everything you said however.

[Dog]

But here's the thing. When you find the right girl, none of that should even cross your mind.

I've talked to two different therapists about this issue, too

[VTPack919]

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But here's the thing. When you find the right girl, none of that should even cross your mind.

I've talked to two different therapists about this issue, too

It would cross my mind no matter who I was with, and I can promise you that because I know myself better than you or two therapist do. That is all.

[Dog]

It would cross my mind no matter who I was with, and I can promise you that because I know myself better than you or two therapist do. That is all.

I'm not trying to say I or they *know* you, they just know human nature. Of course you could be the exception to the rule, too--that's possible

[VTPack919]

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I'm not trying to say I or they *know* you, they just know human nature. Of course you could be the exception to the rule, too--that's possible

I figured thinking the way me and Sapp do was more human nature. Isn't it human nature to want multiple sexual partners? (I am not BSing I really think I read that somewhere) Not endorsing that line of thinking, just pointing it out.

[Dog]

I figured thinking the way me and Sapp do was more human nature. Isn't it human nature to want multiple sexual partners? (I am not BSing I really think I read that somewhere) Not endorsing that line of thinking, just pointing it out.

Yes, until a man is in love and in a healthy relationship. But like I said, there are always exceptions to the rule. Not trying to imply anything negative. Just stating what I've been told when I was discussing relationships with a psychologist and a psychiatrist

[CWSapp757]

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I mean, I'm glad we are able to have a more civilized discussion. I understand what you are saying Dog and I do respect your opinion. However, I have taken care of my girl financially, emotionally and do not mess around on herso I just find it really hard to believe that I am not with the right person just because I occasionally miss some things about being single. I feel like I would be in and out of relationships and looking forever if that were the case. I just feel like I am going to have those thoughts and the important thing is that I'm not acting on the thoughts or allowing them to dominate my mind.

[ubernoob]

In all the cases that I know of, that's not true. Obviously no relationship is perfect and there will be little spats here and there, but as far as suppressing urges? No fully healthy relationship that I've experienced or seen has had anyone suppress any feelings of anything. Being single may be easier, but never is it preferential to a healthy relationship.

[VTPack919]

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In all the cases that I know of, that's not true. Obviously no relationship is perfect and there will be little spats here and there, but as far as suppressing urges? No fully healthy relationship that I've experienced or seen has had anyone suppress any feelings of anything. Being single may be easier, but never is it preferential to a healthy relationship.

Agree to disagree here. My grandpa was caught watching MTV spring break when I was little. He and my grandma stayed married for 50 years or so until she died. I am sure he was checking out the talent and I am sure it wasn't the first time he saw something that made him say "Damn if I were single...(and young)".

Im not saying you guys dont have something great. I am just saying judging a relationship based on the way another person feels and transposing your situation on it is really unfair and downright ignorant.

Edit: Uber, that wasn't directed at you bud. I just quoted you out of habit I guess.

[CWSapp757]

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I kind of feel like I'm fighting a losing battle here. Let me try to explain a little using an example: the other day a coworker invited me to her crib where her and three of her homegirls live. Now, as tempting as that was I said no because I know 1) My girl would kill me, 2) I don't want to put myself in that type of position and 3) I know my girl would be hurt if I was chilling at a crib with four chics overnight. But I'm not going to lie and say that for a quick second I didn't think "man if I was single, that would be fun as hell". If that makes my relationship unhealthy or makes me a bad guy, then I guess I'll just have to eat that. I'm proud of myself for not acting on it.

[VTPack919]

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I kind of feel like I'm fighting a losing battle here. Let me try to explain a little using an example: the other day a coworker invited me to her crib where her and three of her homegirls live. Now, as tempting as that was I said no because I know 1) My girl would kill me, 2) I don't want to put myself in that type of position and 3) I know my girl would be hurt if I was chilling at a crib with four chics overnight. But I'm not going to lie and say that for a quick second I didn't think "man if I was single, that would be fun as hell". If that makes my relationship unhealthy or makes me a bad guy, then I guess I'll just have to eat that. I'm proud of myself for not acting on it.

Everything you are saying is normal, IMO. You are fighting a losing battle however. lol.

[ubernoob]

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No worries on the quote.

Not saying that it never happens that I check out other women. I've had plenty of opportunities, and some opportunities that I have no trouble saying that a few of the girls would be "out of my league" so to speak. A couple legitimate models in those opportunities.

That being said, yes I have looked at other women. I'm taken, but not dead or blind... but never once have I said "if only I were single." That goes away when you find the right one.