Anyone try online dating sites?

[Fresh Tendrils]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Just keep reworking your profile. There's a fine line between selling yourself and being arrogant.

Make each message personal. I stayed away from the witty one-liners as I would typically ask them a question about something in their profile or bring up a common hobby/trait we share. Form messaging is easy to do, but even easier to ignore.

Keep adding/changing photos.

Be picky. I only messaged girls that I found attractive and had something in common with. Just because the guys are essentially the ones trying to sell doesn't mean that we have to sell to everybody.

Time of the year is important. Typically Spring/Summer are slow periods anyway. Who wants to shack up right before vacation season?

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Try stripping everything out of your profile except for 5 random facts. I did that for a while and seemed to have better luck. Put 5 fun things about you and leave the rest for conversation.

[NDAlum]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Brutally honest truth: most of it boils down to if you put up pictures that make you look attractive or not. If you're not attractive you just aren't gonna get much attention.

Guys in here...if you're not the best looking person...online dating might not be the best venue for meeting women.

[rangerrick012]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Brutally honest truth: most of it boils down to if you put up pictures that make you look attractive or not. If you're not attractive you just aren't gonna get much attention.

Guys in here...if you're not the best looking person...online dating might not be the best venue for meeting women.

Not to be cocky but I know I'm not an ugly guy lol. I haven't always had that confidence but now I do.

My problem is that I'm average looking. With me in real life it's my personality that attracts people, not just women. I just struggle with translating that into the online dating medium.

[NDAlum]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

There are traits that most (not all, most) women look for and it's either a nice body, attractive face, height...something that gets them on the profile pic. Money is a wildcard that could trump everything if you portray it in your profile...and the girl wanted to date into wealth. Yep some girls do my fiance's friend 100% goes after money. She's hot and her guy is a doofus but rich. He's not even a nice guy to her but he gives her that credit card.

In my opinion, difficulty in online dating would come from not possessing an attractive trait for somebody viewing your profile. Or you could be attempting to attract females who don't feel you are on their level of attractiveness.

It is hard to put your personality into a profile, which is why online dating is a very shallow method. It's just the nature of the beast as it is.

[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Just keep reworking your profile. There's a fine line between selling yourself and being arrogant.

Make each message personal. I stayed away from the witty one-liners as I would typically ask them a question about something in their profile or bring up a common hobby/trait we share. Form messaging is easy to do, but even easier to ignore.

What if... you don't share anything? What would you write to someone who had absolutely no common interests in music or hobbies etc...?

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

What if... you don't share anything? What would you write to someone who had absolutely no common interests in music or hobbies etc...?

Why would that person reply back to you?


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[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Why would that person reply back to you?


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Why wouldn't they? You only date people with identical or similar interests? What if someone is from another country or culture? So you wouldn't date them at all?

How do you break the ice online with someone when you don't seem to have anything in common as far as profiles go?

[TMagic]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I have a line that works pretty well (like pretty much 100% of the time) if you guys want to steal it...

If a girl views your profile, but doesnt message you or "like" your page...you write her saying something along the lines of "Thats messed up." (Referring to her visiting and not messaging)

Maybe add a emoticon. But thats it!

Reply. Every. Time.

Try it.

She'll ask "What is?" or "What do you mean? Lolz"

You have your in. It doesnt come off as something you say to everyone because she DID visit you and leave. And its fun banter.

Then you just take it from there as she is more familiar with you than any other Joe Schmoe shes received a message from.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Why wouldn't they? You only date people with identical or similar interests? What if someone is from another country or culture? So you wouldn't date them at all?



How do you break the ice online with someone when you don't seem to have anything in common as far as profiles go?

If me and another person had absolutely zero common interests, I have no desire to speak to them.

You don't want everything in common but nothing? Expecting a woman to give you a shot when she doesn't find you interesting is very centric-minded.


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[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

If me and another person had absolutely zero common interests, I have no desire to speak to them.

You don't want everything in common but nothing? Expecting a woman to give you a shot when she doesn't find you interesting is very centric-minded.


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First of all, I didn't say we had nothing in common, just nothing in common listed on the profile. There's a big difference there.

Second of all, I'm not sure why you're associating dissimilarity with a lack of interest? There are genres, arts, philosophies I find interesting despite the fact that I do not personally indulge in them, or believe in them. You've really never approached a girl that was different from you? Not once? No offense but that is kind of sad. There's a lot of amazing people out there that you're missing out on, just because they like different rock bands than you, or don't eat the same type of food? Come on.

[kingkilla56]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I have a line that works pretty well (like pretty much 100% of the time) if you guys want to steal it...

If a girl views your profile, but doesnt message you or "like" your page...you write her saying something along the lines of "Thats messed up." (Referring to her visiting and not messaging)

Maybe add a emoticon. But thats it!

Reply. Every. Time.

Try it.

She'll ask "What is?" or "What do you mean? Lolz"

You have your in. It doesnt come off as something you say to everyone because she DID visit you and leave. And its fun banter.

Then you just take it from there as she is more familiar with you than any other Joe Schmoe shes received a message from.

Cool, now all I need to do is become a chiseled greek god in my profile pics.

[CMH]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

First of all, I didn't say we had nothing in common, just nothing in common listed on the profile. There's a big difference there.

Second of all, I'm not sure why you're associating dissimilarity with a lack of interest? There are genres, arts, philosophies I find interesting despite the fact that I do not personally indulge in them, or believe in them. You've really never approached a girl that was different from you? Not once? No offense but that is kind of sad. There's a lot of amazing people out there that you're missing out on, just because they like different rock bands than you, or don't eat the same type of food? Come on.

You said you had nothing in common at all. Never said anything about only on the profile.

That's what I was commenting on. Not sure what rock bands or cultures have to do with this.


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[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

You said you had nothing in common at all. Never said anything about only on the profile.

That's what I was commenting on. Not sure what rock bands or cultures have to do with this.


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Uhhh... This is a thread about online dating, and the post I was originally responding to, and quoted, was about using the profile as a basis for a message.

Here it is again:

Make each message personal. I stayed away from the witty one-liners as I would typically ask them a question about something in their profile or bring up a common hobby/trait we share. Form messaging is easy to do, but even easier to ignore.

[CMH]

Anyone try online dating sites?

Uhhh... This is a thread about online dating, and the post I was originally responding to, and quoted, was about using the profile as a basis for a message.



Here it is again:

You're right. And I knew that. Not sure why I added that. The point I was trying to make is you said you had nothing in common.

I asked why would anyone respond back.

You followed that up by explaining how you're interested in different cultures, etc. But that an interest you would obviously share.

So I'm still wondering why you would want to talk to someone that has no similar interests as you?

If you shared nothing in common, why would a woman find you interesting?

Going off about dating people that are different isn't the same. My girlfriend is different from me but the reason we can talk and do things is because we have similar interests. If we didn't, how would we ever go out on a date? We wouldn't want to do anything the other wants to do and the relationship would end.

I think maybe you were trying to say something else and then threw in things to support your position.

Edit: and I should add that I also likely misunderstood what you were trying to say. I think.


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