Dealing with rejection

[ProjectRipCity]

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Maybe that's right. Maybe I hate my "game."

But I hate that I need "game" and that a girl just can't like me how I am. I have to go out and act a certain way because that's what they want? Get the hell outta here. (That's not directed at you, but at girls/society).

Feel the same way bro. If men werent the most disgusting idea and immoral thing Id actually consider going the other way...Jk. Unfortunately we have to take what is given to us...Bottom line no ifs or buts about it. Unless you never truely want to be in love. It's not the ****** fault...It's just human behavior.

[Brian Gee]

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I deal with rejection really well. I went to an art school (I'm now an art teacher) and you get used to criticism and rejection in the field...

Anyway, I'm married to a girl who I've been with for 7 years and for the first three months I knew her she turned me down every week at least twice a week. I asked her out for ANYTHING for about three months (she worked behind the counter at a gym) and she kept coming up with excuses. Instead of taking a "hint", I kept asking her out (from coffee to the mall to dinner to a movie...) and then decided that after three months I wasn't going to ask her out anymore. A day later, she asked ME out and now she's taking a nap on the couch in our livingroom.

[Gotmadskillzson]

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You should always be yourself and not what she wants you to be. A woman will either accept you for you or she won't. But don't ever fake being something that your not.

People faking it, never last.

[GSW]

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My issue is I take things way too slowly. Not that I build something up so much that it becomes a "friendship over a relationship" kind of thing, but rather somebody else ends up pulling a fast one and woos her to the point that a friendship is what it becomes.

My other problem is I act like it's okay, when really it's not. Dividends have not paid for me yet. The worst part is I had a girlfriend for two years, then I had to move to college. I'm sorry, but I can't handle long-distance relationships for too many reasons, trust being one of them.

There was a girl that I hung out with a lot last year (I spoke about her on here). She has a boyfriend, but I feel like I may be "next in line" with her, though I don't like it to appear that way. This year I'm actually fishing, and there's another one that I'm doing the slow progression with. The thing about it is that I want to make sure that they like me and that they like me for who I am, because I would much rather be friends in the end than have awkward moments all of the time because I decided to make that one stupid move. It's happened before and I've learned from it.

We'll see where things go from here.

you and I are so similar its scary.

[ryan36]

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Exactly@ Kerowack....I had a gf who was there for me all the time and adored me, I'm lucky...but sometimes it's just not interesting, and being too nice makes it too easy to take someone for granted. We dated for a year and a half and there was no "spark." She was a childhood friend, and I'd known here since I was 5 (I'm 26 now) There's no risk in putting someone off who's not gonna go anywhere. The minute you maybe showed she was gonna have to earn some attention she asked you out! And now you're happily married. MAKE WOMEN EARN YOU!

[Blzer]

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Maybe that's right. Maybe I hate my "game."

But I hate that I need "game" and that a girl just can't like me how I am. I have to go out and act a certain way because that's what they want? Get the hell outta here. (That's not directed at you, but at girls/society).

Unfortunately, the one that normally likes you is probably the fat geek.

[Po Pimp]

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Its all a part of growing up. Every man has been rejected by that "one" girl in his life. For every female out there that wonders why she can't find a good man, there was a chick in his past that made him that way more than likely.

But like someone said, you gotta be true to yourself. If she's not feeling you for being who you are, it will never work in the long run.

[auburntigersfan]

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ProjectRipCity:

Aren't you the guy that said if USC didn't with the Championship last year you would be gone from OS forever?

[KingV2k3]

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Time truly does heal all wounds...

The theory of the "half life of relationships" says that it'll take you about 50% of the time you spent together to get over her...which in your case should have happened already...

Dating is just that...dating...it's not a relationship...it's supposed to be fun and if it's not then it a poor fit...nothing more complicated than that...

Yuo can't epect to make the "Love Connection" with everyone you're phisically attracted to...

Many women in your generation seem to play the "I don't know who I am / what I want" cards well into their thirties...

So lighten up on yourself, buckle your chinstrap and get back in the game...experience is the best teacher when it comes to this sort of thing...

Have FUN and good luck!

[SuperBowlNachos]

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Hit it and quit it

[Brian Gee]

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My best advice is to realize that you WILL get laid again and there are SO MANY women out there who are desperately in search of exactly what you are looking for. Guys are really bad with breakups because they picture the girl banging a billion other guys and picture themselves shopping for kleenex. On top of that, sometimes they actually like the girl for who she is and that's the cherry on top.

You can take many dents along the way as long as you don't let some girl total you.

[ubernoob]

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After reading the OP... I fail to see any sign of rejection there.

I'm the same age as some of these posters and y'all get butt hurt too much. Get out of the house and deal with women more. You know how many are out there if you put the controller down right? :P

[Herbsinator]

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Hey, I (20) recently went on this date with this girl (19)

Until last night I was really confident in myself, but now I'm really butt hurt. Lets just say me and her are complete opposites. I love sports, she hates sports. She believes in her religion, I believe in nothing. Different music styles ect.

She had this uncanny ability to make me feel extremely bored and nervous. I actually started watching the Laker game on the plasmas inside the resturant. But other than that I could of not of been less cool. I would say I'm a little better looking than average, but my question is...Was it my confidence? Or would she atleast keep me around if I was tremendously great looking? Not that I care cuz we are polar opposites...Again guys...We have all been butt hurt. Well atleast most of us have.

Does anyone else have a story so I dont feel like such crap? lol

Why do you care if she rejected you? It sounds like she wasn't very cool so obviously she isn't worth your time at all. If she made you feel bored and nervous, why are you sweating it? LOL. Honestly...just reread what you posted...what about that makes you want to see her again? Hell, you should have rejected her!

[Herbsinator]

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I'm going through a hard time myself. This girl that I have talked to pretty much every single night for a pretty long time now (around 2 years or so), pulled the "I can't see us ever being more than friends" card the other night.. I just don't understand why she isn't attracted to me. We like all the same things.. UK basketball, Nascar, wrestling.. same movies, same foods.. have the same sense of humor.. if I was a girl, I would be THIS girl.. But yet, she just apparently isn't attracted to me at all and it really crushed me. I've been fooling myself for awhile now playing off my previous failed attempts at trying to go out with her. Everytime I'd ask if she wanted to do something, go to the movies, go to a Nascar race (and you have no idea how much she is in love with Nascar.. she'd marry Dale Jr right now if he were here...), she'd always have something to do.. always. I kept telling myself that she probably really was busy and it couldn't be that she was rejecting me.. Guess I was wrong...

I saw her at a wedding last weekend and when we were outside, I asked if she wanted to hang out for awhile, and she was basically on another planet or something because it's like I wasn't even there when I was talking to her.. When she got on the internet later that night, I let her know how pathetic it was for somebody to treat me like that, after how much I have done for her and how good a friend I have been to her.. She was like "honestly.. I had my eye on somebody at the wedding and I guess I wasn't paying attention", followed by the "I can't see us ever being more than friends, and hope we can stay good friends".. I haven't took it well at all because this is somebody that I've invested years into and really could of seen myself settling down with her.. I couldn't even imagine being just friends because everytime we'd be around each other, I know that it'd be ridiculously awkward for me..

So yeah, there's my pathetic story..

Wow...haven't we all been in this situation at one time or another? I'm a super nice guy and really do care about people, so sometimes I let girls just walk all over me. The thing that I've tried to work on is learning the difference between girls that just want to be friends and girls that want to date. Obviously I want to bang all the girls I meet, but I try not to let those feelings cloud my judgment. You have to read the girl.

If you have been hung up on this girl for the last 2 years, then you have probably missed a lot of opportunities with girls who actually wanted to date you.

You can't let these girls treat you like a little bitch. I'm really good friends with one girl, and she ever ignored me like that girl did to you because she was going after some guy. (First of all, I probably wouldn't care that she was going after some guy...and I would probably wingman for her, if she wanted.) But I would set her straight just like I would any of my other friends. Just because she is a girl, it doesn't mean that you have to bend over backwards for her.

But the point is...if we aren't going out on dates, etc...then I pretty much accept that we are just friends. Which is cool...if you accept that and secretly don't want to date her.

[tehova]

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She must want me to choke her