Anyone try online dating sites?

[mgoblue]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Well I met my fiancee off of Okcupid, as far as what to say on the first message, try pulling something from their profile. From what I hear, girls get so many messages from guys just saying "whats up"...

I say... Hey, I'm [Insert your name here]. Then ask about a topic that they mention multiple times and seem to care about.

My last three I sent out...
Hey, I'm ####. So what are some of your favorite country songs right now?
Mentioned country music is her life.
Hey, I'm ####. What kind of work are you wanting to do in video?
Majoring in some kind of videography
Hey, I'm ####. So have you been able to travel to any exotic places with your job?
Travels often for work.

I got visits from all three and a message back from one. I'm about a 6 so I don't consider not getting a response back from two of them a failure. It shows you at least read their profile and tried. Whether you get a message back we all know is if they find your attractive.

That's what I would do. In my messages I'd mention stuff they referred to during earlier communications (in eHarmony, so you had quizzes and crap). I'd also throw in stuff I was doing or things in my life as they apply.

IMO it makes you seem the most normal/interesting vs. the boring guys who send messages to everyone.

[ubernoob]

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The main thing is don't force it, and be natural. Also don't be looking for a girlfriend right away. That's just not how life works.

I talked to my fiancee for around 3 months before we even met up for a drink - granted I still lived in DC for the first couple weeks we talked.

If you come off as sounding unnatural and asking what you think they want to hear, it feels canned and won't be worth anyone involved's time.

[Candyman5]

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I think I may have hit the jackpot. I have been talking to this girl a couple of day now on and off and we like a lot of the same stuff. She loves WW2 history, game of thrones and Lord of the Rings along with DC/Marvel stuff. My jaw about hit the floor, lol.

She also wants a PS4, and she is the one that brought this up. I'm still taking it slow but this is the first person I have met on OkCupid or any site for that matter that it seems like there's something there. Wish me luck fellas. It says we have a 80% match rating but I alway think of them as a load of cap but it's true in this situation.

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Ok she brought up Xmen and The guardians of the Galaxy and asked me for my number. I can live with that.

Btw just for a reference she had Game of Thrones and Lord of the rings on her profile so I included those in my first message and we hit it off. So I echo about using something in their profile.

[SinisterAlex]

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Had this girl message me on OKC last night, we talked for a few hours then I noticed that she lived in Edmonton and I live in Vancouver . I thought to myself "Just my luck...".

She seemed like the perfect girl too. The conversation was going so good up until I discovered that. Oh well, there are other women out there.

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

The main thing is don't force it, and be natural. Also don't be looking for a girlfriend right away. That's just not how life works.

I talked to my fiancee for around 3 months before we even met up for a drink - granted I still lived in DC for the first couple weeks we talked.

If you come off as sounding unnatural and asking what you think they want to hear, it feels canned and won't be worth anyone involved's time.

I am not a fan of exchanging numbers right away unless a meet up is happening soon and it's necessary. Just because I don't wanna be bugged or want to bug them on their cell phone. Keeping it to OKC lets everyone receive the message when they have nothing better to do.

[Madman55]

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I was messaging a girl the other night. She had mentioned liking bioshock so i asked her if she had played infinite yet because i just got it. We talked for about an hour and then she went offline and never replied back. Oh well good way to kill some time at 2 am.


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[Sandman42]

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I am not a fan of exchanging numbers right away unless a meet up is happening soon and it's necessary. Just because I don't wanna be bugged or want to bug them on their cell phone. Keeping it to OKC lets everyone receive the message when they have nothing better to do.

I went the other way. Pull them off communication on the site as soon as possible. For all you know some other guy is asking for her number, and they hit it off texting and she drops the conversation with you.

For the girls I've went out with for a while (and my current GF, hard to believe a year just passed) I've gotten their number within 2-3 days tops. Anyone I wait on close to a week, the conversation dies on the site.

[cubsfan203]

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Agree with that ^^^. There's way too much competition on those sites to wait around. The longer you wait, those other guys are taking initiative and putting themselves ahead of you.

I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months now that I met off POF. Once I convinced her to go out with me it's been smooth sailing since then.

[mgoblue]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

I went the other way. Pull them off communication on the site as soon as possible. For all you know some other guy is asking for her number, and they hit it off texting and she drops the conversation with you.

For the girls I've went out with for a while (and my current GF, hard to believe a year just passed) I've gotten their number within 2-3 days tops. Anyone I wait on close to a week, the conversation dies on the site.

On eHarmony you had all the steps of communication working up to email. At that point I'd send an email or two and by then be asking to talk on the phone.

IMO you're wasting time until you actually go on a date with someone. You can click great online or on phone but it can be different in person. Granted that was on eHarmony, so you make it through a bunch of steps prior to email, but I think you guys get the point.

[CMH]

Anyone try online dating sites?

I agree with both.


The advantage to online dating is you know straight off the bat there's a mutual interest. So use it.

Message the person. Find out a couple things. See you click. Ask out on a date. See what day she's available. Then grab the number. Communicate off site till the date. And make sure the date isn't a week later. Set that thing up ASAP.

I avoid asking for a number before agreeing to a date because all you're doing is moving the convo. You're not moving forward. It's a lateral move. And now you're getting into personal space, asking more personal questions better served for the date.

Unless you're asking for the number to set up the date. That's different. But if you're using the number to talk and not establishing a meet up space immediately, you're wasting your time.


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[Feared]

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Yeah. People don't shower, man. I'm not gonna say anything more about that because I think I will end up hurting someone's feelings.

People. Please shower.

Lol, I always assumed women naturally have an inclination to shower at least 2 times a day. Unless they are out of the dating game, and have just let themselves go.


I will say there I have come across people from certain nationalities who don't feel like showering frequently is important.

[Bobhead]

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Lol, I always assumed women naturally have an inclination to shower at least 2 times a day. Unless they are out of the dating game, and have just let themselves go.


I will say there I have come across people from certain nationalities who don't feel like showering frequently is important.

I know a girl who would sometimes go a couple days without showering, and she looked damn beautiful, and smelled fine. It really depends on the person. Perspiration contributes a lot to how much you smell... and some people sweat less than others.

Not brushing your teeth daily seems like a bigger offense, but even then... I'm sure someone somewhere has a truly valid reason, or genuinely gets away with skipping a brush every now and then.

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

You can barely sweat, but unless they are layering on deodorant the pits are gonna start to smell. I don't even wanna know about other areas.

[CMH]

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I know a girl who would sometimes go a couple days without showering, and she looked damn beautiful, and smelled fine. It really depends on the person. Perspiration contributes a lot to how much you smell... and some people sweat less than others.



Not brushing your teeth daily seems like a bigger offense, but even then... I'm sure someone somewhere has a truly valid reason, or genuinely gets away with skipping a brush every now and then.

Girls with their sprays are some of the worst offenders.

Don't let their chemically enhanced scents fool you. Like said above, the funk comes out when it's go time.

Shower at least once a day. Don't give me some natural oil being destroyed crap. There's healthy products out there to replenish.


See, now I'm talking about it.


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[Bobhead]

Re: Anyone try online dating sites?

Girls with their sprays are some of the worst offenders.

Don't let their chemically enhanced scents fool you. Like said above, the funk comes out when it's go time.

Shower at least once a day. Don't give me some natural oil being destroyed crap. There's healthy products out there to replenish.


See, now I'm talking about it.


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She didn't even wear perfume. This was a natural thing lol. I'm saying SHE smelled fine, even first thing in the morning after waking up, and before applying chemicals.